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Have you ever shared with someone about the person you secretly like but worried they might reveal it to your crush? Even though the thought of your crush knowing how you feel could be nerve-wracking, it’s also an opportunity to see if they might reciprocate your feelings. Once your crush knows you like them, you'll notice changes in how they treat you. Here’s a compilation of signs to look for when your crush might be fond of you, captivated by you, or showing indifference.
Steps
They engage with you through eye contact more than usual
Gazing into your eyes for a while could be a sign that your crush is trying to connect with you. If you happen to meet eyes in the hallway or are in the same room, try glancing at your crush secretly. If they realize you’re looking at them, they’ll likely respond and maintain the eye contact for a few seconds. They may also gaze at your head or chest more if they like you.
- If your crush tends to look at your legs or feet more than your face, they might see you as a regular friend instead of a potential partner, or they may not yet understand their own feelings.
- Try giving a small smile when looking at your crush. Avoid showing your teeth and slightly squint your eyes. If they smile back or do something like play with their hair, it could be a sign that they want to get to know you better.
They seem to feel nervous when they unexpectedly encounter you.
The person you secretly like may feel uneasy when they have to express their feelings. If they know you like them, they might become even more anxious than if they were unaware of it. Pay attention to signs that show the person you secretly like is somewhat uneasy when you two are near each other. For example: They might talk more than usual to break the silence, or they may become quiet and fidgety when conversing with you.
- The person you secretly like might feel anxious if they also have feelings for you or if they’re unsure about their emotions towards you.
- Remember, the person you secretly like can also be vulnerable and more anxious while talking to you, so don’t let them realize they look worried.
They communicate with you more frequently.
If the person you secretly like wants to chat, it could mean they are interested in you or want to get to know you better. After they find out that you like them, they might eagerly want to bridge the gap between the two of you, especially if they like you back or want to learn more about you. Watch for signs that they initiate conversations and how often they start chatting. They may come up with excuses to talk to you, such as asking for advice or help, even when they don’t need it.
- If the person you secretly like chats with you often, it means they want to understand you better, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they want to jump into a relationship immediately. They might still be figuring out their feelings.
- Notice when they start conversations with you. If it happens frequently throughout the day, it’s likely they are genuinely interested in you. However, if they often reach out late at night, they might just be flirting.
Their friends act unusually when you're around.
There's a chance that the person you're interested in has talked to their friends about you. Once your secret crush is aware of your feelings, they may turn to their friends for advice. When you're around your crush or chatting with them, keep an eye out for their friends lingering nearby. If you notice them discussing you two, it’s likely that your crush is aware of your feelings. They may want to get to know you better, especially if you haven’t had much conversation before, or perhaps they might already have feelings for you.
- Their friends may also try to set you up or find ways to get you two talking, especially if your crush feels nervous.
They remember the smallest details of your conversations
When your secret crush pays attention to what you say, it shows they genuinely care about you. Your crush wants to learn more about you to decide whether or not they should return your feelings, so they will do everything they can to remember the things you've shared with them. Pay attention to the topics they bring up during your chats. If they mention something you’ve said before, even a tiny detail, it could be a sign that they're trying to connect more deeply with you.
- For example, they might bring up specific friends or family members you’ve mentioned, rather than just making casual conversation.
They compliment you frequently
If your secret crush likes you too, they'll want to boost your confidence. Once they realize that you have feelings for them, they may feel comfortable expressing positive things about you. While conversing with your crush, listen carefully to see if they say anything that makes you feel warm and appreciated inside. If they keep complimenting you, it’s likely that they have feelings for you and care about you as well.
- Try complimenting them in return to make them feel good too. For instance, you could comment on the outfit they’re wearing or something you admire about them.
They suddenly get jealous of the people around you
Someone who likes you won't be happy when you're around other people. If your secret crush knows that you like them and they feel the same way about you, you may start noticing their discomfort when you talk about people you're fond of. If you're close with your crush, they might distance themselves from the people you're interested in and talk negatively about them because they want a closer relationship with you.
- If you know that your crush likes you too, don't purposely make them jealous, as it would be unfair to toy with their emotions.
They begin to ask about your personal life
People who care about you are often more curious about your relationship status than others. Even though your crush might avoid discussing romance, they are likely interested in your past relationships. If you’re talking to them and they ask if you’ve ever dated anyone, it’s highly probable they’re trying to learn more about you.
They don't seem to care about you if you get distracted during a conversation or become unexpectedly busy
If the person you secretly like suddenly becomes distracted while talking to you, it's possible that they don't have feelings for you. Try approaching your crush and having a casual conversation. While chatting, pay attention to whether they focus completely on what you're saying. If they look away, focus on their phone, or don't respond when you ask them something, it's likely that they want to leave and aren't as interested in you as you hoped.
- If the conversations are short or just small talk, the person you're fond of may not want to talk to you.
- When you text them, they may reply half-heartedly or completely ignore you if they’re not interested in you.
They likely don't care about you if they keep finding excuses to avoid you.
Your crush may try to avoid you to prevent feeling awkward. If you two were close and spent time together in the past, they might find it strange when they realize you have feelings for them. Try inviting them out; if they agree, either they like you, or they may not even know you secretly like them. But if your crush constantly makes excuses to avoid seeing you, it's probably because they don't feel the same way.
- If you and your crush have been friends before, consider inviting them to hang out in a larger group instead of just the two of you, to ease the pressure of a 'date'.
Advice
- If your friends know who your crush is, ask them if they’ve told anyone else. That way, you can find out why your crush knows that you're interested in them.
Warning
- Avoid mistakenly believing that someone you think knows who your secret crush is or assuming that the person you like secretly likes you back. If you're eager to understand their feelings, gather your courage and express your emotions to them directly.
