Buzz
You may dream of being by your boyfriend's side every moment, but there are bound to be times when you both have to be apart. Fortunately, texting can be a fun way to keep the spark alive until you meet again. Flirting through messages is an art, but we have plenty of tips to help make your boyfriend smile every time he sees your name pop up on his screen.
Steps
Send him a photo.
Snap a picture of anything around you. Of course, a selfie always works well, especially if you’ve just tried a cute new hairstyle or picked up a lovely outfit. But sometimes, you should step outside the selfie zone. Show him things like the neighbor’s adorable cat, a beautiful view from your lunch spot with friends, or a fantastic piece of street art you spotted on your way to meet someone.
- This not only helps spark a conversation, but it also lets him see interesting things around you, making him long to be with you even more!
Compliment him.
Mention something you genuinely admire about him. If you want to see a smile on your boyfriend's face, surprise him with an unexpected compliment. For a more personal touch, choose something specific and truly unique about him.
- Flirt with him by complimenting his appearance, like "That shirt you're wearing today really shows off your strong arms! I can tell you've been hitting the gym! You look amazing."
- Highlight his softer side by praising his personality. Say something like, "You always know just what to say to make me feel better when I'm down. How do you always know what I need to hear?"
Let him know when something reminds you of him.
Let him know that he's always on your mind. Have you ever wondered if he thinks about you when you're apart? He might be wondering the same thing. The next time something reminds you of him, no matter how small, grab your phone and send him a quick text!
- If you're listening to a song that reminds you of him, send him the link with a simple message like, "Is this us?"
- If you pass by a restaurant you both used to visit, send him a photo with a message like, "That night was so much fun! We should go back there sometime!"
- Make him laugh by reminding him of an inside joke, like sending him a picture of a frog with the caption, "Oh my gosh, it's the singer we heard that night at the bar!"
Ask questions to help him open up about himself.
Use messages to learn more about each other. Give your boyfriend a chance to talk about himself so he feels valued and appreciated. Start the conversation by asking about his day, and occasionally ask questions to keep the conversation going. Just remember not to bombard him with too many questions so it doesn’t feel like an interrogation.
- Try asking about his favorite childhood memories or even just what he had for lunch – anything that gets him talking about himself works.
- Have some fun with light-hearted questions that make him choose, like "If you could only listen to one band for the rest of your life, which one would you pick?" or "Pineapple on pizza, yay or nay?"
Ask him to recommend something to you.
Let him know you value his opinion. Asking your boyfriend for help making a decision is a subtle compliment that he has great taste. Doesn't that sound nice? Just remember to follow his suggestion! He’ll feel disappointed if you ask for his opinion and then do the opposite.
- For example, you could send him a picture of two shirts and ask which one you should wear.
- If you’re looking for something new to listen to, ask him to recommend one of his favorite albums!
Start with something interesting.
Don’t use boring openers like "Hey" or "What are you doing?" Those greetings sound like you’re just sitting there with nothing to do. Instead, kick things off with something spontaneous and fun – like you’re excited to share something with him!
- Try teasing him with a curiosity-piquing opener like "You won’t believe who I saw today!" or "Guess what happened in math class today?"
- You could also bring up your previous conversation with something like, "Do you remember when we talked about Greek food? I just found a place we can check out this weekend."
Tell him about something that happened to you during the day.
Make him feel like he's always by your side. It doesn’t have to be something extraordinary – just share something that makes him feel like a part of your life. As the conversation continues, you can switch to a flirty tone to keep him on his toes.
- For example, you might text him saying, "My new colleague has this super annoying habit," or "I just watched an amazing movie today that I think you’d love."
Laugh when he jokes.
A simple "haha" or smiley face can make him smile. Who doesn’t like getting a good laugh? So, if your boyfriend cracks a joke, take a moment to show him you appreciate his humor – try texting "haha haha", "I’m dying of laughter!" or send a string of laughing emojis.
- Laughing at someone’s joke is a classic way to flirt – just bring this trick into the digital age!
Share something you care about with him.
Give him a glimpse into your world. Don’t feel like you need to spend the whole conversation focusing solely on him. If there’s something interesting you’re knowledgeable about, don’t hesitate to share! Enthusiasm is contagious, especially when you’re talking about your passions, so let him know why it excites you.
- For example, if you’re passionate about paleontology and just read an article about a newly discovered dinosaur species, send it to him! If your boyfriend isn’t familiar with it, give him a bit of context, like "This is the first new fossil found in over 50 years!"
Tease him a little.
Try teasing him, but do it with care. Most guys understand that being teased is a sign of affection, but be careful with this one. Avoid joking about anything that could be sensitive for him. Stick to light-hearted and positive jokes – after all, your goal is still to flirt with him!
- One of the best ways to tease him is by focusing on one of his strengths. If he’s great at basketball, for example, you could say, "Let’s hit the gym tomorrow. I’ll show you how to make a 3-point shot!"
Share some fun date ideas.
Share with your boyfriend your ideas for activities you could do together. Get him excited to see you by telling him where you’d like to go or what you’d like to do next time. Not only does this relieve him from the pressure of coming up with new date ideas, but it also lets him know what you like. What’s more, he’ll see that you’re looking forward to your next meeting.
- If you heard about a band performing in the city, send him the event link and text, "I’m planning to buy tickets for this show. Would you like to join me?"
Be there for him when he's having a tough day.
Instead of trying to offer solutions, just listen to him. We all have our bad days from time to time. If you know he’s had a rough day at work, isn’t feeling well, or is under a lot of stress, let him know you care. Be there to listen if he wants to talk, but don’t push him if he doesn’t. Either way, show him that you’re by his side and ask if there’s anything you can do to help lighten his load.
- Don’t offer a list of suggestions on what he should do unless he specifically asks for your advice. Sometimes, all someone really needs is someone to listen and let them vent.
Flirt a little.
Turn up the heat if both of you are comfortable. You don’t always have to be shy when flirting via text with your boyfriend. If something spicy is on your mind, subtly hint at it and see if he picks up on it. Sending a flirty emoji or a suggestive song can make the conversation feel more relaxed and intimate. You could also simply tell him what’s on your mind, like saying, "I’ve been thinking about you all day. Last night was amazing!"
- There are some people who aren’t as fond of suggestive messages, so if either of you isn’t into “dirty talk” or provocative images, it’s perfectly fine. If you both enjoy it, you can save the flirting for when you’re together!
Advice
- Keep things light and playful in most of your messages – focus on flirty, humorous, and fun exchanges.
- Generally, avoid controversial topics like politics or religion in texts. If you must bring them up, it’s best to wait until you’re face-to-face to gauge how the other person reacts.
- Keep your messages brief. If something requires more than a few sentences to explain, suggest a call or say you'll explain in person.
- Don’t dwell on one topic for too long. Switch it up now and then to keep things interesting.
- Add some emojis to spice up your messages, but don’t overdo it.
