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Now, she's a department head, a mother of two. After years of struggle, she feels lucky to have met her current husband. Reflecting on past memories, she feels a pang of pain, but now she smiles because of the happiness in her current life.
Greetings, everyone! Especially to all the girls who have or are experiencing situations similar to mine in the past.
When I was your age, at 18 or 20, I had countless dreams and aspirations, many plans for myself. At 21, I also had a boyfriend. He was a graduate student, four years older than me, with a job at a state-owned company. His family was fairly affluent and well-regarded. However, all the good things, dreams, and aspirations were extinguished when I turned 21 and became pregnant with his child, leading us to marry. Upon learning the news, my family was deeply saddened because I used to be a good child. For 12 years, I consistently excelled academically and achieved high scores on my university entrance exams. On that day, my parents were filled with joy and pride about me. Although our family was poor farmers, my father always encouraged me to strive for success. During my three years of university, I also achieved fairly high academic results and worked extra to pay my tuition fees. I supported myself without asking for money from my parents. I also made a promise to myself to strive for the sake of my family, to escape poverty, and to provide a fulfilling life for my parents.
But until she met him, she forgot herself and lost her identity. Life after marriage was no different from hell. He promised to let her continue her education after childbirth, but it was far from the truth. Every girl dreams of being proposed by the one she loves, but she was not only denied that but also accused of clinging to him. The wedding day, supposed to be the happiest day for a girl, was the most miserable for her, a day she would never forget. Coming from a village 200km away from his, she had to wake up at 2 am to do her makeup, leave the house by 6 am, and only return home to the groom's house after 10 pm. After the feast, as everyone from her family left, she found herself crying alone in a strange land. She was pregnant and yet not allowed to rest, still had to greet relatives, friends, while her husband was drunk, his mother took her friends and sisters-in-law out to eat. Meanwhile, she was forced to clean up the house all by herself. It was a dreadful moment, tears flowing endlessly, as the first day at her husband's house turned out to be like that.
As a new daughter-in-law, she couldn't just grab a bowl and sit down to eat. Those customs were very outdated at that time. She was hungry and felt like fainting. Luckily, she went to get a bowl for her nieces and nephews to eat, saw a pot of sticky rice in the bathroom, and ate while crying. After that, she went to call her husband to go wash his hair, but he said she could go by herself. How would she know where to go? She even had to take off her hairpin and wash her hair in the well. At dinner with her sisters-in-law (yes, they were called sisters), her mother-in-law served them generously without sparing a thought for her. She ate half a bowl because she was tired and homesick. She asked for permission to go to bed and cried. Her husband continued to eat innocently, then even sang afterward... Days as a daughter-in-law at her husband's house meant waking up at 5 am to clean and go to the market to cook breakfast for everyone. Despite being pregnant, she still had to do the laundry for the whole family, even for her husband's sister, who was her age, despite the fact that they had a washing machine. Day by day, she felt like a character from a tragic novel, while her husband often went out early and came back late. Pregnancy made her thinner and thinner.
And on that fateful night when she went to the bathroom and slipped, she lost her baby. Since then, her husband's family treated her even worse, and her husband seemed to grow tired of her. After 8 months without conceiving, perhaps due to her health and the distance between the two, at the age of 22, she never imagined she'd had a husband already. Her mother-in-law insisted she divorce so her son could marry someone else from a more suitable family. The harsh words her mother-in-law directed at her haunted her even in her dreams. Finally, she liberated herself. Her husband quickly signed the divorce papers, and 4 months later, happily married someone else.
She stood up for herself, went back to school, and finished her degree. She took contract jobs and spent time learning foreign languages. A year later, she got a job at a foreign company. She was very happy then, able to support her parents, take care of herself, and beautify herself. Her life took a different turn after those bitter and humiliating days. She realized that before loving someone else, one must love oneself first, cherish oneself first, as no one loves you more than yourself and your parents. Only when she could handle life on her own did she dare to tell her parents the truth. When her parents learned the truth, they cried and encouraged her a lot. And life is never unfair to anyone. He is 5 years older and studied construction. He and his family knew about her situation and understood and cared for her a lot.
Now, she is the head of the department and a mother of two children. After many years of hardship, she feels fortunate to have met her current husband. Reflecting on old memories, she still feels a pang of pain, but now she smiles because of the happiness in her present life. Whenever she encounters her ex-husband's acquaintances, she knows that she, as his later wife, was greatly feared and looked down upon by her ex-husband's family. Perhaps it's all about destiny. If only her ex-husband had been stronger back then, things might have been different.
Through this, she also urges men to uphold their principles. As men, if they cannot protect the ones they love, they are incapable of accomplishing anything. And for the girls who have been or are like her before, she encourages them to be strong. If you can hold on, you can let go. She has realized this albeit a bit late, but it's never too late to start a new, better life.
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