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Are you too shy to approach that adorable guy sitting in front of you in class? Or perhaps you enjoy the thrill of making him take the initiative? Whatever your reason, you’re likely wondering how to grab his attention without making the first move. Fortunately, there are plenty of subtle strategies you can use to make yourself stand out. This article will guide you through some simple yet effective methods to catch the eye of that special someone.
Steps
Smile at him.
Don’t hesitate to shine when he looks your way. If there’s one thing almost guaranteed to catch a guy’s attention, it’s a warm, friendly smile. If he glances at you, don’t pretend you didn’t notice. Instead, meet his gaze and flash him a genuine smile.
- You don’t have to grin from ear to ear if it makes you feel self-conscious. In fact, a slightly mysterious smile can be even more intriguing.
- A smile shows that you’re approachable and interested, making him feel much more comfortable about starting a conversation with you.
Make eye contact.
Hold his gaze for a few seconds. Eye contact is a powerful way to grab someone’s attention and show them you’re interested. Lock eyes with him for just a moment longer than usual—but not too long!
- Avoid staring to the point where it becomes awkward. A few seconds is usually enough!
Play with your hair.
Tuck your hair behind your ear or flip it over your shoulder. Run your fingers through your hair or twirl a strand around your finger when he looks your way. No matter how you do it, playing with your hair is a timeless and subtle flirting technique.
Glance at him over your shoulder.
Let him catch you glancing his way. Try this move when you pass by him in the hallway, cafeteria, or after class. As you walk past, quickly turn your head to look at him—just for a second.
- Don’t forget to smile if he looks back at you!
Get closer to him.
Find excuses to be near him. If you see him studying in the library, sit nearby. Move closer when the teacher calls the class to see something. You can even try lightly touching him occasionally—for example, “accidentally” brush your hand against his arm when you both reach for napkins in the cafeteria during lunch.
Adopt a friendly posture.
Stand tall and relax your shoulders. Let your arms hang naturally at your sides instead of crossing them. This makes you appear approachable, open, and relaxed. A confident posture also helps you feel (and look) more self-assured.
- He might hesitate to approach if you’re crossing your arms, staring at the floor, or slouching. Closed-off body language sends a strong signal that says, “Leave me alone.”
- Don’t forget to breathe! Take slow, deep breaths to help you feel calm and comfortable around him.
Dress neatly.
Looking good will naturally draw his attention. Choose outfits that fit well, flatter your figure, and make you feel confident. Always ensure your clothes are clean and tidy. If you like, add a standout accessory like a vibrant sweater or a striking necklace.
- Don’t forget to style your hair!
- You can also opt for light makeup if it suits you.
- You want him to be drawn to the real you, so stay true to yourself! Wear what makes you comfortable and reflects your personality.
Do something unexpected.
Don’t be afraid to act a little spontaneous or silly sometimes. He won’t be able to ignore you if you do something surprising or out of the ordinary. It’s also a great way to showcase your fun and humorous side! You don’t need to do anything extreme. For example, you could:
- Write your phone number on a paper airplane and launch it toward his desk.
- Catch his eye and perform a quick magic trick.
- Make a funny face or wink at him when he looks your way.
Speak up in class.
He won’t notice you if you’re always looking down. If you’re in the same class, don’t hesitate to ask questions or participate. In the next session, if you know the answer, raise your hand! Be ready to join the next discussion with a thoughtful comment. Your guy will only pay attention when you speak up.
- If you’re not in the same class, find other ways to stand out when he’s around. For example, strike up a conversation with someone in his group during lunch.
Put your phone away.
You’ll seem more approachable if you’re not glued to your phone. When he’s nearby, put your phone down or stash it in your bag. If you look up and engage with the world around you, he’ll notice and feel more inclined to start a conversation.
Show genuine interest in others.
Let him see how kind and likable you are. Show off your best, most caring self, and he’ll be captivated. Demonstrate that you’re helpful, friendly, and considerate to everyone around you, whether he’s there or not. If he is, he’ll notice—and if not, your good reputation will eventually reach him.
- For example, you could assist a classmate who’s struggling, volunteer to clean up after lunch, or brighten someone’s day with a sincere compliment.
Spend time near him without your group of friends.
Sometimes guys feel intimidated by large groups. If you usually hang out with a big crowd, try not to always be surrounded by them when you’re near the guy you like. You’re more likely to catch his attention if you’re alone or with just one or two friends. Plus, he might feel more comfortable approaching you in a less crowded setting.
- If you’re with a large group and spot him, find an excuse to step away. For example, during lunch, you could say, “Hey everyone, I forgot—I need to grab some napkins.”
Relax and be yourself.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not when you’re around him. Be the most authentic, genuine version of yourself! You’ll feel more confident and at ease, and this will naturally draw his attention.
- Remember, if he isn’t attracted to the real you, then you two might not be the best match anyway.
