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A typical sign she's testing you is when you find yourself waiting ages for a reply to your messages. This delay tactic is to weed out the flirts and favor the persistent. It's meant to keep you on edge, concerned, and thinking about her more.
You might often feel frustrated facing her challenges, but understand, they seek assurance to determine the peaceful harbor of life. Besides, men inherently crave conquering difficulties, so the more challenges she sets, the more it ignites your excitement. This also contributes to revitalizing your love story daily, showcasing that you're loving a smart and profound woman.
Reading messages without an immediate reply is the initial sign she's testing you
This is a common 'trick' that ladies often employ. It's not that she doesn't care or doesn't see your messages. She deliberately reads and ignores them like that.
By using this tactic, she can filter out many flirtatious guys who are too forward. If you often experience this, it's precisely a sign she's testing you. The purpose? To make you feel anxious, worried, and think about her more.
Advice for guys in this situation is not to be too forward, bombarding her with a barrage of messages. Instead, wait a few minutes and then send a couple of humorous or inquisitive messages, sparking her interest to reply to you.
You always have to wait a long time to get a reply from her messages (Image source: istockphoto)
See where 'He's gone for me'
This is the next 'ploy' that girls often use to 'measure' the level of care a guy has for them. They typically demand or request something from him. So many guys see this as a 'golden opportunity' to demonstrate affection, care for her, and fulfill her requests unconditionally without second thoughts.
However, catering to almost every need of hers will make you less attractive. Because often, this is just a test she's giving you.
There might be some girls who want you to change for noble reasons, but there are also girls who want you to change to suit them. This could even make you 'stupid,' becoming weak and losing your masculinity.
What are the signs she accepts you? Before every situation, pause and observe carefully to identify the issue. If you appear indifferent, she'll think you're insensitive. But if you comply 100% with what she wants, you know what you'll become, right?
Showing anger when you spend too much time with friends
Showing anger when you spend too much time with friends
Anger is often seen as part of a girl's personality, so there's no reason she wouldn't use her 'existing capital' to test her man. She does this often for a very simple purpose, just to check if you find her important.
She tends to employ this tactic when you're out having fun with friends or busy with work. At such times, some actions commonly occur like: you text but receive no reply, or receive timid, curt replies. However, don't fret, she's likely just testing you.
To ease the situation, you can gently pamper her with a few sweet words, explaining that you still care and think of her. However, don't overdo it, because if you prioritize her over work relationships or personal interests, you're making a mistake.
Changing plans at the last minute
Some girls often cancel plans last minute as a way to 'challenge' their man. The reason for this action can be explained because she wants to 'play hard to get,' making you chase and pursue her more.
The crucial thing here is not to appear flustered, trying to find reasons why she canceled or changed plans, but to be confident and comfortable, reschedule with her for another time.
This shows that you're not passive to her decisions, you still have your own Plan B.
Blaming you for being insensitive
The final sign she's testing you is showing blame, saying you're an insensitive man when you don't inquire much and regularly.
Simply caring and inquiring about women is never enough. You should engrave this in your mind. So when she blames you for not asking, being indifferent, don't fret about it.
In reality, that's a positive point. Because girls don't blame those they're not interested in. They only blame those they care about.
Blaming you for being insensitive (Image source: istockphoto)
A tip to reverse the situation for gentlemen
- Analyze the tests: Review the tests she listed above. Remember, how you react to these tests will determine the direction of the relationship. Clearly, when you're 'on guard,' she'll also have to be more cautious.
- Never get angry at these tests and don't apologize for your behavior (if she accuses you of doing something wrong that you've never done).
- Test her back: Try applying her own test and see how she reacts.
- Stand firm in your position. The moment you suspect you're being 'led on' by her, determine how you'll respond and stick to it until the end. Clearly tell her that you don't want that and never do so if you want to continue this relationship.
- If you've done everything and she still doesn't stop playing games, it's best to seek another partner - a girl who doesn't need to test but still believes in your sincerity.
Above are the signs she's testing you, gentlemen need to know. When you see these signs, you should be happier than worried because it's a positive sign that she cares about you, she just wants to confirm that your feelings for her are sincere.
Be attentive to recognize and make changes to harmonize and bond with her in the long run.
Posted by: Pham Hoang
Keywords: Guiding gentlemen on recognizing 5 signs she's testing you
