Why do couples break up? And how to avoid going into a wreck

The author of this article is Phil Ashton, a 20-year experienced professional and life coach. He resides in England, but the issues he addresses resonate well with any couple worldwide. Check it out.

The article by the author outlines why couples break up after 2 years, but in reality, everyone at any stage of a relationship can fall into these pitfalls. (Cover photo: Văn Thắng/pexels)

Whether you call it the honeymoon phase or whatever, the early stages of being in love, both parties are engulfed in desire, joy, and various emotions. This phase could last a month, a year, or even longer.

But surely they will fade away whether you want it or not.

How quickly or slowly they fade away will play a crucial role in whether a couple can sustain their relationship within the timeframe of 1 year or 2 years.

Lack of trust is often a crucial reason why each person in a couple heads in different directions. When trust fades, a relationship loses a vital element for building connection, feelings of security, and peace of mind.

Losing trust can stem from various reasons, but regardless of the cause, both have lost a solid foundation to sustain the relationship. When one, or both, no longer have trust, the breakup becomes just a matter of time.

At first encounter, most people believe they are at their best, living true to themselves, and both looking in the same direction.

But as 1-2 years pass, things tend to go the opposite way. Not only do both realize they have different goals in life, but they also see that their paths seem to diverge.

At the beginning of a relationship, both individuals are filled with excitement and anticipation, thus failing to notice the differences between them. As they spend more time together, the couple will realize there are disparities in values, lifestyles, hobbies, and other fundamentals of a long-term relationship.

If you value your current relationship and are willing to make an effort to change. Here are some ways that may help mend it.

Effective communication is extremely important in a relationship. It helps both individuals get closer and understand each other on a deep and meaningful level.

Conversely, lack of communication often leads to conflicts. If both parties find it difficult to talk to each other, find ways to resolve it as soon as possible.

In the digital age, we often find ourselves with plenty of reasons to be busy and spend less time with our significant other.

Allocate some time to do surprising and unexpected things for your partner. Just small gestures, things you used to do for them when you first met, to show them how important they are to you.

When you show such care for your partner, you'll find that they, too, gradually start doing small, interesting things for you.

Affection involves giving and receiving, and a big part of it is dedicating some of your efforts to support your partner in achieving anything they're pursuing.

This may involve a personal goal, like developing a hobby, or a career-related objective. Whatever it is, whether it's relevant to you or not, stand behind them and support them 100%.

The more time spent together, the easier it is to overlook the little things that were once part of the dating, initial stages of the relationship.

Ultimately, it's those date nights that truly spice up a relationship.

Science proves that couples who have regular date nights tend to have stronger, longer-lasting, and happier relationships together.

You can set aside a fixed evening or day in the month to go out together. It doesn't matter the frequency of the dates, what matters is both committing to having such an evening.

In summary, a relationship over 1-2 years will inevitably encounter some common issues. If you want to preserve it, communicate with each other, spend time together, support each other in life, then the relationship stands a chance to last till old age.