Buzz
Are you talking to a guy through text messages, but it seems like he's not as excited as before? If he feels you're texting too much, he might pull back and lose interest. So, can you draw him back by stopping the messages? This could be a great strategy to reel him in, so keep reading to discover how to 'play hard to get' and get him to reach out to you whenever he can!
Steps to follow
Text less
Instead of completely stopping communication, text less frequently to make him miss you. You don't need to stop texting entirely for him to notice; just reduce the frequency of your texts. Try texting once or twice a week instead of daily so that he has some space. Since you're not texting as often, he'll get curious and want to know what's new with you and want to talk.
- If you stop texting altogether, he might think you've given up and no longer care about him.
Wait for him to reply before texting again
You'll seem too eager if you send two messages in a row to a guy. If he hasn’t replied yet, try to hold back and don’t ask where he is or if he’s seen your message. He might just be busy and not have his phone with him, so give him the chance to respond. Once he does, you don’t need to reply immediately.
- Let him wait as long as you did. He might realize he wants to chat with you more.
- Instead of sending continuous texts, space out your conversations to build attraction, especially when you’ve just met someone.
- Sending more than one message consecutively can not only make you seem desperate, but also annoy the other person if they’re not interested in chatting at that moment.
Let him take the lead in starting the conversation
Pass the ball into his court so he has to make the first move. If you’ve always been the one to reach out and start the conversation, try waiting this time. When he notices you’re not greeting or checking in, he’ll start to miss the fun chats you had and will reach out to you.
Leave the 'read' notification on some of his messages
If he finds you unpredictable, he’ll be more excited when you reach out again. If his messages don’t require an immediate response, read them but don’t reply right away. Set your phone on silent or turn it off so you're not tempted to check or text him. He may even text you again to grab your attention.
- By the end of the day, you can always respond by saying you were busy, so he doesn't feel ignored.
Respond with vague details
He'll want to keep texting to learn more about you. Guys often like girls who are a little mysterious, so don’t share every little detail about what you're doing. Let him know a bit about what’s new, but leave it unfinished so he has to ask for more.
- “I had so much fun hanging out with my friends over the weekend… we were out of control…”
- “I’m so excited! I’m working on a secret project right now 😊”
- “We should definitely hang out sometime if you want to hear the rest of the story 😉”
Respond positively to messages you like
A positive response will show him what kind of messages you enjoy. If a guy doesn’t put effort into his texts, he won’t give you much to respond to, so you don’t have to reply. But when he sends thoughtful messages and shows genuine interest, make sure to respond enthusiastically so he knows what you’re looking for in the conversation.
- If he asks about a fun day you mentioned earlier: “Thanks for asking! 😊 I had such a great time. I went hiking with some friends! But it would’ve been even more fun if you were there 😏”
- If he shares what he's been doing: “That sounds awesome! I’m glad everything’s going well for you 🙂”
- If he invites you out on a date: “That’s so sweet!! 🥰 I’d love to hang out with you!”
Focus on yourself and your other relationships
He will be more interested in talking to you if you have a life outside of the relationship. Take time for your personal interests and build other connections so that you can become the best version of yourself. He will notice that you have a genuinely exciting life and will want to get to know you better.
- If he invites you out or to do something, you can say something like, "Oh, that sounds fun, but I have plans to volunteer with my friend. Let's catch up later! 🙂"
- If you're constantly texting a guy, he may not realize that you have a full and fun life with exciting things happening.
Share what you're up to on social media
He will want to talk to you more when he sees how fulfilling your life is. Post a status update or share a photo of some of the most interesting activities you've been involved in lately. If he follows you on social media, he'll realize he's missed out on a lot and will want to dedicate more time and energy to you.
- You could share about your recent vacation, hanging out with friends, completing a project you're passionate about, or even just a really good selfie.
Flirt with a few other guys
He will reach out to you more often if he feels there is competition. Don’t hesitate to post a playful comment on someone else’s social media or compliment another guy. When the guy you like hears about this, he may jump into the game to prove that he deserves your time and attention.
- You could even snap a few pictures of you hanging out with others and share them online.
- This flirty tactic might be risky, as the guy you like might think you're losing interest in him. Just be sure not to go overboard.
Move on if you no longer feel a connection
You might notice that there is no strong bond when you and he stop communicating. A bit of distance between you two will help you understand what you truly want and need from a relationship. If he doesn't reach out, or if your feelings for him change after you stop chatting, it might be time to let go and start texting someone else.
- There are plenty of people eager to chat with you, so don’t be afraid to step out there!
Be true to yourself
He will like you for who you truly are, no matter how you text. Even if you're trying to attract a guy’s attention, if you feel like you’re compromising your values or completely changing your personality just for him, you're not giving him the chance to see the real you.
