14 Clear Indicators That a Woman is Attracted to Another Woman

She closes the distance between you. If she moves closer to you, it’s a strong sign she’s interested. Has she been invading your personal space more than usual? This isn’t random. She might choose to sit beside you in class, lean in during conversations, or walk next to you even in a group setting. Essentially, she’s subtly communicating, “I enjoy your presence.”

She creates opportunities to spend time with you. If she’s attracted to you, she’ll go out of her way to be near you. Reflect on how often you’ve crossed paths recently. Even if you’re part of the same friend circle, she’ll find reasons to be around you more. Perhaps she offers to help with your assignments or suggests walking home together.

She initiates physical contact. It’s a well-known fact that people touch those they’re attracted to. Physical gestures are a clear indicator of interest. Has she “accidentally” grazed your hand or brushed against your arm recently? If so, it’s likely no accident—she’s showing she’s into you.

She acts nervous in your presence. If a typically confident girl becomes awkward or shy around you, it’s a sign she likes you. Women often feel flustered or self-conscious around their crushes, and this applies to WLW (women-loving-women) dynamics too. Does she blush or stumble over her words when you’re nearby? If this behavior is unusual for her, she’s probably smitten.

She frequently praises you. If she’s attracted to you, you’re likely the center of her attention. Reflect on your recent interactions. Has she been showering you with compliments more than usual? Perhaps she’s mentioned how good you look, how charming your smile is, or how impressed she is by your dedication. If her compliments seem excessive, it’s a strong hint she’s interested in you.

She holds your gaze intensely. When a girl looks deeply into your eyes, it’s often a sign of attraction. While WLW relationships can be subtle, experts suggest paying attention to her eye contact. If she maintains prolonged eye contact and struggles to look away, it’s a clear indicator she’s into you.

She engages in playful flirting. Confident gestures like winks or teasing remarks often signal her interest. Think about your recent exchanges. Has she laughed excessively at your jokes, twirled her hair, or sent a playful wink your way? These are likely signs she’s flirting. Observe her body language closely to confirm her intentions.

She takes extra care with her appearance. Spending more time grooming herself can be a sign she’s crushing on you. If you notice her putting extra effort into her hair, makeup, or outfit before meeting you, it’s a strong indication she’s trying to impress you.

She asks detailed questions and remembers your answers. If she’s interested, she’ll want to know everything about you. Notice if she’s been asking more personal questions lately. These aren’t just casual inquiries—she might ask about your preferences in relationships, past crushes, or dream dates, showing she’s genuinely invested in getting to know you better.

She values your perspective. If a girl is interested in you, she’ll frequently seek your opinion. She genuinely cares about your thoughts. For instance, she might ask, “Do I look okay?” or “What’s your take on this?” while showing you something. This behavior shows she prioritizes your input over others, signaling her interest.

She inquires about you through your friends. When a girl likes you, she’ll go the extra mile to learn more about you. This often involves talking to your friends or family. She might ask your best friend for amusing anecdotes about you or strike up conversations with your relatives at gatherings.

She engages with your social media activity. If someone is into you, they’ll likely keep tabs on your online presence. Has she liked an old post or commented on your recent updates? If so, she’s probably interested. By interacting with your social media, she’s trying to connect with you and understand you better.

She probes into your romantic preferences. If she asks about the type of people you’re attracted to, it could mean she’s interested in you. Has she shared her own sexual orientation with you? If she opens up about being into women and then subtly asks about your preferences, it’s a strong sign she finds you attractive.

She invites you out. If she asks you to hang out, it’s a clear sign she has feelings for you. By taking the initiative to suggest spending time together, she’s showing her interest. Whether she casually says, “Want to grab coffee sometime?” or directly asks you out, it’s a bold move that indicates she likes you.

• Reader Poll: We surveyed 1137 Mytour readers who’ve asked someone out, and 55% agreed that casually suggesting to spend time together is the best approach. [Take Poll] So, if she frequently suggests hanging out, even if it’s not explicitly called a date, she’s likely into you!

If you’re interested in her, reciprocate with subtle signs of attraction. Offer her a compliment, casually touch her arm, maintain eye contact a bit longer than usual, or ask if she’s seeing anyone. Let her know you’re interested too, and you might find yourself in a relationship sooner than expected!

• Hint at your queer preferences to show you see her as more than a friend. For example, say something like, “My ex-girlfriend would’ve loved this,” or “This place feels like a lesbian haven—I’d fit right in.”
• Can a straight woman feel attracted to another woman? Absolutely! Sexuality is fluid, so let your feelings flow naturally without judgment.

If you don’t feel the same way, be upfront and kind. Leading someone on when you know they like you is unfair. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or identify as heterosexual, it’s important to address her flirtatious behavior gently. Let her down respectfully by mentioning your preferences or relationship status. For example:

• “I’m really flattered, but I don’t feel that way about women. I’d love to stay friends, though, if you’re okay with that.”
• “My partner and I used to visit this place all the time.”
• “I’m straight, but I know someone who might be interested.”

If you’re uncertain about your feelings, that’s okay. There’s no need to rush into labeling your emotions or defining your sexuality. It’s perfectly fine to continue your friendship or conversations without committing to a romantic label. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.

• If you’re close, consider being honest. You could say, “I really like you, but I’m not sure if it’s romantic or just friendship,” or “When you say things like that, are you flirting? It makes me a bit unsure.”

Sexuality can be complex, and it’s okay to feel uncertain about your emotions. Sexuality exists on a spectrum, and you don’t have to confine yourself to a single label—or even choose one at all. Take your time to reflect on your feelings, and know that confusion is completely normal. Your emotions might simply be fleeting, or they could signify something deeper. There’s no shame in not fully understanding your sexuality. The most important thing is to follow your heart and stay true to yourself. Remember, you deserve love regardless of who you’re attracted to.

Admiring a friend is different from feeling sexually attracted to them. When you admire someone, you might think, “I wish I could be more like them.” You might respect their dedication or kindness. Romantic attraction, however, might make you think, “I really want to be close to them.” If you’re romantically attracted to someone, you see them as a potential partner for intimate or passionate connections.

• Can friendship turn into attraction? Absolutely, especially in WLW relationships. Women often build strong friendships before developing romantic feelings—starting as friends and evolving into lovers.
• Romantic attraction isn’t always physical; it can also be emotional. Do you feel compelled to share personal thoughts and secrets with this person more than others? If so, you might be emotionally drawn to them.
• It’s okay to feel unsure about your feelings. Acknowledge them, reflect on them, and do what feels right for you.

• Still unsure if she’s into you? Take this relationship quiz to determine whether she’s flirting or just being friendly.
• Exploring your sexuality? Try our “Am I Lesbian?” or “Am I Bisexual?” quizzes to gain deeper insights into your feelings.