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What if you want to ask someone out with the goal of impressing them? Here's how to do it.
And even better, how to ask someone out without facing rejection?
I've faced rejection countless times. And each time, I wonder if I'm too hasty, if my approach is what leads to rejection.
And after figuring out how to ask a girl out, I realized it's not what I thought it was.
So what is it then? In this article, I'll show you 5 things to help you successfully ask a girl out.
How to ask someone out without facing rejection?
1) Only ask a girl out if there are signs of attraction.
When it comes to asking someone out, the first thing to remember is that you need to be able to read the signs of attraction from the other person.
The mistake that leads to rejection. 99% of the time, it's because you're asking out a girl who isn't interested in you.
When you ask them out, of course they'll say no. Or if they agree to go out, they'll be checking if the plan is any good. For example.
“Where are we going, which place, is it nice?”
“Or how about we go for hotpot, or Japanese food?”
In short, she'll only go if it's an enticing plan. So make sure there are signs of attraction before asking her out.
2) So what are these signs of attraction?
Signs of attraction are indicators that the other person is interested in you. I've listed many of these in the book Decoding the Secrets of the Fairer Sex. Let me list some typical signs for you.
But what if you're getting to know each other through text messages? In my course, Practical Text Message Decoding, I've also listed (UPDATE: I've now updated the content for 2022, and will continue to update it. With this course, I aim to update it once a year to keep it current.)
What are the signs of attraction through text messages? It's when she asks a lot of personal questions, like where you live, how your evening is going, what you're doing. Or detailed questions like where you work out, what you eat, where you eat?
With those signs, you can ask her out and rarely get rejected
3) When asking someone out, you must have enough trust
Next, when asking someone out, you must build enough trust. Especially for girls who meet online. They're really afraid of encountering creepy guys. Like ones who can't eat and then curse or humiliate.
They're also afraid of being taken to a motel and pressured into something. Or simply, they're lazy to prepare, you know.
So if you don't build enough trust, even if the other person is interested in you, they'll still reject you.
Everyone has their own safety circle, right?
4) The invitation must be enticing
The fourth thing when asking someone out is that the invitation must be appealing and avoid vague timeframes, like: When are we going for a drink? When is whenever, girls want to know today, ask today, otherwise it's like playing games.
Also avoid overly typical invitations, like friends inviting each other. Like, let's go for a drink tonight. In their minds, they'll think, an invitation like this probably means going for sugarcane juice tonight. Better to stay home.
Usually, there are three things girls will consider in an invitation. 1 is beauty, for example, a beautiful venue. 2 is novelty, unusual places, less common, sounds interesting. And 3 is alignment with their interests. For example, a bar with a buffet is usually appealing to girls, but if you invite a teacher to that, it's not quite fitting, right?
If you can combine all three things: beauty, novelty, and what she likes, then that invitation becomes even more appealing.
5) Rejecting without actually rejecting
This last thing is the reason why 80% of men face rejection. You look at points 1, 2, 3, 4 and wonder, hey, I've got all four things, so why is the other person still rejecting me?
The thing is, it's like this. Women are women, they're not like men who are free in the evenings, yeah, free to go for a drink. Done!
Some girls will be straightforward like that, but many will hesitate. Partly they think they have to reject to maintain value. Because if a girl agrees to go out too easily, she'll fear being judged as loose, worthless, right?
On the other hand, they'll reject but also secretly hope you'll keep asking. This is to gauge your perseverance and interest. Whether you're the type to ask anyone, if you can't ask, then forget it. Or maybe you have something truly intriguing and captivating that he likes you and wants to ask you out.
So if a girl rejects, just take it in stride. Then ask again:
“Can't do 7, how about 8? You're going out with your family, huh, then how about I come and meet your parents for a date instead?”
Then afterwards, you can try again: “How about 8, what do you think?”
And when she declines, don't feel embarrassed for being rejected. She's the one who should feel embarrassed having to explain why she's rejecting you. You can say, I guess not, then smile a bit to confirm. When you ask persistently, sometimes girls will think differently.
Conclusion
Okay, that's it for today's content. How to ask someone out with the highest effectiveness, with minimal rejection.
If you want to learn more tips for conquering and dating. To get the most comprehensive mindset and theory, check out Decoding the Secrets of the Fairer Sex. And if you want practical experience, check out Practical Text Message Decoding.
See you in the next article.
Posted by: Xuân Trúc
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