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Meeting women in college can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t need to be. College is a great place to socialize and meet diverse individuals. If you find it difficult to make female friends, you can connect with new people in your classes, at campus events, or even in social settings outside of school. Once you know where to find them, you can introduce yourself and begin forming friendships.
Steps
Meeting Women in Person
Strike up a conversation with a girl before or after class to build rapport. If there’s an empty seat beside a girl you’d like to talk to, take it before the lecture begins. You can start by asking her a question related to the class or her major. If she seems open to chatting, introduce yourself, ask her name, and continue talking after the class ends.
- Avoid trying to engage during the lecture, as it could disrupt the class and annoy the professor.
- A question like, “Are you studying business? I’m in the communications department—how do you find it so far?” works as a good icebreaker.
Join a co-ed club or intramural sport to meet girls with similar passions. Check out your college’s offerings in terms of clubs, programs, and intramural sports. Pick activities that genuinely interest you and sign up. Then, when the group gathers, engage with the girls before or after the session.
- Popular college intramural sports include basketball, cycling, and fencing.
- Popular academic clubs include biomedical engineering, mathematics, and robotics.
- There are also clubs for dance, music, and the visual arts.
Introduce yourself to girls during lunch for a more casual meeting. If your college has a dining hall, it’s a great place to meet girls. Look for those sitting alone and ask if you can join them at their table. Be friendly and laid-back when you make your approach. You might find it easy to start a conversation about classes or the food.
- You could say something like, “This pizza is amazing! What do you think of it?”
- Girls may not want to chat if they’re already with friends or deep in conversation.
Use group projects to connect with her. Group projects and lab work require you to collaborate with a variety of classmates, including girls. This is an excellent opportunity to make new friends with women in your course.
- If you’ve worked well with a particular girl, try reaching out to her afterward or invite her to hang out.
- You might say, “You really made this group project enjoyable! Would you like to grab a bite to eat this Saturday?”
- This is a great way to get her number and casually text afterward.
Meet new girls through your friends for an easy introduction. Hanging out with a diverse group of friends can be a great way to meet new girls. Ask your friends if they know any girls who might be interested in meeting you. Then, when everyone is together, your friend can introduce you.
- Girls often have larger social circles than guys, so asking one of your female friends might be your best bet.
Attend open mic nights and other local events to meet new people. Keep an eye on your college’s event calendar or check out local venues near campus for upcoming activities. Head to these events and look for girls to connect with.
- Other events might include concerts, workshops, or trivia nights.
Using Dating Apps to Meet College Women
Choose the dating apps you want to try and install them. Apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble are great places to meet college women. Download the apps on your phone and create your profile. Once your account is set up, you can apply filters to focus on college-aged girls.
- Approximately 70% of couples meet through online dating platforms.
Set up your profile on the apps you’ve downloaded. Open your dating apps and fill out your profile. Complete all the available sections and upload a few clear pictures of yourself. It’s crucial to be authentic and honest in your profile details.
- Your photos should be well-lit and feature your face.
- Make sure to fill in every section so that girls can know more about you.
- Reader Poll: We asked 459 Mytour readers who have met girls online, and 51% of them agreed that the ideal profile picture is a flattering selfie that highlights your best features. [Take Poll]
Browse through profiles and read what girls have shared. Dating apps will match you with women based on the filters you choose and the details you provide. Many apps also have location-based settings, so you can meet women nearby. Take time to read through profiles and find girls you’d like to connect with.
- On Tinder, swipe left for girls you're not interested in, and swipe right for those you’d like to get to know.
- You can also check whether the girl is in college or not.
Message the girls you’re interested in. Start with something fun and personalized. Look at their profile and refer to something specific to show you’ve taken an interest in them. If they respond, ask them about their hobbies and suggest hanging out.
- For example, you could say, “I noticed you’re into rock climbing. Have you ever tried Stone’s Gym on Main Street?”
- To ask a girl out, try saying, “Would you like to grab coffee sometime? I know a cool spot downtown.”
EXPERT ADVICE
John Keegan
Relationship Expert
Relationship Expert
Don't restrict yourself to online interactions. Don’t hesitate to meet people face-to-face instead of sticking exclusively to digital conversations.
Engaging with Women
Be confident, but stay calm— or fake it until you make it. Listening to music might help get you into the right mindset before introducing yourself. If you're anxious or tense, she might pick up on it, and it could make her feel uneasy. If you're not feeling confident, try boosting yourself up beforehand or just act as if you are. Interestingly, many people say that by pretending to be confident, they eventually start to feel confident!
- Avoid saying anything rude or inappropriate, as it could leave a bad impression.
- Girls tend to respond better when they feel at ease.
Make eye contact and smile before approaching her. If you walk up to a girl and start talking without her noticing, it could surprise her. Instead, try to make eye contact and smile before you approach or speak. If she returns the smile and locks eyes with you, chances are she’ll be open to chatting.
- If she looks away or seems uncomfortable, it might be a sign to move on to someone else.
Approach her and introduce yourself. Walk up to the girl and simply say, “Hey, I’m Sharone.” Don’t let anxiety about rejection stop you. The worst-case scenario is that the conversation ends quickly or she’s not interested.
- Don’t set expectations for how the conversation should unfold. Just aim to meet as many girls as possible.
Ask questions to keep the conversation going. Questions can help the conversation flow smoothly and reduce any awkwardness. After introducing yourself, ask her name or what she’s studying. You can inquire about her hobbies or what kind of music she likes. Try to let the conversation develop naturally.
- If she’s reading a book, ask her how it is so far.
- If you’ve read the same book, it could spark a deeper discussion.
- You could also ask her what she thinks about the activity or class you're both attending.
Truly listen to keep the conversation flowing smoothly. Pay attention to what she says rather than just waiting for your turn to speak. This will help you understand her better and keep the conversation going. Don’t hesitate to share about yourself when she asks questions as well.
- People generally enjoy talking about themselves, so be sure to give her the chance to share.
Ask for her contact details to continue the conversation later. If the conversation went smoothly, ask for her phone number so you can stay in touch. You can wait until the end of the conversation or, if it feels right, ask during the peak of your interaction.
- Say something like, “I really enjoyed talking with you. Can I get your number so we can chat or hang out sometime?”
- If you both had a good time and the conversation flowed well, there's a good chance she’ll want to exchange contact info as well.
- If she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing her number, don’t press her. Simply respect her decision and move on to meet others.
Things to Watch Out For
- Don't be rude if a girl isn’t interested in talking. Always be polite and respectful toward girls you don’t know.
- If a girl doesn’t seem open to chatting, don’t force the issue. Just walk away and try meeting someone else.
