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Throughout history, the practice of assessing spouses' ages has been integral to Vietnamese culture. The hope is that this will lead to a harmonious and prosperous married life, resolving conflicts that may arise due to age or destiny.
Assessing the compatibility of spouses' ages based on their birthdates to determine harmony or discord.
1. Three Factors to Determine Spousal Compatibility
To assess whether spouses are compatible or not, we need to consider the following factors:
* Age: There are 12 ages, starting from Rat and ending with Pig: Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog, Pig. In astrology, they're referred to as the Twelve Earthly Branches or simply the 12 animals of the Chinese zodiac.
* Destiny: There are 5 elements in destiny: Metal, Wood, Water, Fire, Earth. This is known as the Five Elements theory.
* Zodiac Signs: Within each age, there are 2 zodiac signs: the main sign (birth sign) and the auxiliary sign (supporting sign).
If spouses are the same age, they share the same birth sign but different auxiliary signs. Even if spouses have different ages, they can still marry if their zodiac signs and destinies align. To ensure this, you should also consider the Heavenly Stems of both spouses.
Heavenly Stems consist of 10 elements: Jia, Yi, Bing, Ding, Wu, Ji, Geng, Xin, Ren, and Gui.
Therefore, when assessing spousal compatibility, you first examine their ages, then their destinies, zodiac signs, and finally the Heavenly Stems. If you score 2 out of 3 points, you can marry and have a harmonious married life.
2. Assessing Spousal Age Compatibility Based on Age, Destiny, and Zodiac Signs
1. Assessing Age
Consider the following when assessing age:
- 6 harmful age pairs (Six Harmful Pairs - These are all unfavorable age pairs): Rabbit harms Dragon, Tiger harms Pig, Tiger harms Snake, Monkey harms Pig, Rat harms Goat, and Ox harms Horse.
- 6 conflicting age pairs (Six Conflicts - These are also unfavorable age pairs): Rabbit conflicts with Pig, Snake conflicts with Dog, Ox conflicts with Goat, Tiger conflicts with Monkey, Rat conflicts with Rooster, and Dragon conflicts with Horse.
- 6 compatible age pairs (Six Matches - Favorable age pairs): Tiger matches with Pig, Snake matches with Pig, Rat matches with Ox, Rabbit matches with Dog, Dragon matches with Rooster, and Horse matches with Goat.
- 3 age triplets (Triplet Matches): Pig-Dog-Snake, Ox-Rooster-Rat, Dog-Rabbit-Horse, and Goat-Monkey-Tiger
Age Lookup Table by Birth Year
In cases where the ages of the two spouses do not fall into the above categories, they have a normal age relationship, neither harmonious nor conflicting.
2. Assessing Destiny
Remember the rules for assessing destiny:
- Rule 1: It's good when the husband's destiny clashes with the wife's destiny
- Rule 2: It's bad when the wife's destiny clashes with the husband's destiny
- Rule 3: Spouses with matching destinies are compatible
In Feng Shui,
- Five Elements Generating Cycle (bringing auspicious outcomes): Wood generates Fire, so a husband with Wood destiny marrying a wife with Fire destiny is favorable. Earth generates Metal, so a wife with Earth destiny marrying a husband with Metal destiny is beneficial. Water generates Wood, so a wife with Water destiny marrying a husband with Wood destiny is advantageous. Fire generates Earth, so a wife with Fire destiny marrying a husband with Earth destiny is propitious.
- Five Elements Controlling Cycle: Wood controls Earth, Earth controls Water, Water controls Fire, Fire controls Metal, Metal controls Wood.
Remember the principle of assessing destiny to determine suitable ages. For instance, it's favorable if the husband has Fire destiny and the wife has Metal destiny (according to principle 1).
3. Assessing Zodiac Signs
According to the age lookup table, you can determine your zodiac sign based on your birth year. Remember, spouses of the same age share the same birth sign but have different auxiliary signs. To determine whether the zodiac signs of two spouses are compatible or conflicting, refer to the information below.
Ancient Terminologies:
- Positive terms: Heavenly Doctor, Annual Renewal, Vital Energy, and Revival
- Negative terms: Fatal Star, Disaster, Six Killings, Five Ghosts.
Mytour updates both favorable and unfavorable transformations of the 8 zodiac signs below. The key point to note is that 'kiền' and 'càn' are interchangeable, so if the auxiliary sign for male or female is labeled as 'kiền,' understand that it actually refers to 'càn' for comparison with the 8 transformations of the zodiac signs.
When it comes to marriage matters, people don't use the birth sign because it's only considered in destiny. Therefore, only compare the auxiliary signs of the two spouses to see if they are compatible.
4. Assessing Heavenly Stems
Principle:
- The husband's birth stem generating the wife's birth stem is extremely favorable.
- The husband's birth stem matching the wife's birth stem is good.
- The husband's birth stem conflicting with the wife's birth stem is normal and okay.
- If the husband's birth stem is the same as the wife's, it's neutral, neither good nor bad.
- The wife's birth stem conflicting with the husband's birth stem is very unfavorable.
Heavenly Stems Birth - Match - Conflict - Clash Table
II. Specific Examples of Assessing Spousal Ages
For example, the wife is born in 1991, and the husband is born in 1990.
Assessing Age
1991 is the Year of the Goat (Mùi) and 1990 is the Year of the Horse (Ngọ). Goat and Horse belong to the 6 compatible age pairs.
Assessing Destiny
Both the wife and husband have Earth destinies, so their destinies do not clash.
Assessing Zodiac Signs
Wife born in the Year of the Goat has the auxiliary sign as 'Càn'
Husband born in the Year of the Horse has the auxiliary sign as 'Khảm'
Assessing Heavenly Stems
The husband has the Heavenly Stem 'Canh'. The wife has the Heavenly Stem 'Tân'. The compatibility of the husband's Heavenly Stem with the wife's Heavenly Stem is normal.
According to ancient beliefs, spouses with compatible ages will help the family live harmoniously, achieve success in careers, and encounter more luck. Conversely, spouses with conflicting ages will experience discord, face obstacles in their careers. Knowing if spouses have conflicting ages, you should actively seek ways to resolve it for a happier family life. Therefore, checking the ages of spouses is necessary. The results shared by Mytour here are for reference only, so don't be too concerned or worried about this.
Typically, assessing a woman's fortune will be reflected through her appearance, facial features, and speech. You can read a woman's fortune to evaluate whether they are good or bad people and make suitable friendships.
