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It’s tough when your crush is drawn to you, yet also has feelings for someone else. So what’s the best course of action when you find yourself in a love triangle? We’ll help you navigate these challenging emotions and offer advice on how to possibly sway your crush’s heart in your direction.
Steps
Be kind to both your crush and the person they're interested in.
Though it’s natural to feel jealous, remember that kindness is highly appealing. It’s undeniably hard when your crush has affection for someone else, but maintain a friendly attitude toward the person they like, and avoid speaking ill of them or gossiping. Don’t harbor resentment toward your crush either; they can't control their emotions. With time, they’ll come to recognize what an incredible person you are.
- Try including the person your crush likes in activities, like inviting them to join you for lunch.
- Offer a compliment to the other person your crush is into, showing you’re open to friendship. For example, “Jamie, that shirt is awesome! Where did you get it?”
- Keep your posts and messages on social media positive. Leave an encouraging comment on your crush’s feed, and spread the good vibes by leaving a kind comment for the person your crush is fond of too.
Capture your crush’s attention with some playful flirting.
Humor and lighthearted dares can help you connect on a deeper level. Smile whenever your crush is nearby. Share funny memes, joke around with them, and bond over your favorite activities. The more your crush realizes how much you have in common, the more likely they are to be drawn to you. A strong friendship often leads to a lasting relationship.
- Ask if they’d be up for doing a TikTok or Instagram challenge with you and your friends.
- Propose playing an online game like Wordle or Among Us together.
- Feeling brave? Send them a cheesy pickup line to catch their attention!
- Challenge them to a fun game of “Truth or Dare” or “Would You Rather” over text.
Discover more about your crush.
The closer you grow, the better your chances of winning their heart. Get to know your crush by asking them directly, checking out their social media, or chatting with their friends. When you learn their favorite things, you'll always have something to talk about.
- What’s their favorite food? Surprise them with a tasty snack once you find out.
- What music do they love? Share a song and say, “This one made me think of you.”
- How do they like to spend their weekends? Knowing this helps you plan an activity to invite them to.
- What’s going on in their life? If they’re facing a tough project or presentation, send a supportive text.
- Reader Poll: We asked 207 Mytour readers, and 59% agreed the best way to start a conversation with your crush on Snapchat is to reply to their Story to spark a chat. [Take Poll]
Spend more time with your crush.
Spending more time together can help you move out of the friend zone. Start with low-pressure situations by inviting your crush to group activities. You can ask them to join a movie night with friends, plan a picnic at the park with your classmates, or add them to a fun group chat.
- Once you're in a group, try sitting next to your crush or standing closer so you can talk one-on-one more easily.
- If you're feeling bold, invite your crush to hang out just the two of you. You could say something like, “Hey, would you like to study for the geometry test together?”
Mytour Quiz: Does My Crush Like Me?
Having a crush can be amazing… until it’s not! Those thrilling butterflies can easily turn into nervous uncertainty. Suddenly, you find yourself overthinking every move they make, wondering if they like you too. Fortunately, we’ve got the perfect quiz to help you out! Answer these questions and uncover the subtle signs that your crush might be into you. Stop worrying and start enjoying the excitement. Take this quiz and get the answers you need!
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Does your crush follow you on social media?
Engage in activities that make you happy.
Keep yourself busy so you're not overly focused on your crush. It's easy to get lost in thoughts about your crush and worry whether they like you back. Instead, make a list of activities you enjoy—whether it's playing video games, going for a run, or baking delicious treats. Each day, try to tick off one thing on your list.
- Bonus: By leading your own exciting life, you'll naturally show your crush how unique and interesting you are.
Focus on your amazing qualities.
It’s easy to compare yourself to the other person your crush likes. But always remember, you are special just as you are. You possess a unique blend of talents, personality traits, and qualities that make you stand out.
- Make a list of 5 things you love about yourself. For each, explain why it matters. For example, “I like my strength because it makes me a great soccer player.”
- Use positive affirmations like, “I know I’m a good person, and my friends appreciate me.”
- Stay authentic to who you are. If your crush likes you, they’ll like the real you.
Share your feelings with your friends.
Talking about your feelings can help you process your emotions. Your friends may offer guidance on how to handle things, especially if they know your crush well. They might even have insight into how your crush feels about you and whether they're planning to ask you out.
- Make sure to confide in people you trust so that no one spills the beans to your crush before you're ready.
- If you’re not comfortable discussing it with friends, try journaling to express your feelings. A prompt like “I feel sad/happy/excited when…” might help you get started.
Share your feelings with your crush.
It’s perfectly okay to take the first step. When you open up to your crush about your feelings, they might discover they feel the same way—even if it seems like they’re into someone else. Just remember to respect their response. If they like you back, that’s great! If not, that’s alright too. People can’t control their emotions, and your crush’s feelings don’t reflect anything negative about you.
- “I think I have a crush on you. No pressure, but do you feel the same?”
- “How would you feel if I told you I like you more than just a friend?”
- If they say they don’t feel the same, you can respond with, “No worries, I’m just happy we’re friends.”
- “I’m really into you. Would you like to go out sometime?”
Limit your interactions with your crush if they don’t feel the same.
Give yourself the time and space to heal. If your crush ends up dating someone else, it might help to step back and reduce the time spent together. Consider muting or unfollowing them on social media, and skip group activities where your crush will be present. Instead, focus on organizing your own plans with friends.
- Although it’s difficult, accepting the situation and moving on is the healthiest choice.
Keep in mind that you'll meet someone else.
There’s someone else out there who will appreciate you for who you truly are! While crushes can feel all-consuming, they eventually fade. Even though your crush may have been an amazing person, there are plenty of other fantastic people waiting to be discovered.
- If you’re feeling down about your crush, talk to a friend or a family member for support.
- To meet new people, why not try joining a new club or start a hobby you’ve always wanted to explore?
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so, I think I might have messed up my chances with my crush. I'm always so awkward, and I don’t really seem like the type of girl he likes, even though I know I am. He thinks my best friend is “too much,” when she’s not even ready for all that intimate stuff yet, but I already am. With past relationships, I’ve been a pretty good girlfriend, maybe like 8/10. One day, my crush told me he liked my best friend, and she admitted she liked him too, knowing full well that I liked him. Lately, I’ve noticed them talking less and acting awkward after he confessed his feelings to her. Should I just leave it be, or try again?
It’s important to have an open conversation with your best friend about what’s been happening before approaching your crush again. Be honest about your emotions and gently remind your friend that you also have feelings for him. If your friend and crush have been talking less lately, it might mean they’ve moved on, giving you a chance to try again.
Next, take the direct approach with your crush and express your interest. You could say something like, “I’ve developed feelings for you and I’m curious if you feel the same.” If he responds positively and says he likes you too, keep the conversation going and focus on developing your relationship.
If your crush isn’t interested or still has feelings for your friend, it might be best to move on rather than trying to change his mind. Respect his decision and remember, there are plenty of other great guys out there who could be a better match for you.
Next, take the direct approach with your crush and express your interest. You could say something like, “I’ve developed feelings for you and I’m curious if you feel the same.” If he responds positively and says he likes you too, keep the conversation going and focus on developing your relationship.
If your crush isn’t interested or still has feelings for your friend, it might be best to move on rather than trying to change his mind. Respect his decision and remember, there are plenty of other great guys out there who could be a better match for you.
LeTisha Underwood
Certified Professional Matchmaker
Certified Professional Matchmaker
Ultimately, it depends on the strength of the bond you share with your friend. You can either have a heart-to-heart conversation with them or let your crush make the decision. Just make sure not to let this affect your friendship. Also, remember that just because you have feelings for someone, it doesn’t automatically mean they’ll feel the same about you.
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