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If you're reading this, it means a Virgo woman has caught your eye, hasn't she? And who could blame you? Born between August 23 and September 22, Virgo women are irresistibly charming and captivating. They are feminine yet reserved, strong-willed, and have a clear sense of purpose. Want her to notice you and only you? You can easily achieve this by approaching her slowly, impressing her with your sharp intellect, and aligning with her perfectionist ideals.
Steps
Establish a Connection
Become her friend first.
Take the lead. Virgo women are naturally shy, so don’t mistake her cautious demeanor for disinterest. To initiate a relationship with a Virgo, you’ll need to be the one to make the first move, as she’s too reserved and traditional to take the lead herself. Once she gets to know you better, she’ll become more comfortable and confident around you. For now, though, you’ll need to be the conductor of this relationship.
- Be decisive about your plans—she’ll be drawn to your determination. Clearly tell her where you’d like to take her for dinner or what you’d like to do over the weekend. Who could resist an invitation wrapped in confidence and genuine enthusiasm?
- Keep it traditional. Don’t rush into anything. Be romantic and take things slow. She needs a little encouragement before diving into anything deeper.
Be kind and cherish her. A Virgo woman is easily moved by romantic gestures and prefers to be called "beautiful" or "elegant" rather than "hot" or "sexy." When interacting with her, be gentle and considerate. She won’t be impressed by displays of ego or attempts at humor that come off as arrogant. She’s not one for games.
- She’s looking for a stable partner—someone who can ease her worries and calm her mind. If you enjoy playing hard-to-get or mind games, she’s not the one for you. She needs to know that you’re genuinely interested in her and only her, with no ulterior motives. In short, she needs to trust you.
Engage in intellectual conversations with her. Above all, a Virgo woman values intelligence. It’s great if you’re sweet and good-looking, but if your brain is just for show, she’ll lose interest quickly. When talking to her, bring up topics that intrigue her. She’s well-read and knowledgeable about almost everything.
- She’ll appreciate it if you can discuss current events, politics, literature, music, history—basically anything. If you can keep up with her, she’ll see you as a worthy match. So, start reading more!
Read her expressions. A Virgo is like a creature you need to coax out of its shell slowly, so it’s crucial to gauge her feelings about you. If she seems eager and gives off signals that she’s interested, be ready to take the next step. But if she frowns and asks, "What on earth are you doing?" it’s time to back off.
- Understanding a Virgo means reading her emotions. Sometimes you might misread her, but if you’ve built a friendship beforehand, you should already have a good sense of her feelings. If you keep misinterpreting her, it’s okay to ask her directly. She’ll appreciate your honesty as long as you’re polite and tactful.
Appearance matters too
Dress elegantly. Virgo women appreciate a partner who dresses well. She’s quite perfectionistic, so you’ll need to be polished (she won’t want to waste time grooming you!). Even if her style is simple, it’s still a nice t-shirt paired with jeans, or a more formal look with a blazer and pointed shoes. Whatever it is, show that you care about what you wear.
- This doesn’t mean you have to follow trends. No, no, no—there are timeless styles that Virgos value. A button-up shirt, a sharp jacket, or even a vintage-style tee will win her approval. As long as you take pride in your appearance, she’ll notice.
Maintain good hygiene. Beyond dressing well, you also need to be clean! A Virgo expects her partner to be impeccably groomed: ears, nails, nose—everything must be spotless! And don’t forget to smell good too!
Keep your life organized too. If she has to wade through a pile of tissues just to sit in your car, she’d rather walk. Walk all the way home, in fact. She can’t stand chaos and won’t tolerate a messy partner. She’ll lose interest instantly if your life is disorganized. She might even feel compelled to clean your room herself, and that’s not romantic at all!
- So, don’t be surprised if she starts organizing your closet by fabric softness. That’s just how she is. Don’t expect her to change—unless you’re the type to leave pizza on the kitchen counter for days. A Virgo needs a partner who’s as tidy as she is, not a sloppy mess.
Be well-rounded. A Virgo wants her partner to excel at everything—smart yet fun, cute yet affectionate. While intelligence is key, ideally, you should be a jack-of-all-trades with all the best qualities. Strive for balance so she can gradually discover more about you and find endless reasons to be captivated.
- To make her crave you more, engage her in conversations about anything. Connect with her mind. It could be any topic. If she wants to discuss 18th-century Swiss art, go for it. If she wants to talk about the Kardashians, play along. You’re showing her that you can handle every aspect of her and her thoughts.
Be her soulmate
Help her ease her worries. A Virgo’s mind is always racing, running, running. MOST OF THE TIME. She’s constantly overanalyzing everything, including herself. She needs someone who can calm her down and be her anchor. If you can do this, consider yourself irreplaceable.
- When you notice her overthinking, check in on her. If she doesn’t open up right away, don’t walk away. She might be testing you or feeling too shy to ask for help. Let her know you’re there whenever she needs you.
- Once you understand her better, you’ll likely figure out what’s causing her stress. Try to lighten her load by offering practical help. Does she need assistance with errands? Cleaning? What can you do to give her more time to relax?
Deal with her perfectionism. Because her mind is always active, she notices every little detail. If something’s off, rest assured she’ll remember it. So, if your shirt is slightly wrinkled, she’ll notice. If your spice rack is disorganized, she’ll notice too. It’s not a dealbreaker, but she’ll definitely file those details away.
- Things might seem trivial to others, but not to a Virgo. While she’s always punctual, she’ll spend extra time perfecting something. For example, if she works in a creative field, she’ll dedicate days to refining her work until it’s just right. She’s the modern-day Goldilocks!
Embrace nature with her. Virgos love the outdoors. If you want to make her smile, take her out. You could go camping or hiking. Rent a boat and row out onto a lake. She’s not the type to complain about the weather or worry about messy hair. Take her outside and create memories she’ll cherish forever.
Understand that she needs her space. A Virgo isn’t the type to wear her heart on her sleeve or crave constant affection. Of course, there are moments when she’ll open up, but most of the time, she’ll keep to herself. Keep interactions low-key, and you’ll have more meaningful moments when you’re alone.
- Sometimes, a Virgo will hide her emotions too. If you want to know what she’s thinking or feeling, you might need to ask. It’s not that she doesn’t care about you—she just sees emotions as deeply personal.
Keep your promises. A Virgo needs to know she can rely on you. For this reason, you must always follow through on your commitments. For example, if you say you’ll call her at 3 PM, call at 3 PM—not 3:30 or 4. If you’re someone she can depend on, she’ll stick by your side without hesitation.
- So, before making a promise, ensure you can keep it. Don’t make empty promises or commit to things you can’t deliver. If you must cancel, show goodwill and explain the situation fully. She’ll appreciate your honesty and effort to make things right.
Compromise. Virgos despise arguments and conflicts. A Virgo woman might let you have your way, but deep down, she’ll be upset. This can lead to serious cracks in the foundation of your relationship. Strive for compromise to ensure both of you are happy.
- Control your temper. A gentle Virgo will lose her composure when faced with anger and rage. Listen carefully to what she’s trying to tell you. Often, she only speaks up when it’s something important.
Be loyal to her. If you’re the type to switch partners like changing clothes, a Virgo won’t waste her time on you. Once you’ve gotten to know her better, make it clear that you’re honest, trustworthy, and know how to treat people—especially women—with respect. A Virgo isn’t interested in sifting through potential partners.
- Virgos are highly sensitive and need a stable, loyal, and honest partner. While they might flirt occasionally, once they commit, they’re all in. If she chooses someone, that person becomes the only man in her life.
Advice
- Don’t make promises you can’t keep to a Virgo.
- Virgos love the scents of candles, freshly laundered clothes, perfume, and deodorant.
- A Virgo woman doesn’t date based on looks or money. What matters is your sense of humor and a healthy perspective on life.
- If you decide to pursue a Virgo, act like a gentleman, not a caveman. Virgos hate controlling people and, like Scorpios, they will NEVER change to please anyone!
- Encourage her. Show her genuine kindness—it’s a must. While Virgos appreciate material things, sincere (and frequent) compliments will go a long way in winning her over.
- Be trustworthy and honest to build her confidence. Virgos are always anxious, and this helps calm their minds.
- Virgos will forgive if they believe you’re truly sorry for hurting them and won’t repeat the mistake.
- Virgos hate sloppiness and dirt. They won’t date someone who doesn’t take care of themselves—or their home.
- Remember, Virgos judge others, but they’re even harder on themselves. They might seem harsh, but they’ll blame themselves more than anyone else. Reassure them that things are okay and not everything is their fault. If you mess up, apologize, or she’ll blame herself, damaging the relationship.
- If you notice a Virgo is sad, crack a joke. Humor helps lift her spirits.
- Never let a Virgo feel lonely, and always show her she’s important to you. She’ll deeply appreciate it.
- Sometimes, a Virgo might ask for your advice; she’ll consider it even if it’s not what she wants to hear. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t value your opinion—she just thinks hers is better.
- If your car is dirty and not regularly maintained, don’t even think about dating a Virgo!
- Never, ever, ever lie to a Virgo. She’s strong enough to handle the truth but will be far more hurt by deception.
Warnings
- If you’re mean, selfish, sloppy, arrogant, dishonest, rude, or lazy, then a Virgo is NOT for you.
- Virgos, much like Scorpios, can be EXTREMELY private, so you’ll need patience to truly understand them.
- A Virgo woman can be quite sharp-tongued when she’s angry.
