How to Become a Popular Girl

Having many friends can offer you social support, help improve your mood, and reduce stress. To become famous, focus on being someone others genuinely enjoy being around. You can also gain recognition and respect at school by joining various clubs and activities. If you make an effort to be more approachable, you'll quickly gain popularity.

Join a Club. If you want to become popular, you need to be seen and known by others at school. Engaging in extracurricular activities will help improve your social standing. It will also offer the bonus of helping you make new friends and enhance your popularity.

• By joining clubs related to your interests, such as a journalism club if you're passionate about the press, you’ll find like-minded people.
• If you're focused on gaining fame, consider learning which clubs are attended by the most prominent students. For instance, if most of the popular girls in your school join the debate club, it could be a great place to meet other influential students.

Join a Sports Team. In many schools, popular girls often participate in sports teams. This approach can help you meet other well-known students. If you excel in sports, you can quickly gain recognition.

• Train yourself if you're not familiar with a particular sport. For example, if you want to join the basketball team, you should practice shooting hoops at a local park.
• You need to maintain your fitness to participate in any sports club. Start with small fitness exercises and gradually increase the intensity, as you don't want to push yourself too hard right away.
• Don't be discouraged if you're not accepted into the school's sports team. Remember, you can always try again next year. Keep up with your fitness and focus on improving so you can try again in the future.

Run for Student Council. Are the class president, treasurer, and representatives quite well-known in your school? If so, running for student council could bring you benefits. At the beginning of the school year, during elections, work on establishing a campaign team and securing a position on the student council.

• Make sure to understand the rules and requirements to run for student council. You might need a certain number of signatures or to register by a specific deadline.
• Think of a catchy slogan for your campaign and post it on bulletin boards around the school. Put up posters throughout the school to spread your message.
• Write an impressive speech for the position you’re running for, clearly explaining what you plan to do if elected.

Attend School-Related Events. If you want to become popular, you need to put effort into socializing. You should attend school events where groups of popular students tend to meet. Don't miss out on events such as school dances, sports events, and assemblies.

• If you're a bit shy, try to attend the event with a small group of friends. However, remember not to only socialize with your own circle. You should step outside your comfort zone and talk to new people. Expanding your friend circle will help you gain popularity.
• Don't be shy. It can be intimidating to meet new people, but school events often make it easier to start conversations. This is especially true for sports events, where friendships can be formed through cheering for the same team.

Set Goals. This may sound unusual, but setting goals will help you make new friends, especially if you're naturally shy. Small personal goals will allow you to break out of your shell and boost your popularity.

• Start by setting small goals. For example, you could promise yourself to engage in small talk with someone new before each class on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.
• As you become more comfortable connecting with others, set bigger goals. You might decide to attend a birthday party you're invited to and aim to talk to at least three new people.
• If you stick to your goals, you will gradually feel more comfortable socializing. This method will allow you to meet new people and make many new friends.

Invite others to participate in activities with you. If you want to make more friends, focus on connecting with others outside of class. Once you’re comfortable meeting people around school, try asking someone to hang out. You can ask if they’d like to watch a movie or grab a coffee. Try to organize a group outing to do something fun, like going to the mall.

• Don’t hesitate to ask a popular girl to join you for an event, especially if you’ve established a strong connection with her at school. If you get along with someone in class, chances are they’ll be open to spending time with you outside of class.

Avoid taking rejection personally. The fear of rejection is often the reason people hold themselves back. However, it happens to everyone. Just because someone doesn’t want to go to the movies with you on a particular Friday doesn’t mean they’re not interested in being friends.

• Everyone has their own responsibilities. If a popular girl declines your coffee invitation, she may be genuinely busy. Don’t take this rejection as a reason to retreat.
• Remember, there’s a lot you don’t know about others. The people you talk to have their own obligations and issues you might not be aware of. If someone says “No,” they might just be shy or busy.
• See rejection as a minor setback. You can try inviting that person again after a few weeks if they decline the first time.

Leverage social media. Social media can help you gain popularity, especially in high school. Many teenagers use platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, which are essential for communication. Invitations to events, conversations, and bonding often happen online.

• Identify which social media platforms are popular at your school. If the popular girls are using Snapchat, it might be a good idea to create an account. However, always check with your parents before creating any social media account to ensure they approve.
• Focus on meaningful interactions online. People tend to respond better to personal messages than vague status updates. For example, congratulate one of the popular girls for winning a spelling bee or being accepted into a summer internship program.
• Remember that online friends can’t replace real-world friendships. While chatting online can strengthen your existing relationships, avoid engaging with strangers on the internet. Not only does this not help your overall popularity, but it can also compromise your safety.

Treat others as you would like to be treated. If you want to make more friends, you need to have good qualities. Always remember the Golden Rule when looking for new friends: treat others the way you wish to be treated. People are naturally drawn to those who are respectful and kind.

Change your appearance. While you shouldn’t focus solely on your looks to become popular, confidence is key. A new haircut, a fresh wardrobe, and even a change in makeup can help you feel better about yourself. This boost in self-esteem can motivate you to seek out new friendships and increase your popularity.

• Try following trends that appeal to you. If you’re wearing something you don’t like, it will affect your confidence and make socializing more difficult. If you dislike tights, avoid jumping on the tights trend. But if you notice everyone wearing knee-high boots and you like your lace-up boots, that’s a trend that’s a good fit for you.
• You might also consider tweaking your hairstyle and makeup. Visit the makeup counter in a store and ask about daily looks that attract attention. You could consult a hairstylist to find a cut that suits you. Makeup and hairstyles that complement your features can boost your confidence and, in turn, your popularity.

Smile. Although it’s a small change, smiling can make you appear more positive and approachable. Making an effort to smile more can increase your popularity and help you make more friends. Practice smiling in front of the mirror until you find a warm and engaging smile. When you walk down the hallway, try smiling at others.

• When someone talks to you, make an effort to smile throughout the conversation.
• Smile when you make eye contact with people in the hallway.
• When introducing yourself to someone new, smile while shaking their hand.

Be friendly. If you’re warm and approachable, people will naturally be drawn to you. This will help you make more friends and become more popular. Work on fostering a friendly attitude so you can become more well-liked at school.

• Try to show that you’re genuinely happy to meet people. If appropriate, give a friend a hug or a friendly pat on the back when you meet them in public.
• Be enthusiastic when interacting with others. Smile and laugh during your conversations.
• Be open to meeting new people. Try striking up a conversation between classes. Sit at a new table during lunch. Introduce yourself with a friendly attitude as you make an effort to meet new people and make new friends.

Ask about others. People are often attracted to those who show genuine interest in their lives. During a conversation, make sure to ask questions. Give others the chance to talk about themselves and their interests.

• Ask questions to learn more about others. Inquire about their hobbies and passions. You could ask questions like, “What’s your most recent memory?” or “What do you like to do on weekends?”
• This is a great technique for parties. You can keep a conversation going by asking questions, as people love talking about themselves. You can really get to know someone by asking plenty of questions.

Listen. Becoming a good listener will make others appreciate you more and help you gain popularity. Make sure to truly listen to what others say. If you don’t understand something, ask questions to ensure you comprehend it. Showing sincere interest will enhance your popularity.

• Give people space to talk. After someone finishes speaking, wait 5 to 10 seconds to ensure they’re done talking.
• Try to listen about half the time you speak.

Become someone who helps others. One way to gain popularity is by being helpful. Listen when someone needs assistance. If someone struggles with a homework problem, offer to help them. People are naturally drawn to those who are considerate and kind. Becoming someone who helps others will increase your popularity.

• While being helpful is a great way to make new friends, be careful not to let others take advantage of you. If someone constantly asks for your help, it’s okay to set boundaries.
• Make sure others aren’t exploiting your kindness. If your friends aren’t offering help in return, it might be time to distance yourself from them.

Be yourself. Being authentic will help you make more friends. While many people feel they need to change to become popular, others are drawn to people who are comfortable with who they are. Allow your personality to shine. Don’t hesitate to pursue your own interests and passions when the opportunity arises. Let your unique qualities, such as your sense of humor, come through in conversations.

Trust your instincts. While becoming popular can be exciting, you should never put yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable just to please others. If you feel uneasy in any situation, trust your gut. Negative instincts often signal danger.

• If you’re uncomfortable, leave the situation. Look for an opportunity to excuse yourself from a party or event if you feel anxious.
• If you need to get away from questioning in that moment, you can try offering a brief excuse. For example, you could say, “Sorry, but I have to leave. I’m getting a headache.”

Avoid illegal activities. If you find yourself at an event where drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes are being used, it’s best to leave. You don’t want to compromise your safety just to become popular. Additionally, drinking underage or using illegal substances could have legal consequences. If you’re pressured to participate in illegal activities, find a way to quickly exit the situation.

• If you’re on your way to an event where alcohol and cigarettes will be involved, plan an escape strategy in case you’re forced to engage. You might want to ask a trusted friend to call you, offering a way out of the situation.

Tránh bắt nạt. Áp lực tiêu cực từ phía bạn bè thường sẽ khuyến khích bạn bắt nạt hoặc tẩy chay học sinh khác. Nhóm học sinh nổi tiếng trong trường trung học hoặc phổ thông thường tham gia vào hành động bắt nạt. Hãy nhớ là bắt nạt có thể đem lại hậu quả nghiêm trọng về mặt cảm xúc cho nạn nhân. Bạn phải cưỡng lại cám dỗ muốn tung tin đồn nhảm và không nên công khai tàn nhẫn với học sinh khác trong trường.

• Sẽ khó để bạn cưỡng lại áp lực tiêu cực từ phía bạn bè, nhưng bạn nên ghi nhớ lợi ích mà nó sẽ đem lại. Bạn sẽ cảm thấy tốt hơn về bản thân và có thể ảnh hưởng đến bạn bè khác trong việc chống lại hành động như bắt nạt hoặc nói xấu.

Tập trung vào áp lực tích cực từ phía bạn bè. Áp lực từ phía bạn bè không nhất thiết phải tiêu cực. Đôi khi, bạn của bạn sẽ ép buộc bạn chấp nhận những rủi ro xứng đáng. Ví dụ, bạn bè tốt sẽ khuyến khích bạn gửi bài thơ của bạn đến cuộc thi nào đó hoặc mời người mà bạn đang để ý đi chơi. Bạn bè cũng có thể sẽ dẫn dắt bạn đến với điều thú vị và mới mẻ, như nhóm nhạc hoặc tác giả mới. Mặc dù bạn nên từ chối áp lực tiêu cực từ phía bạn bè, bạn cần tập trung vào yếu tố tích cực. Cho phép bạn bè bạn hướng dẫn bạn về điều mới mẻ và giúp bạn tìm kiếm cơ hội cho niềm vui, sự học hỏi, và sự phát triển cá nhân.

• Không nên có ác ý. Khởi đầu bi kịch và xúc phạm cô gái khác sẽ không khiến bạn nổi tiếng. Thật ra, nó sẽ chỉ biến bạn trở thành tâm điểm của chuyện ngồi lê đôi mách hoặc thậm chí là sự nhạo báng. Ngay cả khi bạn thật sự không thích một người nào đó, đừng tung tin đồn nhảm.
• Nếu người khác không thích bạn, hãy vượt qua điều này; không phải mọi người đều sẽ yêu mến bạn. Tuy nhiên, bạn nên tử tế với họ, vì họ có thể thay đổi suy nghĩ và sẽ nhận ra sự tuyệt vời của bạn.
• Điều chỉnh bản thân và thay đổi chính mình là hai điều hoàn toàn khác nhau. Cố gắng trở thành người khác sẽ không giúp bạn có nhiều bạn bè hơn; mọi người sẽ nhìn thấu hành động của bạn vào một thời điểm nào đó. Bạn nên cố gắng cải thiện dựa trên bản chất thật sự của bạn. Nhiều loại người khác nhau đều có thể trở nên nổi tiếng, vì vậy, đừng cố gắng ép buộc bản thân thích ứng với một khuôn mẫu nào đó.
• Cần nhớ rằng sẽ phải tốn một khoảng thời gian để trở nên nổi tiếng. Có thể bạn sẽ cần đến một tháng hoặc nhiều hơn. Nó sẽ không xảy ra chỉ sau một đêm. Bạn chỉ cần xem nó như dự án xã hội mà bạn có thể thực hiện.
• Tránh ở nhà vào ngày cuối tuần. Hãy nhớ ra khỏi nhà và vui vẻ cùng bạn bè (hoặc một mình). Càng có nhiều người trông thấy bạn, họ sẽ càng thích bạn hơn. Nghiên cứu đã chỉ ra rằng khuôn mặt quen thuộc sẽ cuốn hút hơn khuôn mặt mới. Đôi khi, bạn hoàn toàn có thể tận hưởng một ngày cuối tuần dễ dàng, nhưng thu mình trong xó xỉnh nào đó vào mỗi cuối tuần sẽ không khiến bạn trở nên sành điệu.
• Cố gắng xem chương trình TV mà mọi người thường xem (Giọng hát Việt, Gương mặt Thương hiệu, Siêu mẫu Việt Nam, v.v.) để bạn luôn có sẵn chủ đề trò chuyện với những cô nàng nổi tiếng, nhưng hãy nhớ bảo đảm rằng chúng là chương trình mà bạn thật sự yêu thích và cảm thấy phù hợp. Bạn nên xin cha mẹ cho phép bạn xem chúng.
• Không trở nên tự mãn. Trở nên tự tin về bản thân là hành động khá tốt nhưng đừng để sự tự tin chiếm lĩnh con người bạn. Tránh hành động như thể bạn quá ngầu đối với trường học và không được tỏ vẻ chán chường khi người khác đang nói. Điều cuối cùng mà người khác muốn ở cạnh là người luôn nghĩ mình là sếp.
• Nếu phương pháp này không đem lại hiệu quả, hãy kiên nhẫn. Không người nào có thể trở nên nổi tiếng chỉ sau một đêm.

• If you’ve made friends with famous people, don’t forget your old friends. Invite them to hang out with your new friends so you can introduce everyone to each other.
• The golden rule: Don’t be rude or arrogant! Movies often portray famous female characters as snobby, arrogant, and wealthy. In reality, no one wants to associate with a rude and conceited person, and rest assured, you can become famous without needing to be rich or wear custom-designed outfits. The truly famous girl is the one who is kind, beloved, and surrounded by many friends.
• Although fame isn’t really about grades, if you’re generally smart and interesting, people will admire you for striking a perfect balance between being trendy and intelligent.