How to Get a Guy to Invite You Out

Body Language. Body language will tell him that you see him as more than just a friend. Here are a few tips to help you show him you're interested in him asking you out. You can try the following:

• Maintain eye contact. Look into his eyes long enough to make him smile and then look away. Show that you're paying attention to him.
• Occasionally play with your hair. Make it look attractive and as though you like him, not like you're feeling nervous.
• Whether sitting or standing, lean toward him and keep your hands on your hips or gesture to make him feel that your body is always "ready" to engage.
• Occasionally look down at the floor. This will make you seem cute and shy.

Flirting is a great way to take your relationship to the next level and show that you're interested in going on a date with him. You can flirt subtly, offering hints that you'd like to date without being too obvious.

• Talk softly but not too quietly. This will make you appear more alluring and will encourage him to lean in to hear you better.
• Find a way to compliment him smoothly. Let him know he looks great or that he's very attractive without being overly forward.
• Be captivating. Show a little cleavage or wear something that highlights your body's beauty. Remember to be modest (men often like innocent women), but dressing in a slightly seductive way is a great way to catch his attention. You can still appear poised while subtly drawing his gaze.
• Tease him. Playfully poke fun at one of his hobbies or a quirky outfit he's wearing.
• Keep things light. Flirting should always feel delicate and graceful.

Get to know him better. If you want him to know you're interested in dating, you need to indicate that you like who he is as a person. You don't necessarily need to set up a private chat to show that you're interested in learning about his likes and what he enjoys doing. Here are some things you can do:

• Ask a few questions about his hobbies. This doesn't invade his privacy, and men often enjoy talking about their interests.
• Most men love music. Ask about his favorite music genre, and then inquire about his favorite song. He'll appreciate that you're taking an interest in what he likes rather than focusing solely on him.
• Show that his opinion matters. Ask what he thinks about a recently controversial film or a political issue making headlines. Just avoid topics that could lead to an argument.

Leverage shared interests between the two of you. If you share interests, this could even give you more reasons to go on a date. Once you get to know him and realize you have common interests, you can use these as a way to move the relationship forward.

• Music is a great shared interest. If both of you like the same band, you can talk about them and mention that they're having a concert in the city, and see if he'd like to take you along. Emphasize shared interests to give him more reasons to invite you out.
• See if you both like the same sports team. If you're both fans of a baseball team, you could talk about it and casually ask if he's been to any games recently.
• Use food as a topic. If both of you say you enjoy Greek food, ask if he's been to the new Greek restaurant in town.

Let your friends drop hints. Your friends can also assist in making him ask you out without being too obvious. If your friends make a comment at the right moment, it might influence him to invite you out. Here are some ways your friends can help you win the attention of the guy you're interested in:

• One of your friends can teasingly ask him when he's going to gather the courage to ask you out. However, ensure that it feels natural and not like you're directing them to do it for you.
• If you and he are always together, ask one of your friends to casually say, "Oh, here comes my favorite couple again." This may make both of you feel a little embarrassed, but it will show him that others see the two of you as a pair.
• Ask your friend to mention you casually in a conversation to see how he reacts. If his reaction is positive, the friend could suggest that you two should get to know each other better.

Share your plans casually. If you manage to mention your plans in a casual conversation, whether it’s attending a fun party or grabbing coffee during a class break, it can make it easier for him to join in. By mentioning something that might interest him, you can have an easygoing outing that could turn into a date.

• If you’re going to a fun party this weekend, bring it up casually. He might want to come along, especially if you have mutual friends going.
• If you bump into him, you could mention you’re out for a walk or grabbing a snack; maybe he’ll want to join you.
• If you're both walking to class or doing an activity together, subtly bring up that you're hungry or craving coffee. He might invite you to lunch or coffee.
• If you have plans for something fun in the coming weeks, mention it. Whether it’s visiting a bar, seeing a movie, or attending a concert, he might want to join when the time comes.

Let him know your schedule. Sharing your schedule with him is different from just telling him your plans. When you share your routine, it’s more likely he’ll ask you out if your schedules align or if he knows you have free time. Try not to come off as too busy; otherwise, he may think you're unavailable for a date. On the other hand, don’t appear too free, as that might make you seem desperate.

• If you’re both taking the same classes, let him know when you have free periods. If he knows you have a couple of hours between classes, he might invite you to lunch.
• If you’re walking past a bar you like, casually mention, 'I love that place, I always go there to hang out on Wednesdays.' This is a subtle way to let him know he’s welcome to join you.
• If you’re free this weekend, let him know. You could say, 'I’ve been so busy lately, but I’d love to do something fun and low-key this weekend.'
• If you have a favorite café, mention it. You could suggest it’s the best in town and recommend one of its special drinks.

Stay out of the Friend Zone. Make sure he doesn't place you in the 'friend zone,' and you don’t see him as just a friend either. There are a few things you can do to draw the line between 'just friends' and 'more than friends.'

• If he treats you like just a friend, don’t let it slide. Make it clear that you’re not there to be his buddy. If he invites you to hang out with a group of friends, dress up as if it’s a date.
• Pay attention to how he asks for your advice. If he frequently asks you about how to handle a girl or someone else, he may just see you as a friend. Change the subject and show him that you could be his girlfriend.

Don’t make it too obvious how much you want to date him. Hinting that you’d like him to ask you out is different from being too forward about your desire to date. If you’re too obvious, it won’t give him a chance to anticipate things, and it may even make you seem less attractive.

• Avoid showing too much interest in him. He’ll feel overwhelmed, so act normal instead.
• Don’t ask him about dates too often. If he doesn’t respond, he may not be interested.
• Don’t mention how free you are this weekend or how flexible your schedule is. Instead, talk about exciting plans you have coming up. He’ll feel like he needs to make an effort to fit into your busy schedule if he wants to meet up, instead of you waiting to find something interesting to do.

Don't wait too long. If you truly want him to invite you out and feel like suggesting or hinting at your desire for him to ask you out will never end, there are two things you can do:

• Move on. If you have clearly expressed that you want him to ask you out and he still doesn't respond, he might not be interested in you, and it’s time to find someone else who deserves your feelings more.
• Ask him out. If he's really shy but you sense that he wants to know more about you, take the courage to ask him out. If you're worried, you can suggest going out with a group of friends first.

• If you really want him, give him some space. Hang out with your friends and let him see your life. Let him realize how much he misses the moments when you talked.
• Don't bother him too often, as he might think you're annoying.
• Make him laugh, learn about him, and then start dropping hints.
• Avoid talking, texting, or calling him repeatedly as this might make him run away from you.
• If there’s a dance event coming up, try hanging out with him alone. Men often feel nervous when you're with him and his friends, especially if he wants to ask you out.
• If he replies that he doesn't know what kind of girl he likes when you ask him, it might mean he likes you but is unsure whether he should or how to express it.
• When talking to him and feeling confident, try breaking the touch barrier—if it's just the two of you, you can lightly tap him! Be gentle though, you don’t want to hurt him! Then you can give him a friendly hug and see how he reacts. If he holds on longer, you’ll know he feels something for you. You can also gaze into his eyes, but don't stare too long or he'll feel uncomfortable.
• Hang out with him regularly and don’t treat him like other guys.
• He might not like you. If that’s the case, you can't force him to date you. There are plenty of other guys out there.