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Though just 9 minutes, paying attention to this small segment and investing it wisely in your child can bring about immensely significant changes.
Many mothers feel helpless seeing themselves always busy, rushed, constantly yelling at their children. They feel drained and tend to neglect what their children want to do. But let's spend a minute thinking more fairly about these kids as they don't necessarily deserve to be treated like troublemakers or unworthy of any love from their mothers.
Despite a mother's limited time, just dedicating 9 minutes a day can entirely transform a child, making them happier and making you a better mother. Experts have identified 9 minutes in a day that have the most impact on a child and are divided into 3 time slots:
The initial 3 minutes upon awakening
Mornings in many households are often filled with loud shouts and scolding due to the rush of morning routines and preparations for school or work. Instead, these first 3 minutes of the day can be transformed into something special and uplifting.
The 3 minutes right after returning from school
Consider waking up a bit earlier to dedicate a full 3 minutes of undivided attention to your child. Tickle them, give them a kiss, stroke their hair, or snuggle up – engage in any gentle or even silly act of love to wake your sleepy child. For a child, beginning their day with a moment shared with their mom is incredibly meaningful.
A whole day awaits your child; don’t ruin a promising start with nagging and urging in a harsh tone, leaving you both exhausted. Kick off the day with fun approaches that boost connection, ensuring your child’s day improves significantly.
Recall your childhood - coming home after a day at school or being away from your parents, what was your utmost desire? Your children likely have similar yearnings.
Right after welcoming your child home, spend just 3 joyful minutes with them. Embrace, play, chase, or chat about how their day went, what they enjoyed the most… Ask open-ended questions and guide them to express their feelings and perspectives with emotion-descriptive words.
These simple yet profoundly valuable actions create perfect 3-minute moments for your child. This practice can ease and beautify your evening, with a child who’s just been gently guided to be more well-behaved, feeling loved and eager to reciprocate that affection towards their parents.
You will undoubtedly be greatly surprised by how maintaining this habit can bring about such positive changes in a child. At the very least, when you realize, your child won't say, 'I had a tiring day!' but instead, they'll look into your eyes and ask, 'Can you play with me, Mom?'
The final 3 minutes before bedtime
The last three minutes of the day, children often reminisce about the day's events after their parents wish them goodnight and try to close their eyes to sleep. But don't let the child feel alone in their thoughts. Establishing a good habit every evening before bedtime is of significant value to every child.
Bedtime stories, silly games, songs sung together by both mother and child, or back rubs and massages for the child... until the child feels sleepier will provide them with a deep sleep and beautiful dreams. You can fully utilize this precious, intimate time to resolve conflicts from the day, such as: 'It seems like Mom was a bit angry when scolding you tonight!'... This way, the child will feel more compensated, both can comfortably admit their mistakes, and strive to improve in the following days.
Indeed, these essential 9 minutes should be anchored in the love and honesty you hold for your children. While 9 minutes is just a brief moment in the 24 hours of your day, paying attention and dedicating this small segment in the right way to your child can lead to profoundly positive changes in each child.
Source: trithuctre
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