Buzz
When you meet a guy who makes your heart skip a beat, you may want to tell him that you like him. However, for some guys, this might be a bit overwhelming and could make him hesitant or even pull away. Fortunately, there are ways to show your feelings without making him run. Keep reading to find out what you can do!
Steps
Flirt a little.
Drop subtle hints to let him know you like him without saying it outright. Laugh at his jokes, offer a few compliments, or even tell him you think he's really cute. If he’s paying attention, he’ll start to pick up on your feelings.
- You could also ‘flirt’ through eye contact, leaning towards him when he speaks, or playing with your hair when you're near him.
- This approach is quite subtle, so he might not get the message (especially if he’s not very perceptive). You can try flirting a bit, but you may eventually need to be more direct.
Touch his shoulder or arm.
Break the touch barrier to let him know you're interested. There’s an unwritten rule everyone understands: when someone touches your arm or hand, it means they like you. Lean in to tap his arm when you’re laughing together, or gently touch his hand when he’s sharing something personal with you. This is a subtle way of showing your feelings.
- Touching his arm or hand may not guarantee he realizes your feelings, but it’s certainly a step in the right direction.
Give him a compliment.
Slip in a compliment or two during your conversations. Over time, he’ll start to catch on and understand that you like him. You could compliment his laugh or smile, or even his appearance that day – just keep it to one or two comments to avoid overwhelming him. Try saying things like:
- “Your hair looks great! Did you do something new today?”
- “You smell amazing!”
- “Your laugh is so contagious!”
Plan fun activities for both of you.
Show your interest by planning fun activities. Organize an outdoor camping trip, take a scenic drive, or buy tickets for a new exhibition at a museum. The more time you spend together, the more he'll understand your feelings.
- If he responds positively and invites you to join in on other activities, it could mean he likes you too.
- Planning fun outings for both of you is a great idea, but don't overdo it. If you're always around, he might feel overwhelmed or smothered.
Confess your feelings in a private setting.
He may feel more comfortable when it's just the two of you. You don't have to take him for a walk along the beach, but try to avoid confessing your feelings in a public space. If you want to tell him you like him, wait until it's just the two of you in a private location.
- If you want to keep things casual, don’t do it during a romantic candlelit dinner. Instead, try telling him while you’re eating takeout or watching a movie at his place. The more natural the situation, the smoother the conversation will be.
Confess in a playful, half-joking way.
You can use this approach if you want things to feel more natural. Try saying something like, 'Don't get too obsessed with me!' when you’re hanging out. Slip in a playful flirt if he asks you to sit closer or gives you a hug.
- If he invites you to dinner, try saying, 'Careful, people might start thinking we're on a date!'
- Or, if you’re hanging out alone, you could say, 'If we keep meeting like this, I think I’m going to fall for you.'
- To keep things lighthearted, just say it once or twice when you’re together. If you overdo it, he might get scared off.
Let him know how you feel when you're together.
Try this if you want to take things further without overwhelming him. When you’re spending time together, let him know that you feel happy or confident when he’s around. This is a subtle yet sweet way to show him you like him without directly saying it. You can try saying things like:
- “I feel really at ease when I’m with you.”
- “When you're by my side, I feel like I can do anything.”
Be natural and just tell him how you feel.
If subtle hints aren’t working, this might be the best approach for you. Be calm and confident so that you don’t come off as too eager. Some guys might get scared off if they feel like you’re idolizing them too much. However, if you approach him confidently and express your feelings, he’ll be more likely to want to continue the relationship.
- Try saying something like “I think you’re really great. Let’s keep hanging out.”
- Or “I’d like to continue getting to know you, if you're open to it.”
- If you know he’s a bit shy, avoid saying anything too intense like “I have feelings for you” or “I think I’m falling for you.”
Accept his response.
Don’t be upset if he turns you down. If you confess your feelings to him but he doesn’t feel the same way, don’t worry! It simply means you two aren’t meant to be. If he doesn’t like you, save your heart for someone else.
- If he’s not ready for commitment, he might say he likes you but doesn’t want a serious relationship yet. You can decide whether to wait for him or move on.
- It’s also possible that he’ll admit he likes you too. That’s great! Ask him out and continue dating to see where things go.
Advice
- The best way to confess your feelings is to do it directly. Otherwise, you’ll be relying on hints and gestures that he may or may not pick up on.
