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Do you wish to become a better version of yourself? Does it hurt to see that look of disappointment in your parents’ eyes? Or maybe your parents seem to admire your more obedient, mature sibling, and you'd like to be more like them. Now’s the time to show respect to your elders—not only to please them but to create a more respectful environment for everyone.
Guidelines
Listen to your parents and follow their guidance.
No, you’re not expected to follow every order like a robot. But if they ask you to complete your homework, go ahead and do it. You don’t have to take every instruction literally—use your judgment. For instance, if your mom asks you to wash the dishes, she’s probably just looking for a little help around the house.
Take care of chores before being told.
If you notice something that needs to be done, go ahead and do it. If you hear your mom talking about the pile of dishes, surprise her by cleaning them up.
- This isn’t just about obedience. These are life skills you’ll need as an adult. If you don’t start now, how will you manage on your own later?
- Do thoughtful things for your parents—not just to please them, but because bringing joy to others helps you grow into a kinder, better person.
Show your parents the respect they deserve.
Avoid talking back, using rude words, or acting uninterested when they speak to you.
- Being respectful doesn’t mean blind obedience. Be kind to everyone, not just your elders—even to kids at school who aren’t always nice. Earning respect and doing the right thing will make you feel proud of who you are.
Make a kind gesture toward your parents.
Think about everything they’ve done for you. A handmade gift or a thoughtful card is a great gesture. Helping out with chores is another good idea. Honestly, even a sincere "thank you" means a lot—they don’t expect much, just a little appreciation.
Practice forgiveness.
Remember, your parents are human too and they’re bound to make mistakes. Instead of reacting harshly, try to be mature and see things from their point of view. Let go of the things that bother you and focus on what you admire in them.
Show gratitude.
Being a parent isn’t easy. As kids, we often don’t realize the struggles they’ve faced while raising us. Take time to recognize their strengths and thank them for everything they’ve done. Be grateful—they gave you life. Pregnancy is tough. And beyond that, learn to be thankful for all that life offers. Stay present and appreciate what you have—it’ll lift your spirit.
If you have siblings, treat them with kindness and respect.
Treat them the way you’d like to be treated. Help younger siblings and be patient when they want to spend time with you—unless you're busy with homework or chores, in which case, kindly explain. They look up to you, so be a role model. For older siblings, show them respect too. Even if they’re not adults, they’re still older and deserve courtesy.
Strive for good grades and positive school feedback.
Work towards getting good grades—not just to make your parents proud, but because it benefits you. Your marks reflect your effort and engagement.
- Stay focused in class and complete your assignments. A weekly planner can help you stay organized.
- Study diligently. Teachers and parents value effort just as much as results.
- If your grades drop, don't panic or hide it. Be honest—your parents care more about your learning than the score.
- Remember, getting an education is a privilege. Many kids, especially girls, don’t have that chance. Even if your school isn’t private, you’re still fortunate compared to many others.
Dress in neat, modest clothing.
Avoid wearing clothes with offensive messages. Discover and embrace your own style—whether it's goth, dark academia, punk, preppy, kawaii, cottagecore, steampunk, VSCO, ulzzang, emo, or just jeans and a T-shirt. Start expressing yourself in a way that feels true to you.
Maintain good hygiene and take care of your health.
Your parents or guardians shouldn't have to constantly remind you to bathe. Do it for yourself. Wash your face and brush your teeth every day—it’s about self-respect and wellness.
EXPERT TIP
Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
Marriage & Family Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist
Looking after your own well-being benefits both you and your family. Taking time to recharge makes you a more positive and supportive part of the household. When you feel your best, it’s easier to create a cheerful and balanced home.
Go easy on makeup if your parents are against it.
If you're really into makeup, politely ask your parents and explain why. If they say no, don’t argue—just ask for their reasoning.
- If your personal style includes makeup and they approve, then enjoy it!
- Use makeup as a way to explore and express yourself, not to hide. If you start feeling like you can't be yourself without it, reflect on that. And remember, makeup isn’t what defines beauty—everyone has it naturally too.
Understand and honor the relationship you share with your parents.
Keep in mind that your parents are adults with more life experience. They’ve faced many of the challenges you're now going through, so while you don’t have to blindly follow their advice, it’s wise to consider their perspective. Most parents genuinely want the best for you and are trying to help you avoid the mistakes they once made.
Recognize that you're still growing up.
It might not be what you want to hear, but it's true—you’re still a child, no matter how smart you are. Adults tend to have more knowledge simply because they've lived longer and experienced more.
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Act with maturity, responsibility, and common sense.
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Keep your personal space neat and organized.
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Never bully others, even if it seems like everyone else is doing it.
The suggestions in this section come from the real-life stories of Mytour readers like you. If you’ve got a tip to offer, feel free to share it using the submission box below.
- Have fun with classic childhood pastimes like playing games or helping out at home instead of spending too much time on screens. Parents love seeing their kids enjoy being kids without growing up too fast through tech.
- Though you’re still gaining experience, remember that every day is helping you grow into a capable, confident adult — and your parents are part of that journey.
- Form good habits and let your parents see your talents and interests — they truly enjoy discovering what you're passionate about.
- If your siblings bother you, avoid fighting back. Instead, tell your parents calmly so they can sort things out fairly.
- Wait for a natural pause in conversation before speaking when adults are talking. Being polite really does make a difference.
- Join in respectfully at family meals. It’s a great moment to connect and enjoy some meaningful conversation.
Important Reminders
- Avoid getting in trouble at school — don’t interrupt the teacher, always bring the right materials, and skip the gum during class.
- Refrain from using bad language or speaking negatively about others.
- If you bring a phone to school, make sure it’s allowed and that your parents are okay with it. Keep it off during lessons.
