Losing your virginity doesn't define your worth; every deserving man understands that.

A man of integrity has no right to demand a woman's virginity. Virginity holds no singular value other than falsely proving a lack of sexual experience.

A young woman's heartache after a breakup, where her ex took away her innocence, leads to fears about an uncertain future without the certificate of purity.

A young lady being jilted for the reason of lost virginity experiences her former lover leaving with hurtful words, possibly haunting her for a lifetime.

A young wife bears the burden as her husband fails to find any signs of her virginity, leading to a lifetime of verbal and physical abuse.

Tragedy unfolds as a girl loses her virginity, transforming into a submissive wife subjected to demands, scorned as a young mother, and belittled within the family. There's a case where a wife assists her husband in a heinous crime just because she's no longer a virgin, seeking to 'compensate' for her perceived loss. I discovered that only divorced women are free from the haunting fear of their virginity. (Of course, that's how it is!).

Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend who excelled in her career. She married her first love without engaging in promiscuous relationships. However, in their first intimate encounter, she lacked any 'evidence' of virginity, such as leaving a drop of blood on the bed or any discernible sensation for the man.

My friend had to fabricate a story, claiming that at the age of 4, she fell asleep in the family's warehouse and was violated by someone she vaguely remembers. Oddly enough, this fabricated tale reassured her prospective husband about her virginity, satisfying his inquiries. While his friends and he himself knew that from the age of 15 until marriage, she only knew him, if she had told the truth about why there were no 'virginity traces,' he would not have accepted it! Surely, he would get angry and insist that she was deceitful, hiding some truth!

I often sense the agony associated with virginity is, in reality, a consequence of girls willingly subjecting themselves to it! Simply put, every doctor knows, if you want to preserve your hymen, you have to be cautious from the very beginning! Waiting until adolescence is too late, what's there to preserve by then? Making an innocent girl keep her virginity for a future man is a cruel act, showcasing the brutality of society.

So, if a woman values herself and understands that, she will safeguard herself for someone she truly loves, someone deserving. Whether it's her first or subsequent intimate experiences, it will undoubtedly be driven by love, not a preconceived notion of marrying this man as a husband, ultimately it's all the same!!!

In essence, after the first intimate encounter, you are still you, you still respect yourself, believing that you are a girl worthy of love and respect. On the other hand, if you keep your virginity just to get married, the consequence is, once the virginity is lost, there's an immediate plunge into promiscuous relationships because, honestly, what's left to preserve?

Or after getting married, only then do you have the liberty to indulge in promiscuity, and no one will collect a more diverse array of men than you. Once the 'virginity' crown is lifted from your head, for such individuals, inevitably, when the 'virginity' crown is removed from your life, you'll feel yourself losing value, deserving to be buried in obscurity. That's when the humble wives emerge.

Because you believe losing your virginity means deserving scorn from your husband! Sometimes, a tearful reader writes to me: He said he tortured and abandoned me because I'm no longer a virgin. What advice can I give her?

I've experienced emotions like yours. In my youth, I too faced the same dilemma in choosing a partner. So, I reply: Because you've lost your virginity, you deserve a better man! A mature man understands that he loves the woman, not a one-time-use piece of flesh blocking your vagina! Choose a different man! A man of integrity has no right to demand your virginity. They know virginity only proves a girl has zero sexual experience, that's it! Even marrying a virgin is an irrational choice, as psychological studies reveal that the least likely to cheat on their husbands are virgin wives! After marriage, she discovers a different life, where it seems her husband loses the advantage (the promise of marriage) among other men. Because they're already married! And as sex becomes prevalent, love stays.

Readers often never believe me when I say they'll find a better man! They argue, will he still cherish me after I've lost my virginity to him? I see virginity as a man's childish obsession.

When you're 20, surrounded by virgin girls, guys keep saying they'll marry a virgin!

Between the ages of 25-27, finding a virgin girl becomes a rare quest for a man. He might have to seek girls aged 18-20. But, apologies to the men, at that age, girls fancy K-pop idols, actors, or smart classmates. It's unlikely they'd be interested in someone much older. If they are, be assured they have some materialistic views, have experienced life, understand it better than you. Are you sure they are still virgins?

Once men cross 30, seeking a 30-year-old virgin might be as challenging as climbing to the heavens. Or do they revert to dating 18 or twenty-somethings? Time teaches men a materialistic lesson that maturity helps overcome the childish obsession with virginity. Understanding that an energetic, positive, genuinely loving, and self-respecting woman ensures long-term happiness.

Believe me, have the courage to leave behind men obsessed with virginity, forget about them, and value yourself a bit more. Don't let anyone trample over you. At the very least, look for a mature man. Even in a society surrounded by men stuck in the childish desire for virginity.

Source: Trang Hạ

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