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Being ignored by someone can be painful, but you have the ability to bring closure and move forward. So, how can you end things with someone who's gone silent on you? Don't worry, we've got your back. In this article, we've compiled a list of messages you can use to achieve the closure you deserve. Whether they respond or not, remember that you deserve better treatment.
Steps
“Hey, are you doing okay? It's been a while.”
Sending a check-in message is a gentle way to grab their attention. If you've sent numerous messages without receiving a response, consider trying a different approach. You're simply trying to see if they're doing okay, and there's no harm in showing concern. This message works well when you want to check on an old friend or a partner who's been going through emotional struggles.
- “I don't want us to get back together. I just want to know if you're okay.”
- “Could you reply so I know you're doing alright?”
- “Last month was really tough, but I just want to make sure you're okay, no strings attached.”
“Hey, lately you've been reading my messages but not responding. I want to know why.”
Address their absence to start the conversation. They've disappeared without giving you an explanation, so there's no reason to hesitate when reaching out! Be upfront and let them know you want to bring closure so you can move on.
- “I'm not sure why you’re not talking to me, but I want us to end things so we can move forward.”
- “I want to talk to you. Can you share a few words about what happened between us?”
- “I know something’s up because you’re not responding to my messages. That’s okay, but it’s best for us to clear the air so we can both move on.”
“I’d be really glad if we could have a conversation.”
Let them know you're willing to talk if they want to. If you're looking for simplicity, this is a great approach. Don’t shy away from expressing your emotions. They’ve hurt you, and you have every right to let that be known.
- “It’s probably best for us to wrap things up. Are you free to talk?”
- “I feel hurt that you’ve been ignoring me like this. I just need a proper goodbye.”
- “Can we talk about what happened? I don’t want us to get back together, but it’s still better to say goodbye.”
“I can't move on unless we say goodbye.”
Thành thật cho họ biết chuyện này tác động đến bạn như thế nào. Nói rằng bạn đã sẵn sàng bước tiếp và không có ý định nối lại mối quan hệ, nhưng bạn cần có câu trả lời. Một số người phớt lờ vì họ nghĩ đó là cách dễ dàng và tế nhị để chấm dứt. Nếu bạn vẫn không ngừng tự hỏi “vì sao”, hãy hỏi họ xem có thể nói chuyện thêm một lần không.
- “Anh nghĩ có lẽ em đã bước tiếp rồi, nhưng anh không thể làm vậy khi chưa có câu trả lời.”
- “Em không muốn chúng ta quay lại với nhau. Em chỉ muốn nói về chuyện đã xảy ra để cả hai cùng có thể bước tiếp.”
- “Em có rảnh để nói chuyện không? Anh nghĩ một cuộc trò chuyện khép lại mọi thứ sẽ có ích cho cả hai chúng ta.”
“Dù gì cũng quen nhau đã khá lâu rồi, chúng ta nên nói lời chia tay mới phải.”
Đề cập đến thời gian quen nhau cũng là một cách hiệu quả. Dù hai người là bạn bè lâu năm hoặc chỉ mới hẹn hò, hãy nhắc họ về những khoảng thời gian vui vẻ bên nhau. Cả hai bạn đếu xứng đáng được nói ra những suy nghĩ của mình trước khi mỗi người đi một hướng.
- “Chúng ta đã là bạn bè nhiều năm rồi. Lẳng lặng cắt đứt mà không nói gì thì thật không hay.”
- “Em biết anh không thích nói lời chia tay, nhưng thời gian chúng ta ở bên nhau ít ra cũng xứng đáng để nói một câu phải không.”
- “Anh biết chúng ta quen nhau không lâu, nhưng một lời chia tay vẫn tốt hơn là không nói gì.”
“Em có thể nói cho anh biết chuyện gì đã xảy ra không?”
Đề nghị họ nói thật vì sao lại phớt lờ bạn. Hãy nói thẳng thắn trong tin nhắn, nhìn nhận chuyện đã xảy ra giữa hai bạn và hỏi họ lý do vì sao. Đôi khi, bạn cần biết sự thật để còn bước tiếp, ngay cả khi người kia nghĩ rằng họ im lặng là tốt cho bạn.
- “Anh biết là mọi chuyện không diễn ra như chúng ta mong muốn, nhưng anh vẫn xứng đáng được biết vì sao em lại biến mất.”
- “Em cũng đã sẵn sàng bước tiếp rồi, nhưng em cần có câu trả lời. Anh có thể nói cho em biết vì sao anh bỏ đi không?”
- “Thật là tệ vì mọi việc không như ý muốn. Em có thể cho anh biết có chuyện gì xảy ra không?”
“Is our relationship over?”
Ask a question to make it clear that you need an answer. It can be confusing and frustrating to be ignored. If you're unsure where your relationship stands, be straightforward and ask them. Frame the question according to your relationship's status.
- “So, are we breaking up?”
- “Should I start meeting new people? I really want to end things.”
- “We’re still friends, right?”
“I’m really hurt that you disappeared without saying a word.”
Expressing your hurt can help you find closure. Don’t be afraid to share your emotions in a brief, direct message. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you truly deserve closure. Let them know how you feel—maybe they’ll realize that staying silent hurts you more than ending things outright.
- “I wish you’d talked to me before disappearing.”
- “Being ignored hurts more than talking about breaking up.”
- “Our relationship should end, but I wish we could have said goodbye.”
“I hope you’re doing well. Maybe we should talk to close things properly?”
A simple, friendly message might help you get a response from them. Even if they don't reply, they might still read your message. Be polite, open, and honest when suggesting that you both end the relationship. Don’t hesitate to explain why you want to have the conversation.
- “Hope you’re doing well! I’d like to talk to you about what happened between us.”
- “I hope you’re alright. Maybe we should talk things through for the sake of both of us.”
- “Can we talk soon? I need closure so I can move forward.”
"I just passed by our old campsite. Hope to talk to you soon."
Remind them of your existence by recalling a shared memory. Even if you’ve only known each other for a short time, you probably have some memorable moments together. Instead of sending a barrage of messages asking why they’re ignoring you, send a light, no-pressure message. This is a good way to bring up the past and let them know you need closure.
- “You won’t believe what I saw on my way to work this morning! I want to tell you about it and talk about what happened between us.”
- “Today I saw a funny shirt that made me think of you. I wish things didn’t end so abruptly like this. Maybe we’ll talk soon about it.”
- “You know, I just passed our old café. I thought about getting a milkshake and coming over to talk.”
Do nothing at all
People who ignore often avoid confrontation. They ignore because it’s the easier path or to avoid conflict. They might not want to explain why they’ve been ignoring you. You can let their silence speak for itself and consider it the end.
- If they chose to end the relationship, it’s their loss! There are plenty of people out there who are eager to get to know you.
- Instead of texting someone who’s ignoring you, reach out to one of your friends. It’s painful to be ignored, but you always have the support of your friends.
Advice
- There's no certainty that the other person will reply to your message. They may have hurt you, but you have the power to choose to move on.
- Everyone has their unique way of dealing with being ignored and moving forward. Do what feels right for you, and everything will eventually work itself out.
