If you're chatting with a girl you've just met or don't know very well, it might be tough to figure out where to begin. You want to ignite the conversation or at least keep it flowing! Luckily, with a wide array of fascinating topics, you'll always feel confident about your ability to carry the chat. Check out the list below for inspiration.
Guidelines
Everyday Topics

Start with basic, light-hearted questions if you're still getting to know her. These will allow her to open up and feel more at ease before diving into deeper or more personal discussions. For example, instead of simply asking, "How are you?" try something a little more specific like:
- "How do you like to relax after a long day?"
- "What's your favorite part of the day?"
- "Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?"
Her Interests and Passions

Help her feel at ease by asking about what she loves to do. Most people love talking about themselves! To make your questions more engaging, try getting more specific. For example, ask:
- "Do you have any secret talents?"
- "If you could master any hobby, which one would you choose?"
- "What activities or sports get you really competitive?"
- "Can you play an instrument or do you enjoy dancing?"
- Reader Survey: We surveyed 52 readers, and 76% agreed that asking about her hobbies and passions is the best way to connect when getting to know a girl. Take Poll.
Her Hometown

Discussing her city is a great way to keep the conversation light and casual. This topic is especially helpful if you're texting or on the phone, but it also works in person. You could ask:
- "What do you love most about living here?"
- "What are your go-to restaurants in this area?"
- "If you could change one thing about this place, what would it be?"
Movies, Music, and Pop Culture

Ask her about her favorite books, shows, movies, and music. Discover what she loves and what she can't stand. You might bond over a shared interest in a TV show or book series. Some questions to try are:
- "What's a guilty pleasure show you can't stop watching?"
- "Which band do you think is the most underrated?"
- "Who’s your favorite actress or actor?"
Would You Rather?

Present her with two options and ask which one she’d choose. You’re probably familiar with this fun icebreaker game. It's a great way to learn about her preferences while keeping things light. You could ask questions like:
- "Would you rather eat only breakfast or dessert for the rest of your life?"
- "Would you rather see your favorite band perform at a large festival or in a cozy club?"
- "Would you rather write a bestselling novel or meet your favorite author in person?"
Her Career and Studies

Inquire about her profession or field of study. If she’s working, ask her what a typical day is like or what inspired her to pursue her career. If she’s still studying, ask about the classes she's taking and her future aspirations. Here are some good ways to approach this topic:
- "Have you had any amazing teachers?"
- "What’s the best part of your job?"
- "Which class do you find most challenging?"
Fun and Quirky Questions

Catch her off guard with an unexpected topic. This is a great way to break the ice if you’re just starting to talk and a fun approach to get the conversation flowing. You could ask intriguing or silly questions that spark deeper conversations or simply make her laugh. For example, try asking:
- "What's the coolest thing you've ever discovered at a thrift store or garage sale?"
- "What’s the unhealthiest habit you indulge in regularly?"
- "Is there an ice cream flavor that totally grosses you out?"
Likes, Dislikes, and Pet Peeves

Think of this as a discussion about preferences and irritations. It’s a great way to see if you’re compatible by learning more about what she enjoys or dislikes. You could make a list of fun or lighthearted questions to get her talking. Here are some ideas:
- "What kind of party do you enjoy the most?"
- "What’s a popular trend that really gets on your nerves?"
- "What’s the one thing you look forward to every summer?"
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Pets and Animals

Girls love sharing stories about their pets! She may even show you some adorable pictures. If she doesn’t have one, you can ask about her ideal pet or why she doesn’t have one. Besides the classic, "Are you a dog person or a cat person," consider asking:
- "Which animal do you love visiting the most at the zoo or aquarium?"
- "What do you think is the most majestic animal in the world?"
- "If you could have an exotic animal as a pet, which one would you choose?"
Humor

Share a humorous story or something that really cracked you up. You might feel the pressure to have a meaningful conversation, but a little humor can ease the tension. Tell her a joke, act a bit silly, or ask her about things that make her laugh. Try asking questions like:
- "Who always manages to make you laugh?"
- "What’s the worst joke you’ve ever heard?"
- "What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?"
- Reader Poll: We surveyed 469 Mytour readers who’ve struggled with starting conversations, and 61% agreed that the best topic is something lighthearted and positive. [Take Poll]
Travel

Get her talking about her travel adventures or dream destinations. If she’s traveled a lot, she’ll likely love recounting her trips and telling you about her favorite spots. If she hasn’t traveled much, no problem! You can still talk about places you’ve always wanted to visit. For example, you could ask:
- "What are the top 3 countries you’d love to explore?"
- "Are there any places you’d never want to go?"
- "What’s the best trip you’ve ever been on?"
Childhood

Get to know her better by chatting about her childhood. This gives her the opportunity to guide where the conversation goes—she might share a funny story, a key moment from her past, or a life-changing event that shaped who she is today. Spark the conversation with questions like:
- "Do you think your childhood was happier than most people’s?"
- "What did you dream of becoming when you were five?"
- "What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you as a kid?"
Family and Friends

Ask her about the people who matter most in her life. If you're just getting to know her, try a general question like, "What’s your family like?" This lets her steer the conversation where she feels most comfortable. Once you’ve established a connection, you can dig deeper with questions like:
- "How close are you to your family?"
- "Who’s your favorite family member or friend? Least favorite?"
- "Who was your first best friend?"
Love and Relationships

Ask her about her past relationships and what she’s looking for now. These types of questions are helpful to ask early on to understand if you're both interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. The questions don’t need to be too complex or out of the ordinary—the point is to learn about what attracts both of you. You could ask:
- "What do you want in a relationship?"
- "What was your first impression of me?"
- "What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?"
Goals and Dreams

Talk about the future and what both of you hope to achieve. You might discover some surprising aspirations! However, if she’s not enthusiastic about discussing future plans, ask her about things she wishes would come true or what she would change. You could ask questions like:
- "Where do you imagine yourself in 10 years?"
- "What’s one thing your future definitely needs to include?"
- "If a crystal ball could reveal your future, what would you want it to show?"
Philosophical Beliefs

Dive into her core beliefs about life and the world around her. Whether you're in the mood for a deep conversation or just curious if she shares similar thoughts, these questions can spark intense discussions (or debates):
- "What do you think the purpose of life is?"
- "Do you believe in free will or is everything predestined?"
- "What do you want to be remembered for when you’re gone?"
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The suggestions in this section are drawn from the real-life experiences of Mytour users like you. If you have any valuable advice you'd like to contribute to Mytour, feel free to share it in the space below.
- People generally enjoy talking about themselves, so aim to ask questions that encourage your date to share about herself rather than focusing on you or her thoughts about you.
- Be open and authentic with your questions, but make sure you stay true to yourself. People can easily tell when you're not being genuine.