Buzz
You've been exchanging messages with the girl you're interested in when suddenly the conversation hits a lull, or she stops responding. If you're unsure how to initiate contact again and inject some energy back into the conversation, we've compiled a variety of messages to send. Regardless of how long it's been since the conversation fizzled out, take a breather and keep reading for foolproof ways to restart a conversation with the girl you're interested in.
Steps
Acknowledge the silence in conversation.
Break the ice by mentioning that it's been some time since your last chat. It might seem counterintuitive, but acknowledging the gap in communication alleviates some of the pressure. Essentially, you're conveying, 'It's okay that we haven't texted recently, but I'm still interested in picking up where we left off.'
- 'It's been a while. What have you been up to?'
- 'Haven't heard from you in a bit. What's new with you?'
- 'Hey, stranger! How have you been?'
Refer back to a previous topic of conversation.
Initiate a new conversation with a follow-up question. Recall a recent engaging exchange and use it as a springboard to restart your conversation. Delve deeper into the topic by asking probing questions.
- 'What was the title of the song you mentioned? I'm listening to it right now.'
- 'Share more about your love for coffee. Where can I find the best café in town?'
- 'I've been pondering about what you said last night... How did you become so knowledgeable about that?'
Begin a fresh conversation with an unexpected question.
Change the subject to capture her attention. If she's slow to respond overall, she might not be fully engaged in the discussion. No worries, switch up your texting style to inject some excitement. While she may not be keen on discussing her day, she might enjoy answering a playful hypothetical or a 'would you rather' scenario.
- 'Would you rather spend Friday night in your PJs or dress up and go out?'
- 'If you could dine with any 4 celebrities, who would they be?'
- 'What's your dream vacation spot?'
Explore shared interests and past experiences.
Rekindle a conversation by finding common ground. Start by discussing shared hobbies or interests. If unsure of her interests, simply ask about her preferences to initiate a fun conversation. Alternatively, gather insight from her social media profile. When you discover shared interests, conversation flows naturally.
- Try mentioning a shared experience or quirk to gauge her response. For instance, use a line like, 'Am I the only one who listens to songs on repeat?' to spark a lively discussion.
- Discuss a mutual hobby in your leisure time. For example, inquire, 'Have you visited the kickboxing studio downtown yet?'
- If acquainted in real life, mention shared experiences like a common class or favorite restaurant. For instance, ask, 'How are you feeling about the upcoming final in Dr. Joan's class?'
Solicit her viewpoint.
Engage her by seeking her opinion. Demonstrate your interest in her thoughts while encouraging a response. Prompt her to share her thoughts on a popular show or movie or request a recommendation for a local attraction. Consider these approaches:
- Invite her to assist in selecting a restaurant with a message like, 'Can you lend a hand? Imagine you're a food blogger. Where should I go for the best brunch in town?'
- Discuss pop culture by saying, 'Just watched the season finale of the show you suggested. Can you believe they killed off Margo?'
- Send pictures of two outfits and playfully ask her to help choose, saying, 'It's your call. Which one should I wear to class tomorrow?'
Inquire about an event or activity.
Check in regarding her recent endeavors to show appreciation. Reach out about a notable event, particularly one related to shared interests. Acknowledge her accomplishments or experiences, demonstrating thoughtfulness in your communication. This type of message also provides a natural pretext for initiating contact.
- 'Hey! How did your important exam go?'
- 'Still at your aunt's place for the weekend? How's it been so far?'
- 'I'm eager to hear about your adventurous surfing trip! Spot any sharks?'
Share an amusing or adventurous anecdote.
Spark her curiosity with an intriguing cliffhanger text. Discuss a humorous encounter or recount a mildly embarrassing personal story. Injecting humor sets a positive tone for your conversation.
- 'You won't believe who I just bumped into...'
- 'Witnessed something bizarre outside just now!'
- 'Guess what I just overheard 😂'
- 'Have I ever told you about the time when...'
Narrate a tale using emojis.
Engage her curiosity with an emoji puzzle for her to decode. Instead of sending random emojis, challenge her to decipher a cryptic message composed of emojis.
- Send emojis summarizing a fun first date, with a message like, 'Can you guess what's on my mind? Here's a clue: 🎥🍿😊✨'
- Playfully tease with a message like, '👻👻👻👻👻 If I send you ghosts, is it ghosting?'
- Invite her to guess your evening's activities using an emoji hint like, '💰🦹♂️💥👊🦸.'
Send a GIF, meme, or adorable photo.
Revitalize your conversation with visuals. When conversation stagnates, adding media can provide new topics to discuss. Opt for familiar memes and topics or, if you know her well, send something quirky.
- For a charming approach, pair a cute GIF or photo with the message, 'This made me think of you.'
- For a humorous touch, pair a GIF of a random animal with the message, 'On a scale of 1 to 10, how much does this resemble me?'
- When unsure, send a funny meme and ask, 'Have you seen this one? 🤣'
Share a song or video she might enjoy.
Introduce a new conversation topic by sharing a link. Prompt her for opinions on the content, showing that you value her input. If she likes it, she'll feel understood and cared for. If not, it could lead to a playful debate.
- 'Have you listened to the new album yet?!'
- 'Came across this video and immediately thought of you.'
- 'Just testing your taste. Let me know what you think of this song. No pressure 😉'
Compliment her flirtatiously.
Use flattery to kick-start the conversation. A flirtatious compliment can indicate her interest in you. A prompt response or increased response speed is a positive sign. However, lack of response may suggest it's time to move on.
- Send a seemingly empty message like '...' followed by, 'You're so beautiful, I forgot my train of thought.'
- 'I know you hear this a lot, but you have stunning eyes.'
- 'If you were a vegetable, you'd be a 'cute-cumber.''
Express your longing to talk to her.
Opt for the “I miss you” tactic if you used to chat regularly. By conveying how much you miss conversing with her, she may feel more compelled to respond. Expressing your longing also emphasizes her significance, making it an effective flirtatious approach. You can adjust the emotional intensity accordingly:
- For a casual approach, try something like, “My dog misses you” or “Missing our post-game recaps. Did you catch the game tonight?”
- For a more heartfelt approach, consider a line such as, “Missing you a little extra today.”
- For a flirtatious and confident approach, go with “Miss me yet?”
Employ sarcasm or drama in your text.
Playfully tease her for ghosting you to prompt a response. Add humorous emojis to lighten the mood and send a message like “Are you alive?” Be cautious with sarcasm that might come across as too harsh. Opt for a playful and humorous tone to avoid being misinterpreted.
- “You're the world's fastest texter 🐌😂.”
- “Currently waiting for your next message like 👀.” You can follow up with a lighthearted comment such as “It's worth the wait, though!”
- For a meta twist, send the song “Don’t You (Forget About Me).”
Suggest meeting up in person.
Transition from texting to real-life interaction by inviting her out. If you're genuinely interested in her, don't hesitate to be straightforward—it demonstrates confidence. Shifting the conversation offline might be appreciated, especially if she's not much of a texter.
- “Would you like to hang out sometime? I'm free Saturday afternoon!”
- “How about ice cream tomorrow night? Just you, me, and some scoops!”
- “Hey there! Care to join me for drinks on Friday?”
Accept it and move forward if she doesn't respond.
Wait 2-4 days before expecting a response. She might be busy or away. However, if she doesn't reply after 4 days, she might not be interested. Take it as a sign to move on. Don't worry, there are plenty of other people out there who will eagerly respond to your texts!
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