How to Flirt with Girls on Facebook

Post impressive photos. Don't try to flirt with her on Facebook if your profile picture is from your school days. Before you start flirting, make sure to regularly update your photos and look your best, or at least presentable. Avoid posting pictures with multiple girls unless you want to come off as a player, and steer clear of drunk or silly photos unless you think they'll attract her.

• Review your photos and ask yourself, "Would the girl I'm interested in like these pictures?" If the answer is no, it's time to delete them.
• Keep a few "safe" photos showing you hanging out with some girls to demonstrate that women enjoy your company; just avoid posting anything too suggestive with other girls—or multiple women.

Show her your social life. If you're flirting with and getting to know a girl on Facebook, she needs to see that you're a genuine guy. Maintain a reasonable number of Facebook friends, post interesting content on your profile, show that you attend events, comment on others' photos, and have people engaging on your wall. Let her see that you're a fun guy who people genuinely enjoy talking to.

• If you only have ten friends on Facebook and your profile hasn't been updated in a year, she might become suspicious.
• Avoid overposting. Post just enough to stay active. You don't want her to think your life revolves around Facebook.
• Don't let her see you flirting with multiple people on Facebook, even if you are. Be discreet, hide flirtatious messages, limit chats, or keep conversations private.

Let your profile reveal what makes you unique. You shouldn't pour out your entire life story on Facebook, but she should be able to access some personal information and learn a few interesting things about you. If you love a certain band, share a link to one of their songs on your wall; if you enjoy surfing, post pictures of you and your friends catching waves. Show her that you have exciting hobbies beyond Facebook.

Find the right person. Scroll through Facebook and look for a cute, cheerful, single girl who lives nearby. Ideally, she should be a friend of a friend, someone from your school, or part of your extended social circle. Avoid flirting with complete strangers. Make sure she's single, and if you can see her photos, be cautious of pictures where a guy seems possessive, like having his arm around her.

Send her a friend request. If you're not already friends, ask her to accept your request. Keep in mind that strangers often don't accept friend requests, and she might even feel creeped out and block you. If you've met her in person, you can send a request, but if you've only found her on someone else's profile and she lives far away, it might be harder to convince her to accept.

• If you've met her but aren't sure if she remembers you, send a quick message along with the request. Don't be overwhelming. Just say something like, "It was great talking to you at Minh's party last week."
• If you see a cute girl posting on a friend's profile, join the conversation. See if you can leave a comment she likes and try to get her to talk to you.
• Remember, Facebook has strict rules against harassment. If she doesn't accept your friend request, don't bother her. Avoid sending aggressive messages, or she might report you and disable your account.

Explore her personal profile. After becoming Facebook friends, you can access her profile to learn more about her, depending on her activity level. The more you know about her before starting to flirt, the easier it will be to engage her in conversation and capture her attention. Keep these tips in mind:

• Look for mutual friends. Check her friend list or browse her photos to see who she associates with. If you spot someone familiar, you can casually mention it later.
• Discover her interests. Browse her photos, profile, and Facebook groups to see if she enjoys beach trips, tennis, or lively parties.
• Follow her links. Has she shared a song from Justin Timberlake's new album? Did she quote an article about Obama? Take note of her interests through these clues.
• Review her posts. Visit her timeline to understand her views on work, studies, favorite sports teams, or even her weekend plans.

Start a conversation with her. Be polite and take it slow. Avoid sending a message calling her hot right after she accepts your friend request. Instead, take time to build a friendship on Facebook. First, like her status or photo if appropriate. Then, you can begin commenting on her posts. Ensure she responds and likes your comments, and that you're not talking to yourself.

• Choose the right moment to start a longer conversation through comments. If she continues to respond, she likely enjoys talking to you.
• As your relationship grows, you can post links related to her interests on her page. Do this once and wait for her response before doing it again.
• Don't mention that you know her interests from stalking her profile. Only discuss common interests you've discovered and wait for her to reply. For example, if you know she likes One Direction, you can post about the band and wait for her to like your status.

Send her a message. Once you're sure she's noticed you and you've developed a relationship through posts and comments, you can take the next step by messaging her. Send a few lines related to something that reminds you of her, or guide her to a link you think she'll like. You can flirt a little, but avoid overwhelming her.

• Wait for her response. If she asks you questions, it means she wants to keep the conversation going.
• Message her again. After doing this a few times, you can consider it a sign she's ready to move to the next stage.

Chat with her on Facebook. After messaging her, you can start chatting on Facebook and have a normal conversation. Just remember that not everyone enjoys chatting on Facebook or even using it—she might log in on her phone or at work, and may not realize you're messaging her for a long time if she doesn't use it often. However, if she's messaging you, it's a great time to build your relationship.

• Flirt. This is the time to speed things up. If she's interested, you can say, "Hey, beautiful," or "Your latest photo looks amazing." Don't be too eager, but let her know you like her.
• Discuss shared interests or things you know she'll enjoy. Remember what you discovered while browsing her profile? Now's the time to use that information.

Ask for her phone number (optional). You can message her and say you enjoy talking to her and would like to chat over the phone. This might make her uncomfortable and feel like you're rushing, or it could be an effective way to get to know you better before she agrees to meet in person. Gauge her reaction to see what works best.

Suggest meeting in person. Unless you're just flirting on Facebook for fun, you might want to meet her in real life. So, after establishing a friendly and engaging conversation, you can say, "I really enjoy talking to you on Facebook, and I'd love to chat more in person. Would you like to meet?"

• Keep it casual. Avoid inviting her to a romantic candlelit dinner. Instead, suggest grabbing coffee or meeting at a bar. If she doesn't know you well or you don't have mutual friends, she might be cautious, so choose a public and relaxed setting.
• You can give her your phone number and wait for her to share hers.
• Enjoy the process. If she agrees to meet, you can focus on building your relationship offline. If she declines, it's not a big deal. One advantage of Facebook is that you can flirt with multiple people at once.

• Stay calm, relaxed, and confident.
• You have the right to choose who you want to meet.

• Do not stalk girls on Facebook. Meeting and stalking are completely different actions.