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Having a boyfriend who goes to the same school can be exciting, but figuring out how to flirt during school hours can be challenging. It's important to avoid inappropriate behavior or excessive physical affection, but you also don't want to appear disinterested. Flirting at school requires a mix of subtlety and clear signals, along with some effort. To flirt with your boyfriend in school, start conversations, show affection, and do thoughtful things for each other.
Steps
Flirting Through Conversation
Give him compliments. Complimenting your boyfriend is a straightforward and effective way to flirt. While teasing can be fun, don’t forget to praise him too. He’ll appreciate knowing what you admire about him, and it will boost his self-esteem. Tell him he looks great, compliment his hairstyle, or congratulate him on acing a test.
- Make your compliments personal. Consider his interests and strengths. If he’s into sports, praise his performance in gym class. If he enjoys writing, let him know how much you liked his English essay.
- Compliment him, but avoid overdoing it. Too many compliments can come across as insincere.
Hand him a note in the hallway. While most people rely on phones these days, passing a note can feel nostalgic and charming. Its rarity makes it a unique and thoughtful way to flirt. It’s more personal and requires more effort than a quick text or social media message. Grab a piece of paper from your notebook, jot down a message, fold it neatly, and give it to him at the right moment.
- Avoid passing notes during class to prevent getting into trouble. Choose a time like in the hallway or during lunch.
- Keep the note short and sweet for a flirtier vibe. Write something like “I’ve been thinking about you” or “You look amazing today.”
Ask him questions. Most people enjoy talking about themselves and appreciate when someone shows genuine interest. Even if you know a lot about your boyfriend, there’s always more to discover. Engage him by asking follow-up questions about his stories, or inquire about his past, daily life, and hobbies.
- If he mentions a game he played, ask him to explain the rules or share more details.
- Ask about his after-school activities, future goals, or favorite childhood memories.
Showcase your sense of humor. A good sense of humor is always appealing. It shows you’re lighthearted, fun, and able to laugh at life’s quirks. Don’t hesitate to crack jokes or laugh when something amuses you. Find humor in everyday situations you share with your boyfriend.
- Make light of common occurrences, like the weather, school events, or funny classroom moments.
- Consider what makes both of you laugh and incorporate those elements into your humor.
Send him a flirty text. While passing notes is fun, texting can be more convenient. Don’t wait for him to message you first—take the initiative. Skip the generic “hi” and send something playful or sweet, like “I noticed you dozing off in class today.”
- Use emojis, especially playful ones like winks.
- Text him that you enjoyed seeing him in class or that you’re excited to meet up later.
- Wait a few minutes before replying to his messages to keep the conversation balanced.
- Make sure to text only during appropriate times, not during class.
Ask him out. Take your flirting beyond school by planning to spend time together outside of class. It’s perfectly fine to ask him to hang out or go on a date. You can suggest something specific or keep it open-ended. Many boyfriends appreciate when their partner takes the lead in making plans.
- Keep it casual by asking, “What are your plans after school or this weekend?”
- Be direct by saying, “I’ve been wanting to watch this movie. Want to join me?”
- If you’re not old enough to date independently, make sure to get your parents’ permission first.
Displaying Physical Affection
Sit beside him. Start slow by sitting next to him whenever you get the chance. Whether it’s in class, at lunch, during breaks, or at a sports event, take the opportunity to get closer. You can rest your head on his shoulder or gently hold his arm. If he seems shy, you can either ask to sit next to him or simply do it without asking.
- Avoid sitting too close during class if it’s considered inappropriate.
Hold his hand. Holding hands is a tender and straightforward way to show affection. You can lightly brush your hand against his to signal your interest or simply take his hand. Do this while sitting next to him or walking down the hallway. The duration can range from a few seconds to a few minutes, depending on the situation.
- Keep hand-holding brief during school hours to stay appropriate.
Hug him. Hugs are universally appreciated, especially by your boyfriend. They’re a quick and subtle way to show affection without going overboard. Give him a brief hug between classes or a longer one when saying goodbye at the end of the day. You can opt for a one-armed side hug or a full embrace, but keep it short during school to avoid drawing unwanted attention.
- Spritz some perfume on the back of your neck so he’ll catch a pleasant scent when hugging you.
Give him a quick kiss. Kissing during school can lead to trouble if it’s too obvious or excessive. Save kisses for the beginning or end of the day, or between classes when no one is watching. A quick peck on the cheek or lips is enough to show your affection.
- Avoid prolonged or intense kissing, as it’s inappropriate for school settings and can make others uncomfortable.
- Don’t feel pressured to kiss if you’re not ready. Only do it when it feels right for both you and your boyfriend.
Make eye contact. Eye contact is a powerful way to connect in a relationship. It shows confidence and interest. Your boyfriend might initially shy away, but don’t hesitate to hold his gaze. You can make eye contact from across the room or during a conversation.
- Lean in slightly during conversations and look into his eyes to show you’re engaged. Avoid making it awkward by staring too intensely—keep it natural and relaxed.
- If you’re passing him in the hallway and don’t have time to stop, a quick glance can still convey your interest.
Doing Things for Each Other
Create something for him. Whether it’s for a holiday, special occasion, anniversary, or just because, making something for your boyfriend shows thoughtfulness. It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate—small, meaningful gestures can go a long way. Consider making something sentimental or tailored to his interests. Present it to him during the day, and if he gives you something in return, accept it graciously and thank him sincerely.
- If you’ve been together for a while, consider making a scrapbook of your relationship.
- Try painting a picture related to his favorite sports team or movie.
Support each other’s activities. Attend his games, events, or club activities, and encourage him to do the same for you. Showing up demonstrates your support and interest in his passions. Whether he’s playing a sport, debating, or participating in academic competitions, your presence will mean a lot to him.
- If he invites you to one of your events, say yes. If he can’t make it to yours, don’t take it personally—let him know it’s okay and there will be other opportunities.
- Even if he’s not on a team, cheer him on during gym class or other casual activities.
- If he’s into art, film, or other creative pursuits, compliment his work and show genuine interest.
Share food and appreciate his gestures. The saying “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” holds some truth. Surprise him with his favorite dessert or a homemade treat. Ask about his preferences and ensure he’s not allergic to what you bring. You can give it to him as a snack, with his lunch, or to take home.
- If he asks about your favorite dessert or food, don’t hesitate to share. Relationships are a two-way street—it’s not just about you doing things for him. If he makes something you can’t eat due to allergies, thank him for the thought and suggest he share it with friends.
- Simple treats like cookies or brownies are easy to transport, while cakes might be more challenging.
- If you’re unsure how to bake, ask your parents for help or guidance.
Support each other. Helping your boyfriend when he needs it is a thoughtful gesture, and he should do the same for you. Offering assistance when he least expects it can be especially meaningful. The type of help you provide depends on the situation and his needs. It could be as simple as lending him an extra pencil before a test.
- Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it. Mutual support is a key part of a healthy relationship.
- If you notice him struggling to carry his books, offer to help by holding a few for him.
- If he’s stressed about a project, gently offer to assist. Avoid helping him cheat, but easing his workload will be appreciated.
- Help him prepare for a test by studying together or quizzing him beforehand.
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Pop a breath mint before getting close to him or kissing.
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Relax and be yourself around him. If he’s your boyfriend, he already likes you for who you are—no need to change your personality.
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Wear something that makes you feel confident. He’ll likely love your outfit and be drawn to your self-assurance.
The advice in this section comes from the real-life experiences of Mytour readers like you. If you have a helpful tip to share on Mytour, feel free to submit it in the field below.
- Ask politely before kissing. Move closer, make eye contact, and say something like "Can I kiss you?" This shows your interest while giving him the chance to agree.
- Talk to him if he seems unsure about physical affection. Let him know you’re okay with taking things slow and will wait until he’s ready. Avoid pressuring him.
- Show support by attending his important events or games, but understand if he can’t make it to yours. Relationships require give-and-take, so don’t take it personally.
- Keep public displays of affection brief and subtle during school. A quick handhold or a fast hug is better than prolonged contact.
- Laugh together about awkward moments. Being able to joke about mishaps or embarrassing situations makes you more relatable and fun.
- Offer genuine, specific compliments about things he puts effort into, rather than generic flattery. This shows you appreciate his hard work.
Warnings
- Never pressure your boyfriend into anything he’s uncomfortable with. Stop immediately if he asks you to.
- Don’t do anything that makes you feel uneasy. Your boyfriend shouldn’t push you into situations that make you uncomfortable.
