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There’s someone amazing who’s constantly on your mind. Whether you've known them forever or just met, you're eager to ask them out. You've got their number, but what’s your next step? In this article, we’ve compiled some useful advice on how to successfully arrange a date via text message.
Steps
Initiate with a greeting text.
Start with something engaging to spark a conversation. You’re more likely to get a “yes” if you take a moment to engage with them first. Ask how their day went—if something significant is going on in their life, bring that up. You can even bring up something you’ve discussed before.
- Avoid generic openers like “Heyy” or “How are you?”
- Show some personality by asking something personal, like, “Hey, how did that test go today?👀” or “Your dog’s adorable! When did you snap that photo?”
- Use correct spelling and grammar in your texts. This will help you stand out and demonstrate you’re serious.
Discover their preferences.
Take your time getting to know them before asking them out. Whether you’ve known them for years or just met, take the opportunity to learn about their current interests and hobbies. People change, and understanding what excites them now will help you plan the perfect date in the future. Ask about their favorite dining spots, how they spend their free time, and what music they enjoy.
- “Got any favorite restaurants around here?”
- “I know this sounds random, but I love karaoke on the weekends😂 What about you? What do you do on weekends?”
- “What was your Spotify wrap-up like this year?👀”
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Learn about their availability.
They’re more likely to accept if you propose a date when they’re available. As you get to know them better, inquire about their daily routine to understand when they might be free. Knowing their schedule in advance increases the chances they’ll agree when you ask them out.
- “What’s your usual schedule like?”
- “You seem pretty busy! What time do your classes finish?”
- “What’s your favorite weekend activity?”
Keep your messages concise and straightforward.
You don’t need to send a lengthy message to get a “yes.” Just reach out at a good time and ask if they’d like to hang out. Here are a few ideas:
- “I just adopted a puppy. Want to come by and meet her sometime?”
- “There’s a new Mexican spot that just opened. Want to check it out with me this weekend?”
- “I know you’ve always wanted to ride a camel, and there’s a petting zoo at the fair next week. I heard there might be a camel👀 Want to go with me?”
Make a specific request.
They're more likely to agree to a specific activity on a date. If they have a favorite place, suggest going there. If there’s something they’ve been wanting to do, offer to make it happen. The key is personalizing the date to their interests and making the activity clear. Just saying “let’s hang out” is a bit too vague.
- “Since you love video games, want to check out the new arcade with me this weekend?”
- “I know you’re into hiking—how about we go for a hike next week?”
- “How about grabbing milkshakes after the game Friday? My treat😉”
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Being open to different times can help you get a quicker “yes.” When you invite them out, offer options for days and times that work for them. Instead of locking in a specific date and time upfront, keep it flexible and finalize the details later.
- “How about a movie this weekend? Does that sound good?”
- “The fair is in town next week. Want to join me?”
- “Any plans for spring break? I’d love to hang out with you🙂”
Stay calm if they say “yes.”
It’s tempting to jump for joy, but keep your excitement in check. Respond with a cool and collected vibe when texting them back. Avoid using all caps or an excessive amount of exclamation points. Here are some relaxed responses you could try:
- “Awesome, can’t wait to see you😊”
- “Perfect! I’m looking forward to it!”
- “Sounds great! See you soon👍”
Provide them with any extra details.
Sort out the remaining details to make everything official. They’ve agreed, now it’s time to finalize the plans. For example, decide whether you’ll meet at the venue or if you’ll pick them up.
- “How about meeting by the Ferris wheel around 2pm?”
- “I could pick you up at 6pm since the reservation is at 7pm...”
- “The arcade opens early, but we could meet at 1pm if you want to grab lunch first.”
Handle rejection with grace.
Stay gracious even if they say “no.”” Sometimes things don’t go as planned, and that’s perfectly fine—don’t let it get you down! You took a chance, and that takes courage. Plus, who says this means you can’t remain friends? Consider responding with:
- “No worries! See you in homeroom🙂”
- “It’s all good. See you tomorrow!”
- “No problem. Had to give it a shot😂”
- Thank you for taking the time to reply. Take care.
Double-check the date a few days before.
Remind them about the awesome date ahead. Not only will this help them remember the exciting plans, but it shows them you’re excited to see them. Keep your message brief, casual, and laid-back.
- “Looking forward to meeting you tomorrow🙂”
- “Hey, are we still on for this weekend?”
- “Can’t wait for this weekend😉”
Send a follow-up message after the date.
If things went well, let them know you’re interested in hanging out again. Avoid texting them right after the date—that might come across as too eager. Wait until the next day to tell them you had a great time.
- “Had an amazing time last night. We should definitely hang out again soon😊”
- “The pizza was fantastic, but not as fantastic as you😉 Want to do it again next weekend?”
