How to Become a Mean Girl

Have you ever been trampled on, exploited, mocked without mercy, or had to endure insults from others? If so, it's time to get your revenge. Learn how to become a mean girl. However, keep in mind that being mean won't make you better, and if you're consistently rude, people won't like you. So, remember not to take it too far.

Pay attention to your appearance. Regina George from the movie 'Mean Girls' is a powerful girl. One reason she easily controls others is because she's beautiful and always aware of her appearance. It may sound bad, but the world will judge you and label you based on your appearance. So, if you want to become mean, you need to create a suitable look. You need to look like a girl to be feared. And what kind of girls are often seen as intimidating? Beautiful ones.

• Become a stylish girl. This doesn't just mean following current trends, but also creating your own style. Choose your clothes carefully and make sure they suit you. Maintain a consistent style so you have the recognizable appearance of a mean girl.
• Carry a wallet. In your wallet, keep some cosmetics. Even during gym class, Regina George maintained her style. She succeeded because she paid attention to every detail. Lip gloss, accessories – she's always ready.

Be particularly kind to a select few. If you're mean to everyone, you'll only end up being an unlikable witch. You need to act as if it's difficult for others to win your approval – and only a few people are worthy of your praise. You should be picky, no one else but you. Once others realize they're not meeting your high standards, they'll want to try harder.

• Publicly show kindness to a few people. People need to notice that you're capable of being very sweet to those who truly deserve it. Be selective about who receives your kindness and stay firm in your decisions. They'll become your closest friends.

Take everything. If someone else wants something, take it. Why not? After all, someone will get it, and that someone might as well be you. If it's a guy, even better. If it's the homework of a smart girl, even more so.

• Borrow when you need to. Create opportunities to bring others closer to you. Ask a girl for her nail polish while she's using it. She'll be flattered to think that you want the same look as her. If you forget to bring lunch money, bring it up in front of a cute guy – he'll want to step in and rescue you. In general, grab even the smallest opportunities.

Strike back. Regina is always ready to retaliate, ready to hurt others, but not through overt insults. If someone puts you in a difficult situation, get back at them. But do it subtly – you need to make them question whether your intentions are exactly as they think.

• If someone says you're being mean, just tell them, 'I'm not being mean – I'm just protecting myself. There's nothing wrong with that. You should try acting like me sometimes – I'm sure you'd be tired of always being the one pushed around. After all, no one likes being friends with someone who's easily manipulated.' Distract from your insult. Or you can bluntly reply, 'Shut up, Chau. No one likes hanging out with you or your tacky hairstyle anyway.' Then, flip your hair and walk away.

Flirt. When dealing with guys, you need to be a bit more subtle. You still need to express expectations for something (and take it), but you need to act shy and throw in a smile. You need to make them feel honored by your attention, so don't show too much interest in them. After all, will they even help you out? Don't forget: men (and others) are simply here for you to use and manipulate!

• Smile. Mean girls don't usually smile, right? Be cheerful when meeting others and talking to them – they won't notice your meanness because you don't really show it when you meet them.

Pretend to be nice at first. Do you remember how Regina George complimented the girl in the vintage dress, saying she loved it? And then, Regina turned away and muttered, 'That's gross'? It's that simple. The girl in the vintage dress will think she's stylish, and Regina will seem like a nice girl. Now Regina has all the power. The power to control and manipulate others.

• Imagine you do exactly like the situation described above. Suddenly, the Vintage girl comes up to you and asks if you'd like to go to gym class together because she and you are in the same class. You could say, 'Are you sure we're in the same class? Because I've never met you before. But sorry, I have to go meet Lan.'
  • The phrase 'I'm sorry' will prevent the Vintage girl from responding to your actions, even if you've really offended her to the point where she won't ever want to talk to you again! Also, by expressing your offense as a question, this method can make you seem nicer, but you won't truly be nice if your apology doesn't come from the heart.

Deceive the adults. If you constantly display a nasty attitude, sooner or later the adults will show their disapproval. Once the authorities no longer support you, you're in trouble. So make sure they don't discover your wicked side.

• Be a good student. Once you're a good student and obedient, your teachers won't think you're a mean person. And if you behave politely with them, everything will become easier.

Set high expectations for others. Sometimes, when you have high expectations of others, they'll try harder to live up to them. So when they fail, make sure everyone knows how you feel. The goal of this method is to let everyone know that no one is allowed to disappoint you – in fact, they need to try harder to keep up. No excuses.

• For example, you're working on an English project with some girls who aren't your friends. One girl said she'd bring cardboard on Monday, but she forgot. Should you go to her house after class to help finish the project? Of course not. You have your own plans. She should have remembered – her actions are holding up the entire group's progress. Tonight, she will have to make up for her mistakes and present what she's done to the group tomorrow.

Never admit fault. To balance out your meanness, you must be a truly saintly girl. This is the girl who never does anything wrong – but if she ever does, she always has a good reason for it. Never take responsibility for anything; always find an excuse for your actions or find someone to take the blame for you.

• For example, Hong hears that you told Ngoc her butt is getting bigger. Oh no, that's not it! It's just a misunderstanding. Ngoc is the one who told you that Hong is gaining weight. But Hong won't stop talking about it! So to make her stop, you agree that maybe her butt has gotten a little bigger, but the rest of her body remains the same. Actually, you're hoping your butt will grow a little too. Then, you invite Hong out to cheer her up.

Be a forgetful girl. Even if you've met someone 50 times, forget their name. Or pretend you've forgotten. You know they’re in your math class at the same school for six years, but they don't need to know that you’re aware of this.

• This behavior will annoy others. If they react negatively ('Are you kidding? You asked to borrow my homework last week. What’s wrong with you?'), act surprised as if you just remembered. Then, make it seem like it was just a minor mistake, not a big deal. Your indifference will make them think they might have overreacted.

Be confident. You are a talented and beautiful girl, regardless of what others think of you. You might not be perfect, but no one is. Learn to showcase your confidence, act confidently, look confident, and feel confident. You’ll be surprised by the power you can gain simply through your confident actions.

• Think of it like this: when a group of kids tries to sneak into a movie theater, which one gets caught first? It's the one who giggles, looks around nervously, and moves too quickly. The calm, cool, and composed child can sneak in unnoticed – because they blend in with their surroundings. Once you're confident, acting simply and with purpose, you'll be able to get away with anything.

Assert your independence. Learn to do things on your own and only ask for help when you're truly desperate. You don’t need anyone. Relying on others will only make you need them – something you should avoid.

• Being confident and independent will help you avoid depending on others' approval. When you stop caring about what others think of you, the world will open up and allow you to do whatever you desire.

Speak your mind and share your thoughts whenever possible. Others may not like it, but they will respect your honesty. As long as you're truthful, it will be hard for anyone to argue with you.

• Be prepared for the backlash. When you don’t behave friendly or don’t follow the usual social norms, others will notice and respond in kind. If you say, ‘Of course, you won’t pass because your intelligence is below average’ (even if it's true), they’ll immediately feel hurt and want to retaliate with something like, ‘I’d rather not pass than have a face as ugly as yours.’ Be ready for others’ brutal retaliation.

Make friends with other confident and mean girls. They will encourage your confidence and support the way you defend yourself, unlike shy girls who often accept insults. You’ll need their support because it will be difficult to maintain this new persona 24/7.

• It won’t be easy to stand firm with these girls. You’ll want them to know you accept them... but only in the present. Because if they want to become mean toward you, they’ll first need to dethrone you. Be tough with them while still being kind. ‘He said you're fat? Fine, you do need to lose some weight, but I could stand to lose a few kilos too. We’ll lose weight together.’

Don’t hesitate to deal with another mean girl. We all know what they’re like and how powerful their destructive force can be. Never be kind to her – in fact, it’s best to ignore her entirely. Make sure she knows that you don’t like her, and that you’re not afraid of her.

• You won’t want to be too blatantly mean to her unless you understand the consequences and are willing to accept them. But if you go too far, you’ll lower your own value, and she’ll become better than you. Indifference is worse than hatred – because at least with hatred, you can express your feelings. When you’re indifferent, you show that you don’t even care about their existence. And that’s the most hurtful thing.

Be unpredictable. If you frequently change your emotions or choices in a way that suits you, people will be cautious around you. They may also get tired of your behavior, so make sure to be mean only at the right times. This means that you have to be truly mean and genuinely nice at the same time.

• Every now and then, replace your meanness with sweet moments – this will throw people off and be fun to watch. Compliment a girl you meet in the hallway on her report. Tell someone else that they did well in last Thursday's volleyball match. It might sound like a small compliment, but when you usually give negative comments to others, your compliments will have twice the impact.

Don’t be a girly girl. Laughing girlishly, liking pink, and acting like a kindergarten child won’t work. Be whoever you want to be, but make sure everyone knows your meanness. You are truly a mean person, not just a gloomy sixth-grader.

• Being mean only works if you're truly mature about it. Being a chatterbox isn’t meanness, it’s stupidity; people won’t tolerate that behavior. But if you are mature, decisive, honest, and can’t stand fools, others will find it hard to understand you. Be wise when choosing your attacks.

• Being a mean girl doesn’t mean you have to be a bully! Don’t act mean towards everyone constantly; aim to become more confident. Only defend yourself when someone hurts you; stand up for yourself and don’t give in to them.
• Don’t confuse ‘mean’ with ‘moody’. Smile, laugh wholeheartedly, and appreciate the little things in life.
• Even though many people might know who you are, some may still look down on you for your actions. Avoid using your fame to manipulate others, as it will make you a bully, not someone famous!
• Regina George is not a good person. She manipulates others and doesn’t have real friends. Be ready for a very lonely time ahead.