Buzz
If the guy you're interested in remains unaware of your existence despite your efforts to catch his attention, it's time to switch up your approach to make him notice you more. To attract him, show kindness, find common interests, befriend him, and naturally shine. Additionally, stay true to yourself and be mindful of your actions to avoid misunderstandings. It may sound complicated, but getting him to notice you is entirely achievable.
Steps
Grab His Attention
Be Friendly. If he doesn’t know you exist, it’ll be hard to get his attention. Create opportunities to get to know each other by befriending his friends, joining a club he’s part of, or asking a mutual acquaintance to introduce you. However, be cautious if you don’t want him to know about your feelings, as others might say something that ruins your chances or makes things awkward.
- If he’s in your class, try starting a conversation before or after class (talking during class might lead to unwanted attention). You can discuss the teacher, a project, or crack a joke when he’s listening. It might seem scary, but you’ll feel proud for taking the initiative.
- You could start a conversation by saying, “Yesterday’s topic was so tough. Did you finish it?”
Find Common Ground. When you share something in common, conversations flow more naturally. You can try out some of his hobbies, but don’t change who you are entirely. It’s not worth it. If you don’t share the same interests, don’t worry—just ask about his hobbies or explore topics you know he enjoys.
- For example, if you’ve never watched his favorite TV show, bring it up and ask him about it to start a conversation. You could say, “Have you seen [name of the TV show you know he likes]?” to let him talk about his interests and feel excited.
Get to Know Him Better. You should become his friend before he realizes and starts reciprocating your feelings. If you’re not friends yet, start with casual conversations (like the weather, something strange that happened, elections, essays, etc.). If that doesn’t work, you can always ask to borrow a pencil or paper and keep the conversation going.
- Once you know him better, you can joke or tease him, even flirt a little—but don’t overdo it. He might feel awkward if you’re too forward when you barely know each other.
- Add him on Facebook or follow him on Twitter or Instagram if you haven’t already. This helps you learn more about his interests. You can “Like” his posts occasionally to show you care about what he shares.
Be Fun. Guys are often drawn to and notice people who are humorous, especially those with a cheerful personality. Try joking with him or teasing him if you feel comfortable. Making him laugh is also an attractive quality.
- For example, you could lightly joke by saying, “Do you know why I’m short? Because I escaped from the seven dwarfs’ house,” or something similarly funny to show your confidence and create a relaxed laugh.
Become His Friend
Flirt with Him. Nothing is more tragic than him seeing you as just a friend. So, make sure you’re not labeled as “just a regular friend” or “one of the guys.” Of course, you need to get to know him first, and you might gain an amazing friend (which is great if the person you’re pursuing becomes a close friend), but add a little romantic intent to stand out from his buddies.
- For example, to differentiate yourself from regular friends, you can lightly touch his shoulder, back, or arm.
Avoid talking too much about yourself. He’ll be more attracted if you give him the chance to share about his life. This shows you genuinely care about him and what he has to say. Don’t dominate the conversation with stories about yourself; while he wants to get to know you, you should also give him the opportunity to talk about himself.
- When he asks questions about you, answer but don’t focus too much on yourself. Redirect the conversation to him by asking follow-up questions like, “Do you have any siblings?” or “What do you love most about your family?”
- Ask about his passions or hobbies by saying things like, “Have you read any good books lately?” or “What’s your favorite video game?”
Laugh heartily when he jokes. One of the best ways to show you like him and enjoy his company is to laugh wholeheartedly when he cracks a joke! This not only boosts his confidence but also shows you share a similar sense of humor and find the same things funny. For many, a good sense of humor is one of the most important qualities they look for in a partner.
- If he says something funny, respond enthusiastically or add your own joke. For example, if you’re talking about celebrities, you could add something to make the conversation more engaging.
- However, avoid making offensive jokes, like mocking someone’s appearance or ridiculing someone you both know. Don’t let him think you’d make fun of him behind his back or that you’re rude.
Go to places he enjoys. If you know where he likes to hang out, you can grab his attention by showing up there occasionally. For instance, if he frequents a particular café, you could bring a few friends along—you might just bump into him. You could also go there to study or work on assignments.
- If you know he’s attending a concert, try to get tickets if possible. This gives you a chance to casually meet and greet him. Plus, it could lead to an opportunity to hang out together.
- Consider joining a club or activity he’s part of. This gives you a chance to chat and spend time with him.
- However, don’t constantly show up wherever he is, or he might feel annoyed or think you’re stalking him. Be yourself, and if he happens to enjoy the same activities, even better!
Take Care of Your Appearance
Keep your hair healthy. Hair is one of the first things guys notice about women, and studies show they’re attracted to strong, healthy hair. If your hair is dyed or damaged, try applying coconut oil overnight and washing it out the next morning. This is a great way to repair dry or damaged hair. If your hair is already healthy, avoid overusing dyes or chemicals that could cause damage and breakage.
Maintain personal hygiene. You certainly don’t want to have an unpleasant body odor when standing next to him, leaving a bad impression. You don’t need to smell amazing all the time, but make sure to shower daily, use deodorant, or add a touch of perfume to impress him. A fresh scent or at least a well-groomed appearance is truly attractive.
Always be yourself. Don’t force yourself to dress like everyone else or worry about whether you’re wearing famous brands. If you feel comfortable, you’ll exude confidence, and others will feel at ease around you. Moreover, if he genuinely likes you, he won’t care about the minor flaws you often worry about when looking in the mirror.
Tips
- Be careful when telling someone about him, as they might also like him.
- If you’re not yet close to him (because you’re usually shy), try befriending someone he knows.
- Always be friendly! Remember to radiate positive energy, ask simple questions, and show interest in what he says.
- Don’t flirt with other guys around him. Jealousy is a terrible feeling. This could lower his self-esteem and interest in you, depending on his confidence level.
- Moving too fast might scare him. First, ensure he’s comfortable around you before taking things further.
- When he jokes, laugh and lightly touch his arm.
- If your joke isn’t impressive but he still laughs, he might already be interested in you.
- Laugh every time he makes a joke.
- If you show him that you’re kind, considerate, and always helping others, he’ll be drawn to those qualities. Stay strong, be yourself, and remain positive.
- Make sure he doesn’t already have a girlfriend.
- Befriend his close friends to understand him better.
- If his siblings are friendly, try talking to them and building a friendship. Strive to get closer to them.
Warnings
- Don’t act differently around his friends; he’ll notice the sudden shift in your mood or personality and think you’re being fake.
- Try to act naturally. This is easier said than done. Make sure you don’t laugh too much, get overly excited, or do something silly that you might regret later.
- Avoid staring. Just glance. Look at him for a few seconds. When he catches your eye, you can smile shyly, look down, blush, and then smile again. This is charming and attractive.
- Don’t spend too much time on someone if the feelings aren’t mutual.
- Don’t lose yourself. Always prioritize your own well-being.
- He has his own friends, and it’s completely normal for you two not to be attached at the hip. Let him have his own life. Don’t scare him away by always being around.
- Understand that having a crush is temporary, and if things don’t work out with this person, there are others out there waiting for you.
- Guys are often drawn to a bit of challenge, so try teasing him. However, keep it moderate, as men can lose interest if their efforts don’t seem to pay off.
- Don’t act jealous when he talks to another girl—join the conversation instead!
