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Love, an enigma that perpetually captivates, evoking emotions through profound words in books and timeless literary works. Despite this, the concept of love remains elusive and empty. To delve deeper into the realm of love, Mytour Blog invites readers to explore the review of the book Being in Love below to gain a deeper understanding of love.
How can we define “love”?
The term 'Love' is perhaps one of the most common words we encounter in life, stories, and every opportunity for connection. From the moment we come into existence, we carry the concept of love, crystallized from the love of our parents. Of course, not all children are 'nurtured' by love in their families, but most of us are fortunate to experience this.
Love, like a sacred nutrient, is transmitted through the umbilical cord of the mother, combining with other elements to nurture us every day, every hour, until we are born. This is the moment when we are welcomed by the light, the love, and the anticipation of the family, as well as many other loved ones.
In the book “Love – Being in Love” by Osho, we embark on a logical journey, from meaning to emotion, exploring the hidden aspects of love and how we express it. The author narrates the undeniable presence of love in any form, where care, sacrifice, and sincerity retain their inherent value.
Similar to how the hungry crave wealth and food, those overly dependent on love often experience shortcomings and flaws beneath the facade of 'affection.' In the book “Love – Being In Love,” the author presents a different perspective on love, a more comprehensive view. Even when both individuals in a relationship carry wounds and difficulties in how they express and perceive emotions, they often go through challenging times, marked by control, fatigue, doubt, and conflicts.
In this situation, the relationship not only fails to heal but also deepens and intensifies the wounds in the souls of both partners, making them more profound and painful.
Love, like a sacred nutrient, is conveyed through the umbilical cord from the mother (Source: Internet)Explore the world of Osho, a renowned Indian spiritual mystic.
Osho, originally named Chandra Mohan Jain, went by various aliases throughout his life. He began his spiritual journey as Acharya Rajneesh in the 1960s, later adopting the title Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh in the 1970s and 1980s, and finally choosing the name Osho in 1989. Osho is considered a mystic, an Indian spiritual master, and the leader of the Rajneesh movement.
In the 1960s, Osho traveled across India as a public speaker and a candid critic of societal norms, Mahatma Gandhi, and orthodox Hinduism. He gained notoriety for his progressive views on sexuality, earning him the moniker 'sex guru' in India and later in the international press. Despite initial controversy, this perspective gradually gained societal acceptance over time.
About the Book
In the book “Love – Being in Love” by Osho, we are guided on the journey of love, a journey full of freshness and vitality. The author presents a profound perspective: “We need to eliminate things that lose love, not learn how to love.” This implies that in relationships, no matter how long we've loved and understood each other, mistakes and hurts are inevitable.
We grow and sharpen together to safeguard the future of the relationship. Approaching issues, solving together, and the ability to admit mistakes for improvement are solid foundations. The author also points out that bad habits, negative thinking, and greed, as well as excessive expectations, can harm relationships. While instincts may lead to these emotions, the ability to control and understand is crucial for sustaining love.
But whether you're in love, loved, or the author, no one can deny that deception, jealousy, doubt, possession, or excessive demands are unwarranted and detrimental to the other person's autonomy. When love turns into these things, it ceases to be beautiful love.
Love is truly a conquest, evident when our ego begins to melt away, as Osho once said: “When you truly love someone, your ego starts to melt and disappear.” Like a pink soap bubble hovering in the air, it bursts and leaves no trace.
Love doesn't always adhere to the fixed formulas we often think of. True love is not merely specific actions, and a lover is not someone who sees themselves as the center of everything. In the world of love, we need to understand that love is giving all that is good and gentle to others, caring for every small detail, and creating worthwhile concern and care.
However, sometimes, in the early stages of a relationship, we may give too much, and these concerns can become burdens and hinder the development of love. Love is truly a miraculous, dynamic, mysterious, bold, and unpredictable journey.
In the book “Love – Being in Love” by Osho, we are guided to recognize the signs of genuine love. The most important message is that love should not turn into selfishness, always wanting others to comply for comfort. We need to learn how to create beautiful and gentle things for our relationships.
In the book “Love – Being in Love” by Osho, it embarks on a journey of love (Source: Internet)Love is the refreshing breeze
Love is a refreshing breeze, and the key is to do good and gentle things for each other. We all have emotions, and love can sometimes sweep us away with these emotions. However, Osho reminds us not to let these emotions control our relationships but instead, to understand and control them.
Ultimately, this book is a guide for us on the path to understanding true love, the love of mature, patient, and lasting individuals. It is the path to happiness, enlightenment, and healing for relationships that have existed, exist, or will exist in the future.
3 Levels of Love in Osho's “Being In Love”
Level 1: Possessive Love – Osho approaches possessive love with detailed analysis and evaluation. Love at this level often relies on infatuation with a specific trait, talent, or action of the person you love or who loves you. It could be a love based on appearance, success, or even a specific gesture.
Level 2: Liberating Love – Loving in Awareness, Bonding in Trust. Osho, through the book “Love – Being In Love,” conveys the message of liberating love. At this level, love is considered noble and expansive. It's when you can grant freedom to the other without control, without causing annoyance. Liberating love is loving unconditionally, just desiring the happiness of the other, with no expectations. It's a gentle type of love, and this is the dream of many who are in love and loved.
Level 3: Love and Solitude – Osho highlights the loneliness and the desire for listening and understanding from the partner. This is an emotion not at ease in the relationship, making us question our value to the other. Sometimes, this can lead us to abandon ourselves and seek completeness from outside. Ultimately, Osho offers a different perspective on love and solitude. It is love for oneself, in a noble and appreciative manner. Only when we love ourselves fully can we love others sincerely.
Love is a refreshing breeze, and the key is to do good and gentle things for each other (Source: Internet)Personal Reflection on the Book
The author shares personal experiences with the book and love in life. He speaks of admiration for the love of parents and how they influenced him. The book helped him understand that love is not random or easy but a long process requiring sharing, understanding, trust, and mutual respect. He expresses faith in love, hoping his relationship will become better through understanding and change. Lastly, he emphasizes that true love is when we make each other perfect, and shared joy is always greater than individual demands.
How we express love may differ a bit from others, but I really appreciate how you're always ready to embrace me when I'm tired, how you worry and care when I'm sick, how you cry when I'm struggling, and how you comfort me when I startle in the middle of the night. I once said, hoping that girls who always have to deal with fear in nightmares will find a guy willing to hug them tightly, whispering stories or singing lullabies to lull them to sleep. I am truly grateful that you came and did just that.
We all have experienced hurt and heartbreak, sometimes thinking we'd never open our hearts again. Yet, here he came once more, turning us into remedies for each other, exchanging warmth, building our own love story.
Conclusion
I used to believe love was the trickiest thing in life, becoming a weakness for many, causing pain and clouding judgment. However, after reading Love – Being In Love, the author's perspectives, principles, and explanations have enlightened me. I even exclaimed, 'Oh, I was completely wrong before, my viewpoint was twisted and limited.'
In the end, I wish those in love, have been loved, and will love to have a happy life with their love, experiencing the warmest and gentlest feelings in the world. Love is not always radiant and rosy as in movies or the books we often read. Sometimes it is, but mostly not. People are often shy to express love verbally, but actions like dressing you, buying ginger tea during your period, cooking for you, helping you wear shoes, holding your hand while crossing a deserted street, paying attention to pull you close when a car rushes by... All require no words but express love profoundly.
Above is a comprehensive review of the book Being In Love. Hey ladies, Mytour just wants to say, keep smiling. Every princess has her own little kingdom, and when the prince comes, he will love you as if the whole world was created just for you. Hanoi may be cold and rainy, but when we hold hands, we'll be warmer and more beautiful!
