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Have you ever caught sight of a beautiful model and thought, 'I wish I could date someone like them'? This dream can become a reality, as long as you make the right connections. Start by finding the best spots around you where models frequent. Take the initiative to engage with different models, and if you click, invite them out for a date. If it all goes well, you might just end up with a dazzling and well-known partner!
Steps
Meeting Models
Leverage connections to get access to exclusive events. If you happen to know someone in the entertainment industry, ask them to help you gain entry to exclusive venues like VIP nightclubs or elite parties. The more exclusive the event, the more likely you'll meet influential people, including models. It's a good idea to research events you're interested in before asking your connections for assistance.
- For example, you could ask, 'Hey, I heard there's going to be a major party at that VIP venue downtown. Is there any chance I can get in?'
Dine at a renowned restaurant to scout the crowd. The more prestigious a restaurant is, the higher the likelihood of rubbing shoulders with celebrities of all kinds. If you can afford it, treat yourself to a meal at an upscale restaurant in your area. You may just spot a stunning model during your visit. Be sure to make a reservation in advance!
Attend Fashion Week in one of the fashion capitals. Paris, Milan, and New York are globally recognized as fashion hotspots. These cities are teeming with models from all corners of the world, especially during Fashion Week. Before heading to one of these cities, check the dates for their Fashion Weeks and event schedules. Try to attend a few events, but make sure to secure tickets ahead of time.
Visit a luxury hotel and mingle with its guests. You don't need to be a guest to meet models at a five-star hotel. Attend events held at these venues and interact with people in the lobby or event space. With a bit of luck, you might just encounter a famous face. Research some of the top-rated hotels in your area or next destination and spend some time there!
Explore Instagram to easily connect with a variety of models. If you're struggling to meet models in person, Instagram is a great alternative. Many models have started their careers on this platform. Follow a model for a while and leave a few compliments on their photos. After a few months, send them a direct message to introduce yourself.
- You might say, “Hey, @jrsmith, I've been following you for a while and noticed you share some amazing food photos. Do you cook?” Try complimenting something beyond their appearance.
- Fun fact: many models get discovered via social media!
Approaching and Flirting with Models
Start with a simple “hello.” A warm greeting like a genuine “hello” paired with a smile is always a great way to make a first impression. The model you’re speaking to will appreciate the simplicity, especially when compared to the usual flattery and charm they’re bombarded with on a regular basis.
If you’re chatting with the model online, reintroduce yourself. Since the model likely has numerous followers, they may not remember every conversation. When you reach out again, reintroduce yourself and ask how they’ve been before diving into the conversation.
- For example, you might say, “Hey, @jrsmith, it’s @razzmatazz. I messaged you a couple of weeks ago about your food posts. How’s everything? I wanted to ask…”
Compliment something other than their looks. Models are fully aware of their attractiveness, which is part of their job. Rather than focusing on their appearance, try complimenting something else, like their insight on a subject or sense of humor.
- Better compliments might include, “I can tell you’re really passionate about marketing. I find your perspective fascinating,” or “You seem like such a bright and interesting person!”
Inquire about their personal interests. This is one of the best ways to connect on a deeper level. Ask the model about their hobbies, what excites them outside of work, and whether they pursued any education. If you find shared interests, use that to build a conversation and form a connection.
- Try asking, “What do you enjoy doing in your free time?” or “Do you like reading?”
Discuss their career. Talking about their work is completely fine as long as you approach it with respect. Ask them what inspired them to become a model, what they love about their profession, and if they have any future career aspirations.
- A couple of thoughtful questions could be, “Do you travel a lot for work? What’s the most exciting place you’ve visited?” or “How did you get started in modeling?”
Ask for their phone number before wrapping up the conversation. If you feel a spark between you and the model, it’s perfectly fine to ask for their phone number so you can continue the conversation later.
- You could say, “I really enjoy talking with you. Would you mind sharing your phone number so we can chat again sometime?”
- If they decline, be gracious and don’t take offense. Simply thank them for the conversation, say goodbye, and leave with a positive attitude.
Planning Memorable Dates
Ask the model out on a casual date. You don’t need to make a big deal of it. Simply ask the model if they’d be open to going out with you when they have some free time. If they’re interested, try to arrange the details for the date.
- For example, you might say, “I’ve really enjoyed chatting with you over the past few weeks, J.R. How would you feel about grabbing lunch or dinner sometime?”
Choose a venue that fits your budget. Don’t break the bank trying to impress your date. While it’s great to have a good time, it’s also important to be mindful of your finances. Instead, find a date idea that aligns with your budget. A cozy dinner at your favorite casual spot can be just as enjoyable (if not more so) than an expensive meal at a fancy restaurant.
Tailor the date to your date’s personal interests. Think back to anything the model may have mentioned when you first talked. Use these details to plan a date that’s not only enjoyable, but also shows you’re genuinely interested in them beyond just their appearance.
- If the model loves nature or gardening, take them to a botanical garden.
- If they’re a foodie, suggest visiting your favorite local restaurant or taking a cooking class together!
Dress in something comfortable yet fitting for the occasion. Just because your date is a model doesn't mean you need to go all out with an extravagant outfit. Overdressing might make things feel uncomfortable. Instead, choose an outfit that's nice, relaxed, and suitable for wherever you're meeting.
- A classic choice could be a neat shirt, a light jacket, denim jeans, and comfortable shoes.
- If you prefer a more feminine look, a cute blouse paired with jeans or a simple dress with flats, sandals, or your go-to heels works well.
Be punctual for the date. Showing up late for your first date can leave a bad impression and waste your date’s time. Aim to arrive exactly when you said you would—or even better, 5 minutes early.
- If something happens and you’re running late, make sure to apologize immediately.
Keep the conversation light during the date. Avoid diving into heavy talks about your future together on the first date. Discussing things like marriage or long-term plans can make the situation feel too intense and may scare the model away. Focus on enjoying each other’s company and keeping things easygoing.
Make the conversation about getting to know your date as a person. The purpose of a first date is to learn more about each other. Build on the conversation you started earlier by asking the model about their interests and passions. If you share common interests, delve into those to foster a deeper connection.
- For example, if your date loves reading, ask, “I remember you mentioned you like books. What’s the best book you’ve read recently? What are you currently reading?”
- If they enjoy cooking, ask about their favorite recipe blog or restaurant. You might say, “Didn’t you mention you like cooking? What’s your go-to dish to prepare?”
Follow up a couple of days after the date. If everything went well, reach out to the model a few days after the date to show you had a great time. Let them know you enjoyed the experience and, if they're open to it, suggest meeting up again.
- For instance, you could say, “I really enjoyed our time together the other day. I’d love to meet up again next time you’re free.”
Building a Strong Relationship
Support their career ambitions. A successful relationship requires mutual support, especially when it comes to your partner’s personal goals. Your partner was a model before you met, and if they continue in that career, they may sometimes have to prioritize their work over spending time with you. Ask them about their projects, listen to their excitement about upcoming opportunities, or let them vent about the challenges they face.
- However, it’s important not to become upset if they decide to shift careers later on. Most models don’t model forever, and getting angry about their career change could send the wrong message—that you're more interested in their fame than them as a person—ultimately damaging the relationship.
Discuss how to handle publicity. If your partner has gained significant fame, your relationship will inevitably attract attention. As things get more serious, sit down with your partner to discuss how public your relationship should be. It’s perfectly fine if you’re comfortable with the spotlight, but it’s also valid if you prefer privacy.
- Consider whether you’re okay being photographed together in public or appearing on your partner’s social media and in interviews. Having this conversation early helps ensure both of you are on the same page.
Make plans for staying connected during long-distance stretches. Modeling often involves travel, meaning there will be times when you and your partner are far apart. It’s important to talk about how you’ll manage the relationship during these periods and how you’ll stay in touch.
- Communication apps like LINE and Telegram work well for long-distance contact as they don’t require specific network coverage.
- Video calls through FaceTime or Skype can also help maintain a more personal connection.
Spend quality time together doing things you both enjoy. Carving out time to enjoy each other’s company is essential for maintaining a strong bond, especially when you’re sharing activities that bring both of you joy. Cook meals together, binge your favorite TV shows or movies, take a dance class, or just enjoy each other’s company. These moments will help nurture and solidify your relationship.
Treat your partner like an ordinary person. Despite their fame, your partner is still an individual with their own thoughts, feelings, and quirks. It’s important to treat them as such, without letting their popularity affect how you view or interact with them. Appreciate the things that make them unique, whether it's their passion for a hobby or their charming little habits that make them who they are.
Important Warnings
- Don’t resort to dishonesty in an attempt to impress a model. If you lie, it’s likely they’ll eventually figure it out, and it could damage your chances of continuing the relationship.
