Buzz
If you've been crushing on a guy for a while, you'll likely be thrilled when he becomes your boyfriend. However, if you're still young and new to relationships, it might feel challenging to know what to do or say. Don't worry, you can remember a few things to navigate through the initial stages. Keep reading to learn how to grow the relationship and get to know your guy better!
Steps
Ask him about his day.
Show him that you care about his life. If you meet after school, ask him how his class or test went today. This is an easy topic to start a conversation if you’re unsure about what to say, and he might even ask about your day in return.
- Don't worry if you feel a little awkward at first when talking to your boyfriend. New relationships can be a bit clumsy, but you'll both feel more comfortable as time goes on!
- Try saying something like, “How did that math test go, Khoa? Thùy said it was tough.”
Compliment him.
Who doesn't love hearing about their good qualities? Tell him that he looks great in that shirt or let him know that you admired his amazing basketball shot in the game last night. He'll really appreciate it and realize that you pay attention to the little details.
- For example, you might say, “Oh, is that a new shirt? Đào loves it, it really suits Tùng's style.”
- Or, “In the game last night, you scored so many points I couldn't even keep track!”
Flirt with him, but subtly.
Don't stop flirting once he's your boyfriend. You can flirt by holding his hand, smiling, and greeting him when you meet in the hallway, or even applying a bit of lip balm to draw his attention to your lips. These little things will keep him focused on you, and he'll fall for you even more.
- Sometimes, you can also text him if you enjoy the playful flirting game. A message like “I just saw Hải in the hallway, he looked amazing” will make him proud and he'll love it.
- Remember, only do this with your boyfriend. If he sees you sending flirty texts to other people, he might get upset, and your relationship could be at risk.
Limit affectionate gestures.
Public displays of affection can be endearing when done in moderation. When meeting your boyfriend at school, you can hug or hold hands. If both of you are comfortable, you might even steal a quick kiss. However, reserve any other forms of affection for when you're alone together.
- Depending on the school's regulations, overly intimate actions could cause trouble. If you're unsure, it's best to keep things minimal.
Avoid oversharing on social media.
Such actions can harm your relationship. It's fine to post pictures of the two of you having fun, but airing grievances like fighting on Facebook will only lead to more trouble. If there are issues, address them privately rather than airing them publicly.
- Also, refrain from badmouthing him to friends or family, even during an argument.
Go out after school.
Make an effort to meet outside the classroom. If you're not in the mood to relax at home, consider going to the park or dining out with a few friends. You don't need to do this every day, but occasionally finding time to be alone with him is important.
- If you plan to invite him over to your house, be sure to ask your parents first. They might have rules for you to follow (like leaving the door open when he comes over, for example.)
Ask about his goals and plans for the future.
This will help you learn more about him. What are his goals and dreams? Does he know what he wants to do after finishing high school? As you spend more time together, you'll naturally discover more about him.
- You could ask, "I want to move to Da Nang after graduation. How about you?"
- Sometimes, guys can be reluctant to share their vulnerable sides. Be patient if it takes him a while to open up to you.
Talk to him about your feelings.
Let him know more about you too. Share your dreams, aspirations, and feelings about your relationship with him. If there's something on your mind, it's better to speak up sooner rather than letting it fester.
- For example, if you notice him talking to a friend and it seems like there might be some flirting, you can talk to him about it. You might say, "Duy, yesterday I saw you chatting with Mai and it looked kind of intimate. What were you two talking about?" Hopefully, he can ease your concerns and clear up any doubts.
Be friends with his friends.
Make friends with his friends, or at least get to know them better. If he often chats with his close friends before class, approach them and introduce yourself. If he hangs out with his friends after school, ask if you can join them. You don’t need to follow them around all the time, but he’ll appreciate that you’re getting along with his friends.
- Sometimes, he might want to hang out with his friends without you tagging along, and that’s perfectly fine! Both of you should have friends outside of your relationship.
Try not to be jealous.
It’s completely normal for your boyfriend to have close friends. If you ever feel jealous, try calmly talking to him about how you’re feeling. He’ll likely ease your worries and reassure you that he’s committed to you and only you.
- Similarly, don’t demand that your boyfriend stop hanging out with someone or unfollow them on social media because of jealousy. This could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship and might create issues between you and him.
Attend events or performances where your boyfriend is participating.
If your boyfriend is involved in extracurricular activities at school, make sure to support him by attending. Whether it’s a soccer game, a debate competition, a play, or a concert, he’ll definitely appreciate your presence. Buy a ticket, give him a signal, and show him how much you enjoy being there!
- If he participates in many extracurricular activities, you don’t need to attend every event (especially if it interferes with your studies). However, try to make it to major events like school reunions or year-end performances.
Encourage your boyfriend to achieve good grades.
Support his academic efforts. If he needs to study for an exam and can’t hang out with you, let him know that you understand. Both of you are still in school and should focus on getting good grades whenever possible.
- You should also work hard to achieve good grades yourself! Don’t neglect your studies just because you’re dating!
Maintain your own hobbies and interests.
Stay involved in extracurricular activities and continue pursuing your own interests. Try not to give up your personal hobbies just because you have a boyfriend. If he’s a supportive partner, he’ll encourage you to keep doing the things you love, even if they take up some of your time.
- If you have a competition or performance coming up, invite your boyfriend to support you! It’s a fun way for him to see what you’re up to after school.
Give each other some space.
You don’t need to be glued to each other all the time. At school, you’ll probably see each other almost every day. Occasionally, you can take some time apart to relax on your own. Hang out with your boyfriend when you feel like it, but don’t forget to give yourself some personal space.
- Make sure to spend time with your friends too! People who just started dating often forget to keep in touch with their friends.
- You don’t need to text or call constantly. A few messages here and there are great, but give him some time to miss you.
Advice
- All relationships have a bit of awkwardness at the beginning, but as both sides grow closer, things will become more natural.
