Buzz
Texting someone you have feelings for can be exciting, but sending constant messages may come across as a bit clingy. While it might be hard to resist, remind yourself that the other person needs their space (and of course, they may also realize just how much you care about them). Here, we’ve gathered some methods to help you stay strong and avoid texting them at all costs.
Steps
Tell yourself to wait an extra 10 minutes.
Trick your brain into thinking you’ll text later. Sometimes, delaying something you shouldn’t do can actually be helpful. After 10 minutes pass, tell yourself to wait just 5 more minutes. Eventually, you'll lose track of time and end up not texting at all.
- While waiting, try to find something else to occupy yourself. This trick won’t work well if you’re just sitting there staring at the clock.
Put your phone in another room.
Hope that what you don’t see won’t linger in your mind. Leave your phone in another room and shut the door behind you. If you can’t reach your phone, you won’t be able to text them!
- You can also stash your phone in a drawer or switch it to airplane mode.
- This strategy works best if you walk away from your phone and focus on something else.
Text your friends instead of them.
Talk to someone else instead of texting the person you like. Call a friend and chat about your day or your lunch. These conversations can help distract you from the urge to text that special someone.
- If you’re comfortable, let your friend know what you’re struggling with. They may help you stay on track!
Have fun with your friends.
Your friends can help you temporarily forget about that person. If you want, call up a friend and invite them over or go hang out at someone else's place. Tell them you're trying to avoid texting the person you're into and ask them to distract you so you don’t think about it anymore.
- If all your friends are busy, try spending time with your family instead.
Do something relaxing.
Take a bubble bath or listen to some calming music. Take a moment to unwind and forget about that person for a while. While relaxing, leave your phone in another room so you’re not tempted to text them.
- You could also try a skincare mask, read a book, or paint your nails.
Keep your hands busy.
You can't text when your hands are occupied! Head to the kitchen to bake something, go out to the garden to plant a tree, or try finger painting. The busier your hands are, the less likely you’ll be tempted to grab your phone.
- You could also try making slime, creating jewelry, or working on a scrapbook.
Remind yourself that it's late.
Texting late at night can seem a bit odd. Try to limit your texts to normal hours (when you’re both awake). Texting in the late hours often implies that you’re only interested in one thing, so it’s better to message during the day.
- Plus, if they’re asleep, they probably won’t appreciate being woken up by your message.
Ask yourself why you want to text them.
If you don’t really have anything important to say, don’t text. While you might enjoy sending a simple “hi” to that person, these kinds of messages rarely lead to interesting conversations. Wait until you have something worth sharing or when you actually want to invite them out.
- Try to imagine what they might reply. If it's not very exciting, it might be better to wait until you see each other in person.
Advice
- Try talking in person instead of texting. If you can naturally say hello when you bump into them in the hallway, you can keep the conversation going face-to-face.
