Older Generations Believe These 13 Outdated Wedding "Traditions" From the Past Are FAR Superior to Today's Wedding Trends, And I Need Your Thoughts

Not long ago, we shared a post where older members of the Mytour Community discussed the traditional "wedding rules" that have faded away — and some of them feel these customs should make a return. Their opinions sparked quite a debate, so now it's your chance to voice whether you agree or disagree.

What do YOU think about these old "wedding rules"? It's time to cast your vote...

1. "I got married in 1989, at a time when the fashion was to wear pink wedding dresses."

—68, New Mexico

2. "I miss the tradition of getting a (guaranteed) piece of wedding cake. Nowadays, people serve cupcakes, donuts, or other treats that aren't the classic wedding cake. I understand that wedding cakes are costly, but I can get a cupcake from any bakery."

—luckycloud901

3. "It used to be considered impolite to request money as a gift. Brides had purses to discreetly hold checks and cash, but the couple never directly asked for it. Now, some people have GoFundMe pages for their honeymoon. My mom recently attended a wedding where every table had a QR code card linked to the bride's Venmo."

"Personally, I still find it pretty tacky, but I don't mind giving money since it eliminates the need for shopping. It's the begging part that really bothers me."

—morgandemkey

4. "Back in the '60s, when I was growing up, you invited your entire family, at least all your immediate aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents, of course. The more distant relatives (great aunts, great uncles, etc.) were optional. Your parents would also invite some business colleagues and a few neighbors. In total, there might have been 150 people attending."

—70, Illinois

5. "Children were always included."

—70, Illinois

6. "Thank-you notes. Two of the last three wedding presents I gave went unacknowledged. When I married in 1999, I spent at least a week hand-writing thank-you notes for every gift, detailing the present and explaining how we would use it in our married life. These days, even an email would be appreciated. I don't mean to sound condescending, but I know people appreciate any form of gratitude!"

—demoncopperhead

7. "The main difference between weddings now and those 20–30 years ago is that weddings used to be much more relaxed. No one cared about what you wore — even if someone wore white. The expectation was simply that you dressed nicely."

—52, USA

8. "Wearing a black dress was seen as disrespectful because it implied you weren't supporting the marriage and felt like it was a loss, as if the bride/groom had died by entering the union."

—31, Canada

9. "Back in 1974, fifty years ago, we never sent out save-the-date cards. We simply told people in person."

—pastellight93

10. "We didn't have destination weddings with lengthy itineraries — asking for that much time and money is excessive. You're requiring guests to take multiple days off from work, cover the costs of long-distance, multi-day travel, and pack several formal or semi-formal outfits for a multi-day 'celebration of your love.' Chill out."

—55, California

11. "Gifts used to be opened during the reception, which wasn’t as much of a party as it is now."

—66, Tennessee

12. "Bachelorette parties were a one-night event, not a vacation, and if someone couldn’t make it, they weren’t ostracized from the wedding or their friend group."

—52, USA

And finally...

13. "We were also mindful not to exceed our budget. We managed to get married for less than $500."

—59, Minnesota