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Want to get closer to your crush? Asking the right questions is a fantastic way to steer the conversation and break the ice! You could also play interactive games like the popular 21 Questions to spark some fun! To make it easier for you, we've put together 21 of the most engaging, flirty, and intriguing questions to ask.
How to Do It
"Which meme sums up your life right now?"
This is a playful question that can help your crush feel at ease. It's a lighthearted way to get them to open up, whether they answer seriously or keep it fun. Since memes can cover such a wide range of humor, it's also a great way to see if you both share a similar sense of humor.
"If you had to choose a new name for yourself, what would it be?"
This question is a great way to get your crush talking about themselves. Let them explain why they picked the name they did. Perhaps it’s inspired by a favorite book, a special person, or a place that holds meaning for them. Whatever the answer is, you’ll discover something new about them.
"Who’s your ultimate celebrity crush?"
If your crush mentions a celebrity you also like, it could show that you have a lot in common. For example, if you both adore a particular pop star, you might bond over discussions about their music and albums.
"What’s the most memorable movie scene you’ve ever seen?"
Their response can reveal a lot about their personality. Plus, if you end up watching movies together, you’ll want to know if your movie preferences match before they pick the next one.
"Do you believe in astrology?"
Discover if your zodiac signs are a match. If you check your horoscope daily, you might be eager to see if your signs are compatible. If they don’t know their sign, simply ask them when their birthday is.
"What’s something you spend way too much money on?"
Your crush's spending habits offer a glimpse into what they enjoy. For instance, if they're always buying sneakers and you're into fashion, you just found a great way to connect. A date at the mall could be fun, and you might even have a perfect gift idea for their birthday or the next holiday.
"Who was your first crush?"
Use this question to start building a connection with your crush. Most people have had a crush at some point! Share your own first crush story, so they can learn something about you. Then, you can both laugh about your earliest crushes. And if they feel embarrassed, you can teasingly bring it up later.
"What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done to get someone’s attention?"
This playful question gives you insight into your crush’s personality. If they share something tame, you might see them as a more grounded and dependable person. But, they might surprise you with a wild story!
"Do you find first dates exciting or nerve-wracking?"
Your crush’s response will reveal what they enjoy or dislike about dating. If they mention feeling stressed by traditional dates like dinner and a movie, you’ll know to switch things up and opt for something more laid-back. If they enjoy first dates, ask more questions to discover what kinds of activities they enjoy doing.
"How many people have you kissed?"
Encouraging your crush to open up can help them feel more at ease around you. Their response can give you a glimpse into their personality—they might be shy and reluctant to discuss past kisses, or they could be more open. Either way, it’s a great way to segue into a conversation about past relationships.
"Who knows you best?"
Discover who’s closest to your crush and learn what they value in their friendships. Their answer might indicate if they’re especially close to their family or if their friends take priority. It’s another way to see if your values align—if family is important to you as well, you’ll find common ground.
"Would you prefer people to see you as funny, kind, or intelligent?"
Their answer gives you insight into how your crush perceives themselves. Specifically, you'll learn how they wish to be viewed by others. They might share funny stories if they identify as the class clown, or mention kindness if they value empathy. If they consider themselves smart, they may appreciate logic and reasoning. This question also invites you to share what you admire about them.
"What’s the last thought that crosses your mind before you fall asleep?"
Your crush may use this response to flirt or open up about what’s on their mind. They could even admit that they think of you as they drift off to sleep! On the other hand, if they think about other things—like worries or concerns—it provides a chance for the two of you to have an interesting conversation.
"What’s the strangest thing you find attractive in someone?"
Your crush’s answer could reveal a hidden side of their personality. If they have a unique interest, it’s likely something they don’t talk about much. Whether it’s being left-handed, having freckles, or embracing their awkwardness, their response gives you a peek into their quirky traits.
"What’s been the best day of your year so far?"
Questions like this are a great way to understand what your crush enjoys. It also shows them that you're genuinely interested in their life, and allows your crush to share things they love. Consider this question as research for planning future dates.
"If you had unlimited money, how would you spend the rest of your life?"
Talking about their aspirations leads to a conversation about the future. Does your crush want to help their family? Would they travel the world? Maybe they dream of mastering a specific skill. Their answer will reveal a glimpse into their hopes and dreams.
"Where do you see yourself in five years?"
Asking about their future plans helps you see if your goals align. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, it’s important to know whether your aspirations as a couple match up. For example, if they’re planning to move out-of-state for a job, but you're looking for something more casual, you might realize you're not on the same page.
"What’s one thing you can’t live without?"
Use this question to see if you share similar values. If they mention something that you can't stand, it could be a sign that you have different tastes. On the flip side, they might list something you both love, giving you common ground to build on.
"Is there anything you're curious about regarding me?"
Use this question to let your crush steer the conversation. They might surprise you with a unique question that sparks an intriguing discussion, or they could keep it simple with a standard one. Either way, it gives you the opportunity to open up and share something about yourself.
"What was your first impression of me?"
This is a chance for your crush to flirt with you. It also offers a perfect moment to take things further. Perhaps you met at a party, and they compliment your confidence and lively personality. Once they do, you can playfully ask if they’d like to go out with the most confident person in the room.
"What’s something you’ve never told anyone else?"
Give your crush the chance to reveal something personal. If they confide a deep secret, it’s a sign they trust you—take the opportunity to bond by sharing something meaningful as well. If they share something lighthearted, join in with the fun! Your crush will appreciate your playful side.
Start the conversation...
I’ve been talking more with my crush, but I need some fresh topics to keep the conversation flowing. He’s shy, and so am I until I get to know someone better. Any interesting questions or topics that aren't the usual boring icebreakers?
If you’re just getting to know someone, here are a few questions you can try asking:
- "What do you enjoy doing for fun?"
- "What’s been your day like today?"
- "What music are you into?"
- "Read or watched anything interesting lately?"
- "Got any siblings?"
- "Do you have pets?"
- "What foods do you love, or like to cook?"
Maria Avgitidis
Matchmaker & Dating Expert
Matchmaker & Dating Expert
If you're in a social setting, at school, or at work, talking to your crush about their weekend plans or commenting on why you're both at the same event can help break the ice. Sometimes, making light social commentary on the current environment can be an easy way to start a conversation with someone you're not yet familiar with. If they give brief responses, they might not be that into it. But if you're a good listener and ask thoughtful questions, you can make them feel good in your company.
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