20 Mistakes That Drive Him Away

Everyone wants their partner to boast about them and feel proud when talking to others. Thus, complimenting another man's good looks or chivalry in front of your partner can make him feel inadequate. It signals jealousy towards someone else's relationship and an unfair comparison, which is not conducive to a healthy relationship. Trust and respect should be the foundation. This approach may quickly damage his self-esteem, ladies!

'Down times' refer not only to his appearance but also to his failures and mistakes in life. Beyond his family, you are his dearest one, especially in tough times or career setbacks, you're the first he thinks of. Instead of pointing out his faults, be considerate of his feelings, offer encouragement, and stand by him to provide comfort.

And if his looks have faded, remember the love for everything about him in the past? Thus, share or suggest gently for positive changes!

This is a surefire reason for your current partner's discontent. No man wants to hear endless stories about your ex. Whether it's how chivalrous he was, the cafe you two loved, and so on. Oh no, you're inadvertently causing cracks in your relationship!
Your partner might feel compared to your ex, which is far from comfortable.

This topic is an eternal source of headache for him. Questions like: 'Do you think I look fat? I feel I've gained weight', 'My legs aren't slim', or 'This top looks terrible on me'... and so on. In reality, guys don't focus too much on whether you are thin or plump, because love overshadows these concerns. Your appearance, whether you gain weight or your skin worsens, doesn't bother him, he loves you for who you are.

Be yourself, vibrant and adorable as you are, and he won't be able to take his eyes off your beauty. So, let's not let those complaints make him more 'fed up' with you!

It's well-known that to him, his mother is the most wonderful person. He often holds her up as the ideal model for his girlfriend. It's understandable since you know well that he can't compare to your father either.

You might feel annoyed because his mother is overly attentive or critical and complain about it, but remember, she's the one who has cared for and nurtured him to this day. So, appreciate that and make sure he doesn't feel torn between his mother and his love.

In love, every girl desires to be pampered and obeyed by her other half. Indeed, this is also a preference for men, as they always want to prove their masculinity to their woman. However, this does not mean men enjoy becoming an unwilling servant to their love.

Commanding and bossing your boyfriend around to do this or that, especially in front of others, is the quickest way for a woman to push the man she loves away forever. Remember, men value their pride highly; they can't help but become furious when turned into a service machine like that.

'Gossiping' has long been considered a natural trait of women. However, as an adult, you need to control your actions and words. Some stories should be observed from a distance, and some secrets must be kept to yourself.

Men appreciate women who are articulate, but they are quite allergic to those who excel in gossip and have the habit of spreading stories. Such women make them feel insecure and difficult to trust.

Every girl dreams of spending every moment with her beloved, but reality shows this can impact both personal lives and careers, leading to quicker burnout in the relationship.

Forcing your boyfriend to stick by you every second turns your love into a nightmare for him and drives you apart.

This habit is quite common among many and is the most displeasing to their men. No matter how deep your love, avoid being possessive and controlling. Instead, give your boyfriend his own space, respect his personal life and his friendships.

There may be friends of your partner you're not fond of, but don't force a breakup with them. Most importantly, avoid unjustified jealousy towards his platonic friends of the opposite sex.

Most women desire to be cared for and protected by their man, and men enjoy the feeling of being a solid support for their loved one. Thus, when women imply they don't need men to live well, it can make men feel undervalued and irrelevant in the relationship.

Men feel exhausted and insecure around women who are ready to deceive them, and even more so when they witness these women lying to family or betraying friends. When a woman fails to maintain integrity in close relationships, it casts doubt on the trustworthiness of their romantic partnership.

Silence is golden, especially in moments that don't require words. Excessive talking isn't always beneficial. In times of sorrow, instead of bombarding him with questions and advice, a look in the eyes and a tight embrace say more.

Small gestures often carry more weight than a thousand words. Frequent declarations of love can also diminish their value over time. True love isn't always about the words spoken.

Men appreciate feeling owned to a certain extent, being fit into someone else's frame, but only within reason. Women, however, often pay too much attention to trivial matters, crossing boundaries unnecessarily.

There's no need to be overly wary if he occasionally spends the night out with friends and keeps you informed. Excessive restraint will only make him seek escape and distance from you.

Caring and looking after your loved one is part of a loving relationship, showcasing affection and mutual concern. However, over-nurturing and attending to his every deed and action can make him feel suffocated and bound.

Men cherish their freedom and space. Thus, managing him in a nanny-like manner will lead to his disinterest and efforts to avoid you.

Many women believe their love has the power to change a man. The truth is, no man wants to alter his essence for someone else, not even for you. Even if he tries to live up to your expectations, he'll eventually grow tired and feel like he's losing his identity.

This leads to a growing suspicion that you do not love him for who he is, inevitably causing him to drift away and the relationship to eventually end.

In love, care must always be accompanied by efforts to nurture the bond from both sides. If one partner fails to engage or build the relationship, it inevitably leads to an emotional gap between them.

This can result in discord and misunderstandings. And if you treat him merely as a placeholder to fill a void within you, without earnestly fostering affection and bridging the distance between you two... This will surely result in a lack of love and appreciation from him, with his eventual distancing being inevitable.

Your perfectionism and critical eye, always dissatisfied with his actions, focusing on his flaws to criticize... This can make him feel uncomfortable, hurt, and less confident around you.

Over time, this may lead to his resentment and discomfort with you. Remember, while it's positive to help him improve, lacking tact can lead to the relationship's breakdown!

Threatening a breakup or divorce is akin to pointing a metaphorical gun at him, a move you'll regret due to its impact: feeling disrespected, unloved, and challenged.

This declaration is like stepping one foot out of the relationship, leaving the decision to stay up to him. Men admit, even if breakup wasn't on their mind, such statements from their partner, delivered in discontent, can lead them to instantly consider leaving.

You agreed to date him out of pity, feeling the need to protect and shelter him. This pity is, in reality, the basis of your feelings for him.

Understand that this sentiment will extinguish his affection for you. Men have their own pride. He didn't approach you for pity, whether emotional or material, but out of genuine love. Discovering that your involvement stems from pity will anger him and deteriorate your relationship.

Women may try to keep their partner from leaving by changing themselves, updating their look, cooking, taking care of all household chores, and being more passionate in bed. You're always there whenever your partner needs you. Yet, men still choose to leave.

The main reason is that men never want to be with someone they cannot respect. If you always do everything for him, make him your number one priority, and put yourself last, he will never respect you.

Smart women know their worth and maintain their dignity in any relationship. A woman with her own opinions won't do anything she dislikes at a man's behest. Women who love themselves won't prioritize a man over themselves and are ready to leave if he treats them poorly.