How to Get a Girl to Admit She Likes You

Having feelings for someone can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking. Getting a girl to confess that she likes you is not always easy, especially when you're not yet ready to reveal your feelings to her. Treating her well, flirting with her, and being honest with your emotions are key ways to make her feel more confident in expressing how she feels. Once she feels at ease, she will be more open about her feelings towards you.

Share your feelings with her. If subtle hints aren’t enough to get the girl to admit she likes you, try being more direct. Girls appreciate honesty and don’t enjoy being toyed with, so by taking the initiative, you’ll make her feel more comfortable. Telling her how you feel can encourage her to admit her feelings towards you.

Ask her if she likes you. If you haven’t gotten a clear answer yet, it’s best to ask her directly. Don’t surprise her or make her uncomfortable. Open up about your feelings for her first and ask if she feels the same way. Let her know that her actions have made you believe she likes you, and you just want to be certain.

• You could try saying: "When we talk and spend time together, I feel this amazing connection. I want to ask if you feel the same way because I definitely feel something for you."
• Alternatively, you could say, "I’ve liked you for a while now, and I really hope you feel something for me too. Do you?"

Invite her on a date. A great way to get a girl to admit she likes you is by asking her out on a date. If she agrees, she is essentially showing interest in you. It requires a bit of courage, but if you genuinely like her and want to know if she feels the same, it’s worth the try.

Don’t pressure a girl into saying things she doesn’t truly feel. Just because you like her doesn’t mean she has to like you back. If you’ve expressed your feelings, but she says she doesn’t feel the same way, respect that. Don’t act disappointed or get upset with her.

• If a girl says she doesn’t like you but still wants to be friends, you could say, "I understand. I still think you’re amazing, and I’d love to remain friends."
• If she says she doesn’t like you and you’re not sure if you can maintain the friendship, respond kindly and simply, "I understand. Thanks for being honest with me."

Spend one-on-one time together. If you like someone and are pretty sure she likes you back, it’s important to spend quality time alone together. Hanging out in a group can be fun, but it doesn’t allow for a private connection. Gradually separate from the group to have deeper, more meaningful conversations and better understand each other.

Ask her about her life. Talk about her goals, dreams, family, and interests. Showing genuine interest in her will make her feel more comfortable and open up about her feelings towards you.

• You’ll also get to know her better, which will make future conversations more intimate and easier to spark.

Do fun things together. If you both enjoy doing fun activities together, she’ll remember those moments. Ask her what she enjoys doing for fun, and share those experiences with her. Once she realizes how much she enjoys spending time with you on different occasions, she’ll feel more comfortable admitting that she likes you.

• Creating great memories together is a wonderful way to remind her of how much she enjoys being with you.

Pay attention to her body language. If you’re unsure whether a girl likes you, body language is a subconscious indicator that says a lot. Pay attention to how she behaves around you. She might be too shy to openly admit her feelings, but her body language could clearly communicate them.

• If she’s fully focused when you speak, that’s a sign. In group settings, people tend to get distracted and lose focus, but if she listens intently to everything you say, it could mean she likes you.
• Does she twirl her hair around when she’s near you? Women often use body language to flirt, such as twirling their hair when they’re around someone they like. If she does this often, it could be a sign. Don’t confuse it with a girl just fixing her hair or tying it up.
• Does she sit close to you or find excuses to touch you? A girl will make an effort to stay near you if she likes you. She’ll hold your hand if you make her laugh, always sit next to you, and so on.
• Is she flirting with you? This is the clearest sign. If she frequently flirts with you, there’s a good chance she likes you.

Find out if she talks about you to her friends. When a girl likes you, she will often tell her friends about you. In fact, your friends might even know as much about you as she does. If she can’t tell you whether she talks about you to her friends, there are ways to find out.

• Tell her a story about how you’ve mentioned her to your friends. For example: I told my roommate you’ve never seen The Lion King, and they couldn’t believe it! If you share stories like this, she’ll likely share similar ones on her side.
• Ask her to mention a topic you’re both discussing to her friends. If you’re talking about a book or movie and have some differing views, casually ask her to get her friends’ opinions. If she says she’s already asked them, then she’s probably talked about you with them.

Flirt with her. If you're too shy to openly express your feelings, flirting is a great way to show your affection. Compliment her, tease her, joke around, and make playful remarks about the two of you in a romantic way.

• For example, if she tells you about a bad date she had in the past, you can say, "If you went on a date with me, it would definitely be WAY better," with a smile.
• If you notice she's wearing a new perfume, you can comment, "Did you buy this perfume for me?" Always make sure to say these things lightheartedly and gently.

Pay attention to what she tells you. Listen carefully to the details she shares with you, and use them in future actions. Take note of what she likes or dislikes. If you show her that you're interested in her, she'll be more honest about her feelings towards you. If she's afraid you might not like her, she might hesitate to open up.

• For example, if she says she likes cupcakes, bring her some next time you meet.
• If she mentions struggling with a subject at school, offer to help her out.

Show kind gestures towards her. Women will notice when you do kind things for them, so be kind to the girl you like. Don’t go overboard, as she might feel overwhelmed. Instead, offer compliments and give small gifts 2-3 times a week, rather than every day.

• Kind gestures include giving compliments, buying flowers, rubbing her back or feet when she complains of pain, buying gifts, or taking her out for dinner, etc.

Ask her about dating. Guide the conversation towards romantic topics, such as what qualities she values most in a partner. Ask her about things that might turn her off. When you bring up these subjects with someone you like, she may mention the good qualities you have. Pay attention to whether she drops any hints related to you.

• If you initiate such conversations, the girl may go as far as confessing her feelings towards you.