How to Become Attractive

Make sure you become "attractive" rather than "cute". Being "attractive" means becoming someone others are immediately drawn to. This is very different from being "cute." Usually, when someone is seen as cute, they appeal in a youthful way and are less focused on sexuality. So, if you want to be an attractive woman, you need to highlight your curves. If you want to be an attractive man, aim to be George Clooney rather than Justin Bieber.

• People often confuse "attractive" with "sexy," but they are not the same. "Sexy" is a more mature, sophisticated form of attraction (when you don’t need sharpness to stand out). Think of the difference between Megan Fox and Angelina Jolie. Angelina Jolie is mature and elegant (this is what makes her sexy), while Megan Fox is edgy, bold, and seductive (which is what makes her "attractive").

Sharpen your edge. To look attractive, you need to spark curiosity and maintain an air of mystery. When others see you, you want them to say "wow" instead of "meh." You can achieve this by not revealing everything about yourself immediately, avoiding constant presence, and simply taking your time to open up. This approach will leave others intrigued and guessing about you.

• You need a bit of sharpness. Think about the difference between a rock star and a typical teacher. If both are quite beautiful, you'd likely find the rock star attractive, while the teacher might be considered cute. Both are great, but if you want to be seen as alluring, subtle flirtation or embracing a rebellious nature will work in your favor.

Be comfortable with your body. To become more seductive, you need to be at ease with yourself and know how to highlight your best features. This doesn’t mean you have to "bare it all," but a little bit of sensuality won’t hurt anyone. If you feel confident, show off the part of your body you love the most – or just enough to catch their attention. Whether it's flaunting your muscular arms or a hint of cleavage, you're on the path to becoming attractive.

Have good posture. Stand tall and always exude pride and happiness in being yourself, in owning your current appearance. Keep your shoulders back, head held high, and hands by your sides. Avoid slouching or you’ll appear insecure. Attractive people maintain good posture because they are proud of what they have – and they enjoy showing it off. If you’re a woman, walk with the grace of a diva and smile seductively often.

Maintain your physique. Many attractive people don’t have perfect bodies, and many with great bodies aren’t necessarily attractive. However, if you want to catch the attention of those around you, aim to shed excess weight if you’re overweight, or work on building muscle if you’re underweight or too slim. Visit your local gym to determine which equipment or exercises are best suited to your needs.

• Exercise will also make you feel more confident and happy with who you are. It’ll help you look and feel more attractive.

Practice good hygiene. This means brushing your teeth and flossing at least twice a day, washing your face to clear up blackheads or acne, shampooing your hair regularly, and taking care of your body overall. You can also use deodorant, trim your nails, and always smell fresh. If you wish, try using a pleasant fragrance or treat yourself to a spa day.

• No matter how much you exercise, if you show up smelling like you haven’t bathed in days, people won’t find you attractive.

Have a mature appearance. Remember to look sharp in the clothes you wear by choosing outfits that enhance your figure. While attractiveness is subjective, it's worth investing time in finding clothes that complement your color and style. Here are some tips to help you look more attractive:

• Experiment with new fashion trends that could boost your appeal.
• Wear accessories. Look for earrings, necklaces, bracelets, rings, or bangles.
• Avoid wearing workout clothes, running shoes, or plain t-shirts. Save those for exercise time.
• You can dress casually as long as it appears you've made an effort.

Maintain a great hairstyle. Some stylish hairdos include straight hair, curls, voluminous hair, updos, waves, braids, ponytails, or messy buns. Attractive people are dynamic and tend to change up their look, drawing attention. You might consider how J-Law looked even more attractive after cutting her hair short!

• For men, if you find a hairstyle that suits you, feel free to stick with it for a while. If you're balding, don’t underestimate the appeal of a smooth, shaved head. A few gray hairs can be quite attractive too.

Consider makeup, if you're a woman. The key is to keep it minimal. Eyeshadow, mascara, eyeliner, and lip gloss or balm are all you need, unless you have skin issues like acne, in which case concealer and foundation are ideal. Makeup can signal to men that you're interested in being noticed (though it may seem counterintuitive, too much "sexy" makeup can send a message of seeking attention, so don’t overdo it).

• If you're a man and willing to experiment, you can definitely try makeup. Eyeliner is particularly appealing to both sexes, or you can use concealer to cover imperfections.

Look a bit edgy. If you’re a man, you can skip this step. For clothes, tank tops, shorts, layered shirts, yoga pants, and skinny jeans are good options. If you're young, you can wear pretty much anything (as long as people aren’t teasing you for it). Think of the outfits Beyoncé or The Saturdays wore in the "What About Us" music video. Remember: Thin clothes don't automatically make you more attractive.

Be mature. You can't appear "attractive" if you constantly remind others of your childish side through frequent complaining, picking fights, or acting immature. It's important to maintain composure, present yourself with confidence, and show politeness to those around you. Treat everyone with respect, avoid whining, and take responsibility for your actions. When you behave maturely, others will recognize you as someone worth getting to know and not someone to be underestimated.

• You don’t want to turn people off by seeming whiny or overly emotional. Focus on building a non-childish image of yourself.

Be cool. Ironically, being attractive often means being a bit aloof. Take Brad Pitt as an example—he's seen as attractive by many women (though not all) because of his cool demeanor, good looks, and tendency to keep a low profile, rarely smiling or engaging in conversation (this doesn't mean you can't smile or talk to people).

• Attractive people tend to say only what is necessary, deliver witty remarks, or say exactly what others want to hear.
• In tense situations, attractive people leave an impression by staying calm, reassuring others that everything will be fine, and sometimes just dealing with things themselves.
• They rarely get upset or anxious.

Show confidence. Attractive people know they are attractive and exude the confidence to back it up. You should be proud and comfortable in your own skin, walking with your head held high and talking about positive things that make you happy. If you walk around seeking attention or appear unsure of yourself, you won’t seem attractive. Instead, smile when entering a room, be friendly, and accept that what others say or do may be true because you can’t prove them wrong on first impressions, rather than doubting everyone outside your social circle.

• If you want to build confidence, surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.
• Of course, it’s okay to have doubts. You don’t need to pretend to be happy all the time. If you’re feeling insecure, talk it out with a close friend instead of letting others know your vulnerability.

Don’t be overly sensitive. While it’s perfectly fine to feel happy or sad, generally speaking, attractive people tend to be emotionally stable. They don’t cry out of joy, scream when meeting friends, or lose their temper with teachers. Instead, they know when to express happiness or sadness, but they never go overboard. They don’t use their emotions to draw attention. People are drawn to them because of their greatness, not because they’re throwing a tantrum.

• If you’re talking to a friend and start feeling angry, take a moment to breathe and return to a calm state.

Be kind to everyone. People often assume that attractive individuals are only kind to other attractive people and ignore those they deem "beneath" them. If you truly are attractive, you should be able to look beyond appearances and understand who’s truly worth getting to know. Don’t just hang out with people who make you look good; spend time with those you respect and admire. Look around and ask yourself about the friendships you have—are they with people you’d want to be like?

• If you're kind to everyone, you'll leave a greater impression, as people will think, "It’s amazing how she/he is so friendly with everyone, even though she/he is so attractive. She/he really doesn’t let that go to their head."
• This also applies to strangers or people you’ve just met. Don’t enter new conversations with doubt; instead, try approaching them with curiosity or enthusiasm.
• Don’t be a snob. Don’t just walk past that girl in your history class and ignore her because you think saying hi isn't "cool".

Avoid excessive bragging. Just because you think you're attractive doesn’t mean you should constantly talk about the weights you’ve lifted at the gym, how great you look in your new outfit, or how many phone numbers you collected over the weekend. If you're truly attractive, people will notice, and they’ll do the talking for you. People won’t find you attractive if you’re always trying to prove it. Next time you feel the urge to brag, take a moment to compliment others instead.

• Humility and modesty will go a long way in making you look and feel more attractive. If you constantly boast, people may start to think you’re arrogant and dislike you.

Keep your options open. Attractive people don’t obsess over one person they like, nor do they spend all their time with just a boyfriend/girlfriend. Instead, they date multiple people. If they find someone they’re into, they’ll focus on them, but generally, attractive people don’t overthink things and enjoy exploring their options. When you’re at a party or bar, don’t fixate on just one person like a laser beam—talk to a variety of people and you might end up liking someone you didn’t expect.

• Attractive people also don’t feel crushed by rejection. Of course, rejection is tough, but don’t waste too much time feeling sorry for yourself—it’s just not worth it.

Don’t check yourself out in public. If you’re attractive, you’ll know this instinctively. Don’t stand in front of a window staring at your reflection, or pull out a mirror to fix your makeup in public. Your attractiveness should feel effortless, not forced. If you need to check your appearance, do it in private, not on the street. Otherwise, people may see you as insecure.

Be kind-hearted. Attractive people are generous and joyful for what they have. They aren’t bitter losers, angry over small things, or rude to waiters, teachers, or strangers. Kind-hearted people treat everyone with kindness, help others, and are aware of their good fortune in life. Avoid acting as though you deserve to be treated like royalty while others are beneath you—such behavior is vile and people won’t like it.

• Kind-hearted people know they need to work hard for what they want and don’t believe they "deserve" the best just because of their looks. If you truly want to be attractive, you need to be kind and grateful.

Be kind to your friends. There’s a stereotype about people who treat their friends like mere accessories (like Regina George in Mean Girls) because they’re so attractive they think they can do whatever they want. Whether you break this trend is up to you. Don’t treat your friends like they have no voice, as assistants, or as servants who are always ready to comply with your every whim. Instead, treat them as equals, allow them to speak up about your actions, and show genuine interest in their well-being. Take time to do nice things for them, and ensure your friendship is meaningful.

• Also, don’t be the type of person who talks badly about their friends as soon as they turn their back. You’ll quickly earn a reputation as fake.

Become attractive when you're around the person you're interested in. If you want to be attractive, you need to be able to flirt a little when talking to someone you're interested in. However, this doesn’t mean you should try too hard or be overly forward. You should find a balance between maintaining composure and giving the other person just enough to get curious about you; this way, you'll be seen as attractive, and people will still want to learn more about you. If people perceive you as cold or self-absorbed, you won’t have many people wanting to date you, no matter how attractive you are.

• And if someone you’re not interested in approaches you, be as kind as possible. Just because you don’t think they’re attractive or cool doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat them like a human being.
• Don’t act like you’re royalty and that the other person should beg for a minute of your time. Always remember to treat the person you're talking to with equality.