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Crafting Continued Principles of Dialogue, concise version 1
I. Principle of Communication
- The saying 'He talks about chickens, she talks about ducks' refers to the phenomenon of inconsistency and misunderstanding, leading to communication breakdowns. To avoid this, conversations must stay on topic and address common concerns. This is the principle of communication.
II. Methodology of Expression
a. Winding like a vine - rambling, lengthy, lacking focus. Hesitant like holding a sesame seed in the mouth - hesitant, unclear, lacking coherence. Speaking in this manner adversely affects communication effectiveness: it fails to convey intended messages clearly, causing difficulties for recipients. In dialogue, it is crucial to speak concisely, clearly, and coherently.
III. Principle of Courtesy
a. In the tale of The Beggar and the Boy, both characters, the beggar and the boy, feel they have received something from each other. The character 'I' does not disdain the poor beggar even though he has nothing to give; thus, the beggar feels respected, empathized with, and both are satisfied.
b. A valuable lesson in communication can be drawn from this story: being considerate and respectful to others is essential.
IV. Practice
Question 1
a. A greeting surpasses the feast: an attitude of affection and politeness is more important than the material value of the feast.
b.
Words cost nothing to buy
Choose words to speak to each other's satisfaction
=> Polite and courteous words cost nothing but have a great impact.
c.
Who would bend a golden needle
Who is wise would speak gently to each other
A golden needle (a precious item) no one would dare to bend into a fishing hook (an ordinary item), so a wise person (one who understands) should not speak harshly to each other (not commensurate with their value)
--> All the proverbs above advise people to communicate politely and gracefully.
* Consider the following proverbs and folk sayings:
- Gold is tested by fire and coal,
A bell is tested by its sound, a wise person is tested by their words.
- Not getting a piece of meat, just a piece of sticky rice,
But getting words to soothe the heart.
- A clever bird chirps cheerfully,
A wise person speaks gently and is easy to listen to.
Question 2: Direct measures related to the principle of courtesy in dialogue are: speaking modestly, speaking evasively.
Example: When describing someone as unattractive, it's better to say: 'She is not particularly beautiful.'
Question 3:
a. Speak coolly
b. Speak lightly
c. Speak teasingly
d. Speak insinuatingly
e. Speak directly
These words all indicate ways of speaking related to the principles of courtesy and decorum.
Question 4:
a. By the way, let me ask: when the speaker wants to ask about an off-topic issue, they should avoid the listener understanding that they are not adhering to relational principles.
b. Extremely reluctantly, I have to say, I mention this hoping you'll overlook it; I know it makes you unhappy, but… ; sorry, you might not be pleased, but I have to be honest… to mitigate the impact, adhere to the principle of courtesy.
c. Don't beat around the bush, don't interrupt like that, don't use that tone with me… signaling to the interlocutor that they are not adhering to the principle of courtesy, forcing an end to the non-compliance.
Question 5:
- Explain the meanings of the idioms.
+ Beat around the bush: speak bluntly, rudely, and aggressively.
+ Speak like punching in the ear: speak strongly, against others' will, hard to accept
+ Heavy-handedness: criticize sparingly
+ Half-open half-closed: vague attitude, hesitant, not fully expressing
+ Babble like shrimp drum: verbose, sarcastic, derogatory towards others
+ Beat the drum: evade, dodge, not wanting to participate in something, not wanting to mention a certain issue that the interlocutor is discussing.
+ Beat the drum: evade, dodge, not wanting to participate in something, not wanting to mention a certain issue that the interlocutor is discussing.
- Directly related principles:
+ Principle of courtesy: beat around the bush; speak like punching in the ear; heavy-handedness; babble like shrimp drum; speak like poking a fish sauce jar
+ Principle of decorum: half-open half-closed.
+ Relational principle: beat the drum.
The scene of spring is a prominent lesson in Lesson 6 of the Grade 9 Literature textbook. Students need to Prepare the Scene of Spring, preview the content, and answer the questions in the textbook.
Let's also see the content prepared for the Dialogue Principles lesson
- Prepare the Dialogue Principles lesson
- Prepare the Dialogue Principles lesson (Continued) - Lesson 3
Prepare the Dialogue Principles lesson (Continued), brief 2
I. Relational Principles
- The proverb he says rooster, she says duck is used to refer to a dialogue situation in which each person speaks in a different direction, not matching each other, not understanding each other.
- In communication, it is necessary to speak directly to the topic that the dialogue is addressing, avoiding going off-topic.
II. Principles of Conduct
Question 1
- The proverb from eggplant string to squash string is used to describe verbose, convoluted speech. The proverb hesitant like chewing betel nut is used to describe hesitant, inarticulate speech.
- Such expressions make it difficult for the listener to accept or understand the conveyed content.
Question 2
- The statement “I agree with his remarks on his short stories” can be understood in two ways:
+ I agree with his remarks on short stories.
+ I agree with someone's remarks on his short stories (short stories written by him)
- In communication, unless for a particular reason, it is not advisable to say things that listeners can interpret in multiple ways.
III. Principle of Courtesy
- Although both individuals have no material possessions, they both feel the affection the other has shown them.
- In communication, regardless of the social status and circumstances of the interlocutor, the speaker must pay attention to speaking respectfully to them.
IV. Practice
Question 1.
a. Greetings surpass feasts: a courteous attitude is more important than the material value of the feast.
b. Words cost nothing but mean everything: polite and thoughtful words are highly effective without costing much.
c. Who would bend a golden hook/ A wise person refrains from harsh words: a golden hook (valuable item) is not to be bent into a fish hook (ordinary item), similarly, a wise person should not speak harshly to others (incommensurate with their own value).
- All the proverbs above advise people to be courteous and polite in communication.
- Some similar proverbs and folk sayings:
+ One word of patience is worth more than nine words of kindness.
+ A person's reputation precedes them/ A bell rings softly on the wall also rings.
+ Good soil grows tangled trees/ Elegant people speak gently.
+ Clever birds chirp cheerfully/ Wise people speak softly and are easy to listen to.
+ Gold is tested by fire and coal/ A bell's sound tests the words of a wise person.
Question 2
- Speaking modestly and evasively is most closely related to the principle of courtesy.
- Example:
+ Assessing someone's appearance unfavorably, we say: “She is not particularly beautiful.”
+ To respond to a parent's question about a weak student's academic situation, a teacher says: “The student's understanding is not quite solid.”
+ Folk tales also include many humorous stories about using modest and evasive speech to ensure politeness in communication. For example:
The host was busy talking about his house, so the rice in the pot ran out without him noticing. The guest said:
- Near my house, there is also a house for sale.
The host asked:
- How is that house?
The guest, holding the pot, did not lift it, said:
- That house is very big. The pillar is as big as this pot.
The host understood the hint and called his family to get more rice. Then he calmly continued the story:
- How much are they selling it for?
The guest stirred the rice into the bowl and said:
- That's talking when hungry, they planned to sell, but now they're full, why would they sell anymore!
Question 3
a. Speaking softly like praising, but actually mocking, criticizing is speak coolly.
b. Speaking before others have a chance to speak is speak lightly.
c. Deliberately poking fun at someone's shortcomings is speak teasingly.
d. Interjecting into someone else's conversation without being asked is speak evasively.
e. Speaking methodically, meticulously, with a clear sequence is speak directly.
These terms indicate ways of speaking related to the principle of courtesy (a, b, c, d) and the principle of conduct (e).
Question 4. These expressions are all related to the principles of dialogue:
a. By the way, let me ask: Used when the speaker asks about a topic unrelated to the current discussion to make the listener feel they are still adhering to relational principles, while also drawing attention to the issue they need to ask about. This expression also demonstrates the principle of courtesy.
b. Extremely reluctantly, I have to say; I say this with the hope that you will overlook it; I know it might upset you, but...; sorry, you might not be pleased, but I also have to speak truthfully that... These expressions are used when difficult things need to be said, which may upset the listener. They have a “softening” effect to make the listener accept, sympathize, and reduce discomfort (principle of courtesy).
c. Don't beat around the bush; don't interrupt like that; don't use that tone with me: These are warnings to the interlocutor that they are not adhering to the principle of courtesy and must stop if they want to continue the dialogue.
