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In romantic relationships, there are inevitably moments of tension between two people. However, the worst thing is when we speak meaningless words that hurt the other person. Sometimes, they might just be a little angry and let it go, but other times, a wrong phrase can break the relationship.
Compilation of things never to say to your partner.
10 Phrases That Can Drive Couples Apart
Top 10 Phrases That Can Drive Couples Apart
1. 'If you really loved me, you would do this'
Speaking like this falls into a category of emotional manipulation. Perhaps when saying that, you don't have a specific intention like that, but clearly in the subconscious, you're trying to manipulate and exert pressure on your partner. Saying this can create imbalance and power struggles in the relationship, leading to anger and disappointment on one or both sides.
2. 'Your ex would never do that!'
This is perhaps one of the most dreadful things you could say to your partner because nobody wants to be compared to your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend. It makes the listener feel angry, insecure, and even worthless. Comparison only breeds distance and animosity in a relationship.
3. 'I wish things were like they used to be'
Certainly, when you two are tense, it's not as cheerful as it used to be. However, the truth is we can't relive or recreate the past, so making such a statement is truly meaningless, even devaluing the positive aspects of the current relationship.
4. 'Every time I hang out with friends because of you, I feel guilty'
Remember, you are the creator of your own emotions, not a victim of them, and therefore you'll only feel guilty if you truly believe you've done wrong. Don't blame your partner for your decisions.
5. 'You're so boring, not fitting with what I want'
This is an incredibly harsh and insensitive statement. Comparisons, negative evaluations, and criticisms will only drive two people further apart and cannot salvage the relationship.
6. 'Why don't you ever listen to me?'
Sometimes you may feel like your partner never listens to you, but statements like this won't help resolve any issues. The best approach is to wait until both are calm and have an honest exchange with each other.
7. 'You're so selfish!'
This is a judgmental and condemning statement, attacking the individual and leading to separation, loss of connection in the relationship.
8. 'You've changed'
Statements heavy with judgment like this will never help foster or nurture emotions. Everyone or any relationship will change. To thrive and grow, maintaining a healthy relationship, both you and your partner must change every day, of course in a positive direction.
9. 'I feel like you don't need me anymore'
We're all human, and we all want to rely on those we love. It's great to have a mutually supportive relationship, but for longevity, we can be together just because of love, without manipulation, responsibility, or pressure.
10. 'Do you love me more than her?'
Everyone is free to share their lives and have relationships with anyone, but if a third party steps in and starts destabilizing the relationship, you can make a decision instead of 'weighing' your partner's feelings.
The above article from Mytour has compiled 10 phrases that can drive couples apart. Read these phrases carefully and never use them with your loved one. That way, your love will grow stronger and more intimate.
If you accidentally use these phrases and hurt your loved one, you should refer to Mytour's best Apology Statuses and send your sincere apologies to your partner. With heartfelt apologies, your partner will be moved and forgive you right away.
