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My two best friends are both 32 years old now and still haven't found complete happiness despite not being single. The first friend has been in a relationship for 4 years and wants to start a family, but her partner refuses to marry her. He claims he needs to focus on his career, then talks about the burdens of family responsibilities like distant relatives' funerals. He even suggests she should let her younger sister get married first. She waits patiently, although it's clear he's no longer in love and is just making excuses. She's afraid to leave him because, at 32, and having been intimate with him, she lacks confidence in finding someone else. Every time she decides to break up, she's pulled back by memories of their early days together. The more she clings to him, the worse she's treated, and the more insecure she feels. She believes if her current partner, who claims to love her, treats her poorly, no other man will love her. My friend blames her partner for her misery, but I tell her, 'It's your own cowardice and lack of self-esteem that's causing your suffering.'
Dependent individuals never truly find happiness. Sadly, my friend's situation is not unique.
My second friend is equally unfortunate. She's married, but her husband is having an affair, and she's too afraid to leave him. One reason is the fear of financial loss through divorce, losing a monthly allowance from her husband. Another reason is her belief that if 'H' (the first friend I mentioned) is still single and can't attract anyone, how could she, who's been married for life?
Oh, women, entrusting their destiny to men, passing the ball of decision-making from one man's feet to another's, hoping they'll help. Men suffer less in love not because they have fewer emotional nerve cells than women but because they're tougher and more decisive. They love what they want and keep what they need. Women, on the other hand, want to be needed. That's the difference and the tragedy of women.
I'm not indifferent to love. I love passionately and always desire a companion, but I differ in my willingness to love and let go, never willing to bind myself, trade freedom for dependence. I believe in respecting my own life and decisions first to avoid reliance on others, or at least not to let others inflict harm on me.
So never wonder why I suffer in love while other girls are pursued by all. Women who lose out aren't those who love more but those who lack courage. As for me, I'll love fervently and let go decisively. Truly, from life and those around me, I've realized that women are superior not in finding a husband but in the courage to hold on or let go. If anyone disagrees, feel free to argue.
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