How to Get a Boy to Like You at School

Sit near him in class. Even if your teacher doesn’t allow a lot of talking, sitting close to him will increase your chances of conversation. You'll have more opportunities to interact than if you’re sitting far apart. For instance, you might need to borrow a pencil or exchange papers.

• If you don’t share classes, or if seating arrangements are assigned, try to sit close to him during lunch or find opportunities to chat during breaks. A simple "hi" in the hallways can also help!
• The more time he spends around you, the higher the chance he'll develop feelings in return. Additionally, this gives you the chance to use body language to your advantage, which will be explained shortly.

Decide on what to say. Talking to someone you have a crush on can feel intimidating, but it’s a surefire way to grab his attention. It helps to have a general idea of what to say, though. Rather than memorizing every word, just think of a few key topics to bring up.

• For example, you might want to ask about something related to school, like a homework question, or comment on an upcoming assignment.
• Avoid sounding too rehearsed. The more natural and easygoing you come across, the better. This is best achieved by not memorizing a script.
• Keep it relaxed. Instead of saying, “Hi! I remember you love [TV show]. Did you watch last night’s episode?” try something more casual like, “Hey, you watch [TV show], right? Did you see last night’s episode?”

Start a conversation. This is a great way to show him you're friendly and interested in getting to know him better. You can use something around you as an icebreaker, like the unpredictable weather, a dull homework assignment, or a new movie hitting theaters. Asking a question can keep the conversation going.

• Ask questions that can't just be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." For example, try: "What do you think of the project?" or "What’s your plan for tackling the project?"
• Try not to worry too much about sounding perfect or what he thinks of you. The conversation will flow much easier if you're relaxed.

Discover shared interests. If you both root for the same sports team or watch the same TV shows, bring it up in your conversations. If you noticed he was eating your favorite flavor of chips at lunch, mention it. It doesn’t matter what it is—shared interests are an excellent way to start conversations that could lead to deeper connections. If he sees you share similar tastes, he may be more inclined to like you!

• If you don’t have anything in common yet, create some! For instance, if he wore a band shirt to school, listen to their music and casually mention it in conversation.
• Just don’t pretend to like something you don’t. If you're not into that band, don’t fake it. Instead, you could ask him for suggestions or check out other bands in that genre.

Angle your body towards him. Turning your body toward his sends a friendly and inviting signal, often without him even realizing it. When you talk to him, make sure your legs are facing him. If you're sitting in a chair, gently swivel towards him. If you’re standing in a group and he joins, shift your stance so you’re subtly turned toward him. Make sure your body naturally faces wherever he is.

• Don’t make it obvious that you’re adjusting yourself to face him. Keep it smooth and natural.

Flash a smile. A smile radiates positivity, and a warm, genuine grin can easily catch his attention. There's no need to force an exaggerated smile, but try to smile often when you're around him. Whether it’s when your teacher cracks a joke, your friend borrows a pencil, or when you simply see him—let your smile show that you’re cheerful and approachable.

• Fake smiles are easy to spot, so aim for an authentic expression. Think of something funny or happy to make your smile feel real.
• You don’t have to smile all day long, but a natural smile in response to something that makes you happy will always be well received.
• Reader Poll: We surveyed 147 Mytour readers, and 82% of them agreed that smiling boosts your mood. [Take Poll] Just a simple smile can help you feel more relaxed and confident, and it can have the same effect on your crush!

Use casual physical contact. Don’t go overboard—there’s no need for a dramatic kiss on the cheek or patting his back while he’s studying. Instead, focus on light, casual touches. When he says something funny, lightly brush his arm as you laugh.

• For instance, a gentle tap on his shoulder to get his attention, or brushing his hand when he hands you something, can make a subtle but lasting impression.
• Avoid being too forward. A little physical contact is enough to catch his attention without crossing boundaries.

Mirror his actions. This technique is a subtle yet effective way to make him feel more connected and comfortable with you. It’s simple: observe his body language and mirror it. If he leans in toward you, lean in as well. If he’s standing against a locker, do the same. If he runs his hand through his hair, wait a few moments, then mimic the action. It’s easy, and it works wonders.

• Be sure to wait 3 to 4 seconds before mirroring his move. You don’t want to mimic him too quickly—this will come off as awkward rather than charming.

Ask him to join in. This doesn’t have to be an overly romantic gesture—keep it casual. You could invite him to see a movie with a group, or suggest working together on a homework assignment. Maybe you could even ask if he wants to meet up at a school sporting event or a local hangout. It’s not about the event, but about showing that you want to spend time with him outside of school.

• If he turns down your invitation, don’t worry. He might just be shy or busy. But if he repeatedly declines, it may be time to reconsider.

Find ways to spend more time with him. Sometimes there may not be a particular event to invite him to, but you can still create opportunities to hang out. For instance, if you walk home from school, consider adjusting your route so you can walk with him. Ask him to study together or team up on a project if you're in the same class. You could also join him during his break activities. With a little creativity, you'll definitely come up with ways to spend more time with your crush in person.

Become friends with his circle. This is an important step. If your crush is always hanging out with the same group, it helps to connect with them. By being part of his social circle, you'll have more chances to see him outside of school events. But this doesn't mean abandoning your current friends or trying to use his to get closer to him. Keep things casual and focus on friendship first. For example:

• Sit next to his friends in class and start a casual chat, but don’t come off as pushy or insincere.
• Compliment his female friends—whether it’s about their backpack or outfit. Don’t let jealousy cloud your judgment.
• Go the extra mile to make his friends see you as a kind, friendly person. If you're hosting a party, invite his friends, not just him.

Be upfront about your feelings. If you think he’s picking up on your signals and you're comfortable around each other, it might be time to tell him how you feel. Let your friendship build a bit before revealing your crush so that it's not overwhelming. He'll likely appreciate your honesty and confidence, and feel flattered. After all, who wouldn’t?

• Some signs that he may be into you include: leaning in close, laughing at your jokes, teasing you gently, blushing around you, wanting to be near you, and asking personal questions.
• You don’t need to make it a deep, emotional conversation. Just say something light, like why you enjoy hanging out with him or what you find attractive about him.
• Choose a moment when you're alone. If you're in a group, try to find a time to speak with him privately.
• You could say something like, “I always have a great time with you. You’re funny and smart, and I think I like you more than just as a friend.”

Let him share his feelings too. Now that you've been honest, give him the chance to express his feelings. You could ask something like, “Do you think you might like me a little?” It might feel nerve-wracking, but it could be the key to finding out where you stand. Be aware that he could be shy, and might not be ready to share his thoughts. Don’t pressure him or demand a particular answer.

• If he doesn’t return your feelings, while it might sting initially, it will save you time and heartache in the long run. You’ll be able to move on without wasting emotional energy on someone who doesn’t feel the same way.