Buzz
Has the guy you're interested in stopped messaging you? Or perhaps you've just started seeing a great guy and now you're unsure how long to wait before texting him after the date? Whatever the situation, the anticipation of receiving a message from your dream guy is never easy. Keep reading to discover when it’s the right time to text him and what you should say.
Steps
How long should you wait before texting a guy who hasn’t responded to your messages or reached out to you?
Wait a few days (or even a week). Just because he hasn’t contacted you doesn’t mean he’s not interested! Waiting for him to text can be frustrating, but your prince charming may just be busy and unable to reply right away. Wait 2-3 days or up to a week to give him a chance to text you before he realizes he’s missed something important.
- If you've waited over a week with no word from him, it might be time to move on. It can hurt when a guy neglects you, but there are plenty of others out there who will appreciate you! You deserve someone who values you and your time.
- If you recently went on a date with a guy, text him the following day if you had a good time together to show him you’re still interested. You might have heard of the '3-day rule,' but doing that seems like a game of cat and mouse.
What should you say when texting him?
Send a simple message to check in and see how he’s doing. You can either start a new conversation or reference something from your last message as a gentle reminder. To catch his attention, mention something he’s interested in to spark his curiosity. This way, you’ll come across as lighthearted and friendly, not putting pressure on him.
- "Hey 😊 how’s your day been so far? My day just started, but I already know it’s going to be a busy one. haha."
- "Hope you’ve had an amazing few days! Anything new? I just finished reading that book we talked about last time. It was great!"
- "Hey! I’ve been thinking about you lately 🥰 How are you?"
- If you're texting after the first date, try something like: "Hey 🙂 last night was so much fun! Can’t wait to see you again!" or "Hey again! I had a great time with you, looking forward to next time 😊 How’s your day going?"
Avoid getting frustrated with him. Instead of accusing him of ignoring you or leaving you on read, send light, cheerful messages to guide him back into the conversation. He’ll be more likely to enjoy talking to you if you keep things positive, so try reaching out without showing anger or anxiety about losing him.
Show excitement when talking to him. If you try to play hard to get, it might seem like you're messing with his feelings. Since he seems a bit distant, doing that will only push the two of you further apart. Let him know you’re eager to spend time with him by adding some emojis and exclamation marks to your texts.
- "Hey! 😊 Hope you've had a great day! Looking forward to seeing you soon!"
- "Hey! How have you been? I’ve been thinking about what we’ll do on our next date 😉"
Send just one message and wait for his reply. Sending multiple messages can make you seem pushy and might even tire him out. After sending your first message, put your phone down and focus on something else so you're not obsessing over it.
- If he still hasn’t replied, maybe it’s time for you to move on and talk to someone who values you.
How often should you text a guy if he likes you?
Men typically text a few times a week if they're interested. When a guy wants to get to know you better, he’ll want to stay in touch a few times between dates to learn more about you. He still has his own life and things to do, so he might not text you constantly, but he keeps in touch to show that he’s still interested.
- Usually, if he likes you, he’ll reach out first, but that doesn’t stop you from texting him to start a conversation if you want to talk.
- If he really likes you, you’ll typically hear from him at least once a day.
