"Avoid Dating Someone From This Profession": Daters Share the 18 Careers That Are Instant Red Flags for Potential Relationships

We’ve all been there — imagining someone with the perfect looks, personality, and job. But sometimes, once you start dating them, you quickly realize their career is far from ideal... like, not at all. So, before you swipe right on that pilot or lawyer — or find yourself falling for your own Carmy from The Bear — let’s get real about what dating them is truly like.

Recently, user scary_drawing8175 posted in the r/askreddit community: "What’s the one profession you would never date?" Here are the 18 jobs they strongly advise against dating:

1. "Pilots. I dated a pilot once, and they were like a group of grown-up frat boys. They ALL cheated with flight attendants. They were all incredibly full of themselves. But how would you know someone's a pilot, you might ask? Don’t worry. It’ll be the FIRST thing they tell you."

2. "I’d steer clear of people who work in bars or nightclubs. Their work hours would make it way too hard for me."

—hordrama

3. "I’m a cop; I married a cop. And, I still warn others not to date cops."

4. "Firefighters/EMTs. I’ve watched too many of my friends get cheated on because they couldn’t stay faithful while on shift at the firehouse overnight."

—honeyb90

5. "If you're not in the film industry, AVOID dating someone who works in it."

6. "Anyone who calls themselves a CEO and Founder on LinkedIn. Just exhausting."

—Spiritualnerdy

7. "Politicians — way too much drama and not enough truth!"

—hifek

"I’ve been through it. It was awful, full of sweet words and promises. But nothing ever came of it."

—Glitter_Prins

8. "Bartender… too many alcoholics just enabling themselves. I learned that the hard way and now have a friend going through the same thing."

9. "MUSICIANS. They work odd hours and are always off touring. Being with them means constantly dealing with the risk of infidelity and unstable income, so they’re often unable to contribute financially... it’s a tough ride."

—bstyledevi

10. "Chefs. They face immense pressure and have a demanding schedule, too."

—mediocre-spice

11. "Psychiatrist — trust me. The manipulation goes to a whole new level. That’s all I’ll say."

12. "Theater folks. I’ll admit, part of it is because my ex was one, so they’re forever tainted in my eyes. For her, it was more of a hobby than a career, but whatever."

"From what I’ve seen, they all just end up hooking up with each other."

—nmad95

13. "Lawyers. They put in outrageously long hours, and their job is all about conflict, which can spill over into their personal lives as well."

—Block_Of_Saltiness

14. "Military. (I’m in the military.)"

15. "Car salespeople. Every single one I’ve met has been a skilled liar. My ex worked as a mechanic at a dealership, and he’d tell me all sorts of wild stories about those salesmen."

—Nomailforu

16. "I’m a nurse, and there’s no way I would ever date a doctor."

17. "Professors. Their egos are out of control."

18. "Anyone working in HR."

"What’s the appeal of that job? You just know they weren’t popular back in school."

—ZiasMom