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So, you’ve matched with someone amazing on Tinder, and the conversation started off strong. Everything seemed perfect at first! But what happens when the chat starts to lose momentum, and it feels like there’s nothing left to talk about? In this article, we’ve compiled some tips and advice to help you keep the conversation going with that special someone on Tinder.
Steps
Signs That You Can Still Save the Conversation on Tinder
Share an Interesting Story
Think about something funny or unusual that just happened. Sharing a bit about what’s going on in your life is a great way to break the ice. Dive straight into the story as if you’re talking to a friend or family member. This approach makes the conversation flow more naturally than starting with small talk, and it also showcases your fun and spontaneous side.
- Starting with an interesting story is enough to reignite the conversation. Wait to see if they respond before continuing.
- For example, you could start with something like, “Oh my gosh, today at work was crazy. The office coffee machine literally exploded!” or “You’ll never guess who walked into my office today.”
Ask an open-ended question
Avoid yes-or-no questions. Asking questions is an effective way to keep the conversation going. It not only shows you’re interested in them but also passes the ball to their court! Stick to questions that require a bit of thought or more than a one-word answer. Keep the tone light initially and avoid sensitive topics like politics or religion.
- To show you’re paying attention, try asking about something they mentioned earlier. For example, “How was that movie you watched the other day?” or “How did your job interview go?”
- If they respond, keep the conversation going with follow-up questions. For instance, “That’s awesome, I’ve been meaning to watch that movie too. How do you think it compares to the original version from the 70s?”
- You can ask questions about various topics, such as their interests, their background, or their sense of humor. Or, you can try deeper conversation starters like, “Have you always been passionate about learning a particular skill?” or “What’s your favorite place on Earth and why?”
Talk about a shared interest
It’s much easier to connect if you have a common interest. Maybe you both love the same TV shows, went to the same college, or share a hobby. Whatever it is, use it to keep the conversation alive.
- For example, you could say, “Oh cool, you’re into photography too? How long have you been doing it?”
- You can find common ground by reading their profile or revisiting previous conversations.
- You can also try asking questions to learn more about their likes, such as “Have you been watching any TV shows lately?” or “Who are your favorite authors?”
Give them a genuine compliment
If you think they have something amazing, don’t hesitate to say it! A compliment can boost your potential partner’s confidence and also shift the focus away from you if you’re feeling shy. Keep the compliment sincere but add a touch of subtle flirtation.
- You could say something like, “You know what? You’re really beautiful!” or “You’re so funny. Talking to you is such a joy.”
Talk about pets
There’s a reason many people include their pets in their profiles. Pets are adorable, fun, and make for an easy conversation topic. Love for pets reflects warmth and care, which many find attractive. If you have a pet, share a photo or a funny story about them, or ask your potential match to do the same.
- This is even backed by science. Studies show that having a pet is one of the most effective ways to bond with others and make new friends!
- For example, share a photo of your cat curled up on your keyboard with a caption like, “Look who’s helping me work this morning.”
- If they have a pet, bring it up. Say something like, “I can’t stop thinking about the bunny in your profile picture. It looks so cute and fluffy, almost unreal.”
Send a funny GIF
Sending a GIF is a quick and fun way to show you’re still engaged in the conversation. It’s also a great move if you’re unsure what to say. Choose a flirty, funny, or relevant GIF that ties into what you’ve been discussing.
- For example, if you’ve been talking about being fans of “Supernatural,” you can’t go wrong with sending a GIF of Dean Winchester winking flirtatiously!
Share a few photos.
Be mindful when sharing photos. People generally enjoy seeing pictures, and casual snapshots of your daily life are a great way to let your potential date get to know the real you. Don’t hesitate to ask for their photos too—just avoid pressuring them or requesting images they might not feel comfortable sharing.
- For instance, you could send a photo of a delicious meal you just cooked or an interesting scene you stumbled upon during a walk.
- You could also say something like, “Your cat sounds adorable. I’d love to see a picture!”
- Avoid sending (or asking for) nude or sensitive photos unless the other person explicitly says they’re okay with it. This could make things awkward or scare them off.
Flirt a little.
After all, you’re both on a dating app. If you’re too reserved to express your feelings, the other person might assume you’re not interested. Keep the romantic spark alive by subtly (or not-so-subtly) hinting that you like them and want to take things further.
- Unless your potential match clearly states they’re comfortable with “adult” topics, keep the flirting PG-13 at first.
- For example, you could say, “Wow, you’re gorgeous, smart, and love sandwiches? Where have you been all my life? ;)”
Avoid sexting unless the other person is into it
The other person might get scared off if you’re too bold too soon. Take it slow unless they’ve made it clear they enjoy heating things up. If you’re unsure about their comfort level, test the waters with a suggestive comment to see if they reciprocate.
- For example, you could try saying, “I wish you were here with me right now,” or “That photo you sent me yesterday was so hot.” If they respond flirtatiously, you’re good to go!
Suggest moving the conversation to another platform
Texting can feel a bit limiting at times. Even if you’re not ready to meet in person, there are other ways to take your interaction to the next level. Ask them something like, “Hey, want to FaceTime?” or “Can I call you? I’d love to hear your voice.”
Wait a day or two and try again if the conversation has completely stalled
You can reach out again if things have gone quiet. Avoid bombarding them with messages, but don’t let them think you’ve forgotten about them! If it’s been a while since you heard from your Tinder match, send them a quick message to see if they respond.
- You can simply send a random message or follow up on something you previously discussed. For example, “Remember that Netflix series you recommended? I watched it—it’s amazing!”
- If they’ve been quiet for a few days, don’t assume they’ve lost interest—they might just be busy. If they reply quickly, it’s a good sign they’re still into you.
Ask them out if the conversation seems stuck.
Texting alone won’t take things very far. If the conversation feels awkward or repetitive but there’s mutual interest, it might be time to take the next step. Generally, it’s safe to ask them out after 3-4 days of chatting.
- Keep it casual and light. You could say, “You’re really fun to talk to. Would you like to hang out this weekend?” or “I’d love to meet you in person! Are you free sometime this week?”
- Some people are more comfortable talking face-to-face, so don’t assume they’re not interested just because they’re not enthusiastic over text.
Move on if they still seem uninterested
Don’t stress if things don’t work out. It can be disappointing when someone you’re chatting with loses interest, but if you can’t revive the conversation, try to let it go and focus on meeting someone else.
- Building romantic connections is tricky, but with time and practice, you’ll get more comfortable with it.
- If they take longer and longer to reply or their responses become short and cold, these are signs they’re not interested.
Stay calm no matter what happens.
It’s natural to feel awkward chatting with a stranger, but try not to stress about the outcome. Instead, treat it as a fun way to pass the time and enjoy the moment. Relax, be bold, and don’t overthink what the other person is thinking—you might both end up enjoying the conversation more this way!
