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2019 can be deemed as a year of face-planting failures for me
This is a year where I failed to accomplish any goal
This is a year where all my set goals went haywire and ended up in shambles
However, this turned out to be an extraordinary year. Let me tell you why.
What's the big deal about failure anyway?
In March 2019, I made the decision to return to YouTube after a 2-year hiatus. The sole reason for my comeback was to prove that 'I am not a quitter,' contrary to popular belief.
Honestly, I never once thought about giving up. I also never considered stopping because of the criticism from haters.
But back in 2017, I had to undergo a hair transplant. It took a painstaking 4 months for my hair to regrow. During that time, I looked like I had a scalp fungus—quite repulsive and unfit for the camera.
Then, I had to undergo eye surgery. After the surgery, I had to rest my eyes for an extended period. Despite the disruptions to my work caused by such things, I haven't been able to fully bounce back even though I desperately wanted to.
Upon my return, my goal until the end of the year was to reach 100,000 followers (equivalent to the YouTube silver button). For many, the silver button is now old news, everyone has it. But for me, it remains a personal aspiration. I dream of having a YouTube silver button placed prominently in the middle of my home.
However, by the last day of the year, I only reached 40,000 followers. This figure falls short of half the set goal.
Hence, my YouTube goal naturally ended in failure.
Alongside my YouTube comeback, earlier this year, I invested in an apartment. I aimed for a 3-bedroom space for a dedicated workspace and studio. However, financial constraints led me to settle for a 2-bedroom unit. The same goes for furnishing. Due to a lack of funds, the furniture had to be piecemeal, completed in multiple phases rather than a single sweep.
Compared to the initial goal, I also fell short with my new house.
Speaking of business, in mid-2019, I opened a store. The process of renovating the store took too long. While the target was a 6-month revenue of 200 million, the current revenue has only reached half of that.
Certainly, I also fell short of this store's goal.
On the fitness front, I once again faced failure. My goal for this year was 65kg with 8% body fat. In the phase before opening the store, I was close to achieving this goal. However, I slipped off track along with my routine and habits. It took a whopping 2 months just to regain my previous physique.
Similar to the goals above, I continue to face failure once again.
But...
So what if there's failure?
2 types of people who never achieve results, success in life
If this were 10 years ago, I would have thought failure is something shameful, something to hide. But experience has shown that: Failure is inevitable. Failure is not something bad. Failure doesn't mean losing. Failure doesn't mean one won't succeed.
In this world, there are 2 types of people who never have anything. Do you know what those people are?
The first type is the do-nothing kind. Please, if you're not going to do anything with books like 'Decoding the Secrets of the Feminine' or 'No Friend Zone', it's best not to buy them. Because after feeling miserable, you'll blame me and my books. Yet, in reality, can you expect results without doing anything at all?
The second type is the retreat kind. Initially, you're enthusiastic, diving in with zeal. But at the slightest obstacle, a little difficulty, you find a way to withdraw. And that's why it's challenging for you to achieve results.
Why should you also experience failure like me?
I'm not the type to chase trends or jump into things just because they seem interesting. I only pursue what genuinely interests me, so rarely do I contemplate giving up.
My YouTube channel, huh? Despite not hitting the 100,000 milestone as planned, I have 40,000 subscribers. It took 3 years for the 4Love Academy fanpage on Facebook to reach 50,000 followers. Yet, I achieved a comparable number in just 9 months.
The most challenging part of YouTube is the initial phase, where you have to earn each subscriber. But with 40,000 followers and a clear style established, reaching the 100,000 milestone is just a matter of time.
And the house? Well, it's not a massive, spacious apartment. But with a contemporary space, it might suit my purpose better. After all, the apartment is just a transition point. I have no intention of being tied to real estate whose value diminishes over time.
And what about my physique? Though I didn't reach 65kg with 8% body fat, my body still maintains at 62kg with 10-11% fat. For many, that's a dream throughout their fitness journey.
Set goals high enough to fail.
Set goals high enough to fail.
I'd rather set a goal of 100,000 subs and fail than aim for 20,000 subs and succeed.
I'd rather set the store's revenue goal at 200 million and fail than achieve success at the 50 million mark.
I'd rather set a goal of 65kg with 8% body fat and fail than just maintain the status quo.
See that?
Failure is nothing to blame.
Failure is nothing to be ashamed of.
Failure is nothing worth being sad about.
Failure only proves one thing: that you will reap more results and more success in the future. Let me affirm that to you.
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Posted by: Huyền Hoàng
Keywords: Farewell 2019, a face-smacking year of failure for me
