How to behave at a party when your crush is there: 12 things you should and shouldn't do

You’ve already picked out your outfit, fixed your hair in front of the mirror three times, and planned to arrive fashionably late as usual. But what if, upon entering, you find your crush is also at the party? What will you do? In most cases, it's best to enjoy the party and try to connect with them. This is also an opportunity to figure out what your crush thinks of you if things are still uncertain. Even if you don’t end up going home with them tonight, don’t worry—this is a process that takes time!

After entering the party, take a moment to look around. Spend a few minutes walking around and greeting people. This will help you spot the liveliest areas and adapt to the atmosphere. If you’re in an uncomfortable spot, gather a few friends and move to a quieter area where you can take in a broader view of the party.

• If you’re familiar with the host, consider asking them to introduce you to others you haven’t met yet as you enter. Having someone help break the ice can make it easier to start enjoying the event.
• If you know you'll be meeting some new people at the party, try arriving a little later than usual. This way, you’ll avoid being the first one there, and the party will already be in full swing by the time you arrive.

Forget about your dream person for now and focus on having fun. Chat with your friends, grab some snacks, and pour yourself a drink (if you're of legal age). In the beginning, just concentrate on enjoying the party. If your dream person approaches or you start a conversation with them naturally, congratulations! But if things don't go that way, don't stress about approaching them right away. After all, if they see you're having fun, they'll likely be more attracted to you!

• There are some benefits you should know. First, you'll build social interaction skills, making it easier to smoothly engage with others and approach them later. Plus, you'll feel more at ease if you take the time to enjoy the party without putting pressure on yourself to talk to them.
• That being said, it doesn't mean you should ignore your dream person. If you do start chatting and things flow well, keep the momentum going. The key is to not act like they don't exist; just make it clear you're having a great time at the party!

It's fine to have some fun, but getting tipsy can ruin everything quickly. If you're of legal age, feel free to have a drink or two. Just remember to eat something light before the party starts, and drink some water or soda between alcoholic beverages. Avoid overindulging, as no one looks charming when they’re slurring, and you'll lose your confidence when people start gossiping.

• If you’ve had enough or simply don't want to drink, don't let anyone pressure you. You can pour some water into your glass and carry it around as a prop. No one will notice.
• If you're 18 or older, it’s no big deal. But if you're still underage, you should consider carefully, as drinking before you're of legal age won’t make you look cooler. It’s not worth putting yourself in a dangerous or illegal situation just to impress someone.

Throughout the night, try to connect with your crush through body language. While you shouldn’t follow them around all night, you can still establish a connection when they’re not nearby. If they’re laughing with their friends, see if you can lock eyes with them. If you pass by them in the hallway on your way to the restroom, flash a smile. The more subtle hints you send, the more likely they are to respond or understand what you’re trying to convey.

• In general, treat everyone kindly, but the more you smile, hug, or open up to them, the more special they’ll feel.
• If you feel like your body language isn’t being reciprocated, don’t jump to conclusions. Some people just aren’t very attuned to the unspoken gestures from others.

If your crush is alone at any point, take the opportunity to talk to them. If their friends are off doing something else, don’t miss this chance. Politely excuse yourself from your group, smile, and walk over to them. Not only will they silently appreciate you for coming to rescue them from standing alone, but it also gives you the chance to connect with them on a deeper level.

• You can start with something simple like: “How’s the party going?” or “How do you know the host?” It’s also perfectly fine to just approach them and say: “Hi there!”
• If you don’t know them very well, you can introduce yourself: “Hey, I’m Tuan! I’ve seen you at school but never really got a chance to talk. What’s your name?”
• If you’re already familiar with them, just chat as you would normally. The goal is to connect and build a relationship that might turn into something more, if that’s your intention.

If you don’t want to talk to them alone, you can suggest they join your group. They might feel a bit hesitant to come over and join, and you may also feel nervous approaching them on your own. In this case, invite them over to chat with you and your friends. This is a low-risk way to enjoy the fun with your crush and get to know them better.

• If you feel a bit awkward being close to someone you like, you can let your friends take the lead in conversing with them.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to join the conversation group of your crush. If they’re chatting and laughing with 2 or 3 others, try to find a way to slip into the group. If you overhear a funny story or have something to say, don’t hesitate to jump in. You can even simply interrupt with a greeting like: “Hey everyone. What’s so funny?” You’ll find it easier to connect with the person you like when there are others around.

• Ask a mutual friend to pull you into the conversation if you’re unsure about what’s being discussed at that moment.
• If they seem to be having a deep conversation or talking with someone you don’t know, and the timing doesn’t seem right, just wait. The opportunity will come.

Break the ice by saying something nice. Once you’ve approached your crush, ask if you can get them a drink. If you're in a group, after offering to get their drink, ask if anyone else needs anything. Then, find a chance to compliment them and express how glad you are to meet them. This is a great way to steer the conversation in a positive direction.

• Keep it simple with the compliments and remember not to overdo it. You could say something like: “I’m really happy to meet you. You look great tonight!” or “It’s awesome to meet you. I thought the party was getting boring until you showed up!”
• Even if you're underage and can't drink alcohol, you can still offer them a soda!

Nếu không khí thích hợp và mọi chuyện diễn ra tốt đẹp, hãy thử tán tỉnh người trong mộng. Bạn có thể giao tiếp bằng mắt và mỉm cười. Nếu họ kể chuyện cười, hãy cười to (dù cho không quá hài hước). Bạn có thể vui đùa một chút, chạm nhẹ vào vai đối phương hoặc ôm hờ nếu tình huống phù hợp. Hãy tự tin đáp lại những tín hiệu và tung hứng sao cho phù hợp với năng lượng của họ.

• Nếu đây là bữa tiệc nhảy, bạn có thể mời người mình thích cùng tham gia. Dẫu rằng bạn và người ấy chưa hẳn là vũ công giỏi, nhưng cả hai sẽ có những khoảnh khắc vui vẻ cùng nhau.

Tìm trò chơi nào đó để chơi cùng là cách tuyệt vời để kết nối với người ấy. Cho dù là thi phóng phi tiêu hay trò chơi điện tử Mario Kart, việc cùng chơi với người mà bạn thích là cách hay để gần gũi nhau hơn. Thậm chí nếu người ấy không hứng thú với những trò chơi, ít nhất họ cũng ghi nhận rằng bạn đã có nhã ý.

• Rút gỗ, cá sấu cắn tay, đâm hải tặc, cờ cá ngựa, bài UNO, vân vân, là những trò chơi vui nhộn thường thấy ở các buổi tiệc mà bạn có thể gợi ý.
• Nếu hai bạn ở các đội đối đầu hoặc cạnh tranh với nhau, một chút trêu ghẹo tán tỉnh cũng là cách hay để bạn gửi tín hiệu đến người ấy mà không phải nói ra hoàn toàn. Hãy nói điều gì đó như: “Có điều này cậu nên biết, tớ là cao thủ rút gỗ đó. Cậu có thể nhận thua luôn bây giờ cũng được” và nở nụ cười tinh nghịch. Họ sẽ bị thu hút!

Nếu bạn hành động như thể là ai khác, người trong mộng sẽ nhìn thấu ngay. Ngoài ra, nếu mọi chuyện suôn sẻ, bạn hẳn sẽ muốn người ấy thích con người thật của chính bạn chứ không phải phiên bản hư cấu nào đó. Dù cho điều gì xảy ra, hãy cứ là chính mình. Thậm chí nếu bạn vô tình làm điều gì đó hơi vụng về, nhìn chung người khác sẽ phản ứng tích cực hơn nếu đó là chính bạn chứ không phải diễn xuất.

• Càng chú ý đến cách tiếp cận người khác, bạn sẽ càng gượng gạo hơn. Đừng đặt quá nhiều áp lực lên bản thân để phải làm điều gì đó khác ngoài tận hưởng bữa tiệc.

You might feel like this is incredibly important, but take a deep breath and relax. A party is meant to be fun, and hanging out with your crush should be just as enjoyable. But if you focus too much energy on making this event feel like a super important experience, you’ll end up feeling disappointed. Just try to enjoy the fun without worrying too much about impressing anyone or putting on a show.

• If you haven’t started the conversation yet, or if your crush seems more focused on their friends or something else, just let it go and have a good time with your own friends.