1. Mentioning Ex-Girlfriends
It must be emphasized that this is the most forbidden thing for husbands to do in front of their wives. Although wives are always curious and may try to inquire or hint for their husbands to mention ex-girlfriends, husbands should be vigilant. Don't innocently confide just because your wife hints at it, or else you'll know what will happen.
Avoid mentioning ex-partners in front of your wife
Avoid mentioning ex-partners in front of your wife2. Criticizing your wife's appearance, weight...
Women, after giving birth, devote themselves entirely to their families and children, often neglecting their own appearance. If husbands fail to understand this and criticize their wives, it's akin to... insulting them. This can make them feel insecure, and they might even suspect you of having an affair, even though you are completely faithful.
Avoid criticizing your wife's appearance or weight
Avoid criticizing your wife's appearance or weight3. Speaking Ill of Your Wife
Men and women, everyone has their flaws, imperfections, no one is perfect. Women tend to gossip, speak ill of their husbands, something that husbands absolutely hate. Just like husbands, wives never want their husbands to reveal their flaws in front of friends, siblings, or even their own parents. If spoken ill of, wives feel disrespected, so husbands, remember this.
Avoid speaking ill of your wife in front of her
Avoid speaking ill of your wife in front of her4. Underestimating Your Wife's Dreams and Career
Everyone, when born and raised, has dreams, and your wife is no exception. Regardless of what she dreams of or does for a living, she has cherished it, perhaps it existed within her before you did. Even if those dreams have not been realized or cannot be realized, you should still respect them. You should not belittle or underestimate those dreams because you might be the reason she has to give them up. Try to put yourself in her shoes, imagine how heartbroken she would be.
Never underestimate your wife's dreams and career
Support your wife in pursuing her dreams5. Avoid criticizing or forbidding friendships
Both husband and wife need their own space once they have a family. If you forbid your wife from hanging out with her best friend just because she's free-spirited, or if you prevent her from attending coffee meetings with her old classmates, then you're in the wrong. Your wife understands the dynamics of those relationships better than anyone else. Perhaps they've been there for her in difficult times, so those gatherings help her unwind after long days of work. If you overly forbid her friendships, she'll be sad because she doesn't want to give up or choose between the two.
Avoid criticizing or forbidding your wife's friendships
Avoid criticizing or forbidding your wife's friendships
6. Showing off in front of friends
Almost every man likes to show off, and every smart wife is aware of maintaining her husband's image in front of friends. However, some husbands tend to show off excessively, sometimes even scolding their wives in front of friends. These husbands don't realize that their wives are also upset at that moment, but they try to hold back to save face for their husbands. Besides, they know that if they argue back in front of friends, their husbands will feel embarrassed and then be mad at them for the whole week. Husbands, remember that if you show off too much, your wife will feel underestimated, and next time, she may not bother to maintain your image in front of others. Keep that in mind.
Avoid showing off in front of friends at the expense of your wife
Always respect each other
7. Comparing with 'someone else's wife'
All comparisons are flawed because no one is perfect. 'Someone else's wife' will never be your wife, and vice versa. Just imagine if your wife takes off her apron, puts down her cooking utensils, leaves behind the pile of laundry to go to the mirror, picks out a dress she hasn't worn in ages, puts on a pair of high heels, and gracefully walks out the door—she would be 'someone else's wife' in the eyes of another man. They see your wife the same way you see someone else's wife. Do you believe there have been times when your wife has thought about 'someone else's husband' just like you do? So, you should not compare your wife to 'someone else's wife.'
Avoid comparing your wife to others
Avoid comparing your wife to others
8. Excessive praise or idolization of biological mothers
The relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is already quite complex, and encountering a husband who excessively idolizes his biological mother will make the wife very distressed. It may sound a bit extreme, but there are indeed husbands who idolize their mothers excessively, while treating their wives as if they don't exist. Although it's understood that filial piety towards parents is important, pleasing both parents and wives is not simple.
In a man's life, his wife is the second most important woman, the one who takes care of him when he's sick, and shares joys and sorrows with him throughout his life. If a wife feels that she is not treated equally compared to her mother-in-law, she feels very hurt, and from there, many negative thoughts may arise. Therefore, men should be wise in their behavior to harmonize the relationship between their mother and wife.
Avoid idolizing your biological mother excessively in front of your wife
Avoid idolizing your biological mother excessively in front of your wife
9. Discussing the toil of earning money
Because of the role of a wife and mother, many women have to set aside their careers to take care of their families and children. There are also many husbands who believe that they have to work hard to earn money to support the entire family, so they don't need to worry about whether their wives are tired or sad. They think the wife's duty is to teach and take care of the children, do all the household chores. If a husband constantly complains and talks about how hard he works to earn money, how much money he makes, it can sometimes create a lot of pressure on his wife. Husbands should understand and sympathize with the hard work of their wives instead of constantly talking about their own efforts to earn money.
Avoid discussing the toil of earning money in front of your wife
Remember the saying, 'What belongs to the husband is also the wife's'
10. Criticizing poorly cooked meals by the wife
Every husband enjoys delicious food, but not every woman can cook it because each woman has different talents and specialties in cooking. To prepare a meal, a woman works hard from shopping to cooking, and if it doesn't meet the husband's expectations, he shouldn't criticize but rather give gentle and loving suggestions. Some husbands, after drinking with friends, criticize their wives' cooking, which is like implying that they prefer eating out rather than their wives' cooking.
Avoid criticizing your wife's cooking
Cooking together can warm up the relationship
11. Excessive flirting with other women
Women, they always notice handsome, charming men and dream of having a husband like that. However, after marriage, not every flirtatious husband makes women happy because flirting with other women in unnecessary situations is a negative act. Just imagine, coming home and seeing your husband half-naked, sweaty, walking out from the neighbor's house, while the girl behind him awkwardly thanks him. Would you, as his wife, feel upset, jealous? Therefore, husbands should be aware of and avoid such unnecessary situations.
Avoid being excessively flirtatious with other women in front of your wife
Interact with other women at a basic social level only
12. Criticizing a Messy Wife
It's usually only seen as wives complaining about messy husbands, but there are husbands who aren't very clean themselves yet always criticize their wives for being messy, even though their wives do countless unnamed tasks every day. Instead of complaining, gentlemen, why not tidy up the house together with your wife and see if she's still messy and dirty. You don't know if your wife only has time to shower before going to bed, do you? Criticizing your wife for being messy and dirty will make them feel unworthy and disrespected by their husbands.
Avoid criticizing your wife for being messy and dirty
Avoid criticizing your wife for being messy and dirty
13. Criticizing Wife for Not Keeping Up with Current Affairs
Women are truly busy, from work to household chores, taking care of children, and cleaning the house. Therefore, women often do not keep up with current affairs and politics. If they have free time, women usually only focus on beauty tips or weight loss methods. Therefore, husbands should not criticize their wives for not keeping up with current affairs but instead, share and discuss updated information with them. This is also a way to increase quality time and enhance emotional connection between husband and wife.
Avoid criticizing your wife for not keeping up with current affairs
Avoid criticizing your wife for not keeping up with current affairs
While it's true that 'Love breeds jealousy,' being blindly jealous can exhaust both partners. Both spouses have their own friendships and colleagues, so if everything is within reasonable bounds, the husband should have an objective view of his wife's relationships with the opposite sex. Avoid being blindly jealous to prevent hurting both your wife and yourself.
Avoid being blindly jealous of your wife
Avoid being blindly jealous of your wife
Men often get irritated when their wives nag, and women feel the same; they don't like their husbands bringing up the same issue repeatedly. Spouses can offer each other constructive criticism to improve day by day. However, husbands who keep 'chewing over' an issue will make their wives feel uncomfortable. Moreover, women tend to overthink and interpret, so repeating things multiple times will only make the wife feel pressured and stressed, with an uncomfortable state of mind. At that point, conflicts and arguments are likely to arise.
Avoid repeating the same issue multiple times in front of your wife
Avoid repeating the same issue multiple times in front of your wife
16. Engrossed in Electronics
Husbands often have a habit of coming home from work and immediately burying themselves in computers or smartphones for entertainment. They pay no attention to their wives who have to go shopping, cook, bathe the children, and so on after work. This makes wives feel uncomfortable and annoyed because they don't get help from their husbands with household chores.
Imagine this scenario: after coming home from work, the husband engrosses himself in his phone or computer games while the wife focuses solely on beautifying herself, taking care of her skin, hair, nails, children, house, and cooking. Who is responsible for all these tasks? Husbands should understand that sharing household chores with their wives not only strengthens the marital bond but also helps quickly finish the endless chores, allowing both spouses to spend more time talking, confiding, or going out for a stroll.
Avoid being glued to electronics
Avoid being glued to electronics
17. Discussing Intimate Matters with Friends
It seems husbands often like to share intimate details with friends. However, this is something husbands don't need to do, sharing those private moments with others. The husband's friends also don't need to hear the meticulous details about those matters. All wives don't appreciate, and even feel uncomfortable when they see their husbands sharing intimate matters in bed, boasting or comparing achievements with their friends. If husbands respect the husband-wife relationship, they must avoid discussing these private matters with friends.
Avoid discussing intimate matters with friends
Avoid discussing intimate matters with friends
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