11 Effective Strategies to Rekindle Your Connection with a Virgo Man

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Exercise patience and respect his need for space.

Stay busy and focus on your well-being.

Send a considerate text, but respect his space.

Sort through your emotions on your own.

Start by being his friend.

Have an honest conversation about your relationship.

Demonstrate that you’ve grown.

Be respectful and thoughtful.

Notice the small things in his life.

Be accessible and dependable.

Express your desires clearly.

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Virgo men, born between August 23 and September 22, are thoughtful, organized, and deeply caring when it comes to relationships. If you've experienced a breakup or haven't heard from the Virgo man you're interested in for some time, you're in the right place. Continue reading for a comprehensive list of suggestions to help you get him to miss you and seek you out again, featuring advice from seasoned astrologer Stina Garbis.

How to Win a Virgo Man Back

Allow him the time and space he needs, and let him approach you.
Focus on your personal growth and engage in activities that bring you joy.
Send him a light, casual message to open communication.
Start by fostering a solid friendship with him.
Discuss what went wrong in the relationship in an open, honest manner.
Show him you're ready to evolve, learn, and make positive changes.

Steps to Take

Exercise patience and respect his need for space.

Consider the 'no contact rule' immediately after a breakup. Virgo men are practical and thoughtful, often needing time to reflect and process emotions before reaching any conclusions. If you've recently broken up, try cutting all contact for a few weeks—the space will give him time to work through any negative feelings and come to a clearer perspective.

If a disagreement occurred right before the breakup, this pause allows him to cool off. "Virgos take pride in being the critic and always right, but if they distance themselves after a conflict and you vanish for a week, regret tends to build. They want to be right but actually desire change from you, not for you to leave," explains Garbis.
However, be mindful that there’s a fine line between giving him space and playing games. If he notices you flirting with others, he might misunderstand and think you've moved on.
Virgos are practical and dislike playing mind games, so remember: you’re taking a break for reflection, not to create jealousy.
If he’s open to reconnection, the time apart will create longing. When you reach out, he might be more willing to respond positively!

Stay busy and focus on your well-being.

Virgo men value stability in their partners. As you consider how to reconnect with your Virgo man, invest time in self-improvement rather than dwelling on the relationship. Virgos, being hardworking earth signs, highly appreciate self-sufficiency and constant personal growth. If he sees that you maintain balance and have a fulfilling life—both with and without him—he’s more likely to feel drawn back to you.

During a breakup, it's tempting to let sadness impact your appearance or habits. However, Garbis notes that cleanliness and hygiene are especially important to Virgos, so make sure to keep up with these habits.
It’s crucial to take care of yourself for your own sake, but it’ll also impress your Virgo man. He’ll admire your strength and grace in handling the breakup.
Social media can be a great way to keep him updated without direct communication. Post updates and photos showing your progress—it'll remind him that you're moving forward and might make him want to reconnect.

Send a considerate text, but respect his space.

Once you've given him time, it's time to catch his attention again. Try sending a light and casual text without overwhelming emotion, and wait for his reply before texting again. If he’s open to reconnecting, he’s likely thinking about you already—so keep the communication subtle to show you’re thinking of him too.

Although Virgos feel deeply, they prefer straightforward, rational communication over emotional outbursts. They appreciate "honesty and availability," says Garbis.
Avoid using text messages to unload heavy emotions or express how much you miss him. Instead, send gentle, friendly texts that show your affection without being too intense.
For example, you could send something like, “Hey, it’s been a while. How have you been?” or “I walked by the park today and thought of those fun picnics we had. Hope you're doing well :)”

Sort through your emotions on your own.

A Virgo man struggles to balance your emotions with his own. These earth signs seek peace and stability, so if you approach them with uncertainty or emotional turmoil, they may have trouble handling the situation. Take the necessary time to process the breakup, address your feelings, and ensure that reconciliation is truly what you want. When you reach out to your Virgo man after having gathered your thoughts, he will be more open to listening to you.

For a Virgo man to feel ready to reconnect, he needs to know you can handle your emotions independently and that he’ll be given the same space to do so.
This doesn’t mean you have to recover alone! Surround yourself with supportive friends and family during this time.

Start by being his friend.

Friendship is a key first step in reconnecting with Virgo men. As mutable signs, Virgos are capable of change but prefer to evolve gradually and thoughtfully. This means they won’t rush back into a romantic relationship—they’ll want to take things slowly to ensure it's the right decision. Before diving into a romantic reconnection, show him that you can be a dependable friend, without any hidden romantic expectations.

Invite him for something casual, like a coffee. For example, you could say, "How about we grab a coffee this week? I’d love to catch up."
Although Virgo men often appear calm and composed, they still care deeply. He may still have feelings for you but needs time to sort through them.

Have an honest conversation about your relationship.

Talk about the relationship's issues and how to resolve them. If your Virgo man feels there are unresolved matters in the relationship, a serious conversation will likely be necessary before you can reconnect. As Mercury-ruled individuals, Virgos are known for their love of communication and intellectual analysis, so they appreciate discussing matters and looking at them from all angles. Remember, Virgos favor practicality, so approach past issues with a straightforward attitude.

Remain calm when addressing previous conflicts, avoiding any expectation (or forcing) of an immediate apology.
Focus on the past issues but keep the conversation oriented toward a hopeful future where those problems can be solved.
Bear in mind that Virgos can be critical and perfectionistic, not out of judgment, but because they see relationships as problems to be solved and perfected.
If you’re looking to reconnect, Garbis notes that “It’s all about how readily a Virgo can forgive and how much you are willing to accept the Virgo's standards.”

Demonstrate that you’ve grown.

Virgo men, being mutable signs, place great value on adaptability and change. While conflict may have caused a rift, a genuine commitment to growth can heal the wounds. A Virgo man will only consider getting back together if he believes the problems are solvable and if he sees that you’re ready to improve, learn, and put those changes into practice.

If you apologize for past mistakes, ensure your actions back up those words; Virgos believe actions speak louder than words. Consider how you’ll address similar issues going forward and let him know.
If tardiness was an issue, set reminders to ensure you show up on time. If commitment to the future was a concern, share a long-term plan.
When a Virgo man is ready to reconnect, his actions will reflect his own self-improvement. Virgo men have high standards for their partners and hold themselves to the same standards.
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Be respectful and thoughtful.

Virgo men highly value respect and good manners. They’re known for being considerate and deeply caring, always eager to help others. Show him that you are both compassionate and respectful, not just in your relationship with him, but also in how you treat everyone around you. If your Virgo man needs extra reassurance that you’re the one for him, demonstrating your empathy might just make him eager to reconnect.

More generally, he values a partner who extends kindness and consideration to everyone. Small gestures like tipping your barista generously, holding the door for someone, or volunteering can speak volumes.

Notice the small things in his life.

Virgo men have a keen eye for detail and are incredibly observant. To connect with him, pay attention to the finer points of his life—whether it's the way he likes his coffee, the music he turns to when he’s feeling stressed, or how he arranges his books. He’ll appreciate someone who notices and understands these subtle aspects of his life.

If you’re trying to build a friendship or take steps toward rekindling romance, do something thoughtful to show you care.
For example, if you know he works late on Thursdays, consider preparing dinner for him that evening. Or, if you spot a new book by his favorite author, surprise him with it.

EXPERT ADVICE

Stina Garbis

Stina Garbis
Psychic Astrologer

Here are some ways to catch the attention of a Virgo man. Start by focusing on cleanliness and personal hygiene—they appreciate when you smell and look great. Be intelligent and witty, but also let him have his moments to explain things, and be an attentive listener. A smart, down-to-earth vibe might just be the spark that attracts him.

Be accessible and dependable.

Demonstrate to your Virgo man that you’re supportive. Garbis notes that Virgos tend to be more receptive, meaning they aren’t always the ones to take the lead or pursue you. After you’ve spent time rebuilding your connection, it’s helpful to be as present and dependable as possible so he knows you’re genuinely committed.

There’s no need to overwhelm him; just respond when he reaches out and show him that you’re always there when he needs you.

Express your desires clearly.

Virgo men can be a bit insecure when it comes to emotions, so be the one to take charge. If you’re looking to reconnect, make sure you clearly communicate what you want—and back those words up with your actions. This clarity might help him overcome his insecurities and open up to a romantic relationship once again.

Wait for the right moment to express your feelings. If he’s spending quality time with you, making eye contact, mirroring your body language, or touching your hand, it may be the perfect time to share your emotions.
If he doesn’t feel the same way, that’s okay. Be proud of the effort you put into reconnecting, but don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work out. There’s a whole world of new opportunities and people for you to explore!