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It can be a little challenging to get a guy to ask for your phone number, whether you're chatting with your charming coworker or the handsome guy you met at a party. You need to show him you're interested while subtly suggesting that you'd be open to hanging out. The key is striking the right balance—making it clear you're into him without coming off too eager or indifferent. So, how do you make him ask for your number faster than you can unlock your phone? Check out Step 1 to get started.
Steps
Demonstrating Your Interest
Be playful. Playfulness is a great way to flirt subtly. Often, a guy might hesitate to ask for your number because he’s unsure whether you’re into him. It’s your job to give him the signals that you’re interested and would love to see him again. To show playfulness, tease him a little, gently touch his arm, and make sure to keep things lighthearted.
- If you're out, feel free to dance with him without making things too serious or intense. Keep it fun and relaxed.
Flirt with him. Don't hesitate to flirt a bit, but avoid going overboard. To flirt, you can twirl your hair, lightly touch his arm, and laugh just a little more than usual. Just be careful not to overdo it, or he may feel overwhelmed or think you’re too eager. Here are some other ways to flirt:
- Give a subtle compliment. Mention you like his shoes or his smile, but keep it casual. Complimenting him by saying "OMG, you're the hottest guy I've ever seen!!!" might make him uncomfortable.
- Lower your voice. Speaking softly can make you sound mysterious, and it might even cause him to lean in closer to hear you better.
- Keep it light. Flirt, but don't make it too intense too quickly. You don’t want things to get too serious too fast.
Use your body language to your advantage. A powerful way to show you're interested is through subtle body cues. The way you stand, move, and gaze at him can signal your attraction. Here’s how to communicate your interest without saying a word:
- Make eye contact. Look directly into his eyes when talking to show that he has your attention. If the moment feels too intense, look away for a while to ease the tension.
- Lick your lips occasionally. This small gesture can let him know you're thinking about him.
- Lean toward him. Angle your body, shoulders, and legs towards him, signaling your interest. If you turn away, he might think you're looking for someone else.
- Touch him lightly. A casual touch on his knee or forearm can signal you’d like to see him again. Just a gentle, playful touch works wonders.
- Use hand gestures while speaking.
Ask him a few questions. Show you care about him by expressing interest in his life and thoughts. Of course, asking deep or philosophical questions like his beliefs on life after death might not be appropriate in a club setting, but in any environment, being curious about who he is and how he thinks can reveal your attraction. Here are some light questions you can ask:
- What are his hobbies and passions?
- What kind of music or movies does he enjoy?
- What sports teams is he into?
- What does he like to do for fun on the weekends?
- What are his thoughts on something that matters to you?
Dropping Hints
Bring up your shared interests. If you want to encourage him to ask for your number, talking about mutual interests can provide a natural opening. This gives him the perfect opportunity to suggest hanging out and asking for your number. Here are a few ways to mention shared interests that may prompt him to make a move:
- Talk about a movie playing in theaters that you both might enjoy. He might seize the chance to ask you to join him.
- Discuss a band you both like. If you’re talking about music, mention a band performing nearby. Saying something like, "Have you heard of Animal Collective? They're coming to town soon" could spark his interest.
- Bring up sports. If you’re into sports, mention something like, "I’ve been following the As for years but haven’t been to a game yet." He may then invite you to come along.
- Talk about food. If you both love a particular cuisine, mention a new restaurant or a spot you've been dying to try. He might take the hint and suggest going together.
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Share your upcoming plans. Talking about something you're doing in the near future can make the guy more likely to ask for your number, as he may want to join in. Casually bring up your plans during a conversation and see if he expresses interest in tagging along. If he does, he'll almost be compelled to ask for your phone number. Here are a few things you could mention:
- Mention a party you're attending over the weekend. He might want to come along.
- Talk about a fun class you're taking, whether it's kickboxing or rock climbing. He may want to give it a try.
- If you and some mutual friends are planning a weekend getaway, casually mention it and see if he wants to join in.
Let him know you enjoy spending time together. You don’t need to directly ask him for your number to give him the hint. If you’ve been hanging out for a while—whether it’s after school or during a long lunch break—you can make casual comments that will make him want to spend more time with you. Here are some things you could say:
- "I always have such a great time talking to you."
- "This conversation has been so much fun. I can't remember the last time I laughed this much."
- "It's so easy to talk to you."
- You can also subtly let him know you’re not in a relationship. He might hesitate to ask for your number if he thinks you're already taken.
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Take out your phone. While it's important to remain engaged in the conversation and not be rude by texting or answering calls, you can subtly hint that you'd like him to ask for your number by pulling out your phone for a moment. You might do this to check a text or to show him a picture of something like your cat.
- By pulling out your phone briefly, you’ll make him realize that you're a girl with a phone, and it might prompt him to ask for your number.
- Just make sure you don’t keep your phone out for too long, as it could give him the impression that you’re not that interested in him.
Leave when the conversation is at its peak. If you want him to ask for your number, don’t overstay your welcome until the conversation fades out. Wait for the chat to be flowing, and before there’s a lull, excuse yourself with something like, ‘I really enjoyed talking to you, but I have to run.’ If he's into you, he’ll respond with something like, ‘I’d love to continue this conversation soon’ or ‘I’d like to spend more time with you.’
- If he gets the hint, he’ll ask for your digits. If not, don’t worry — it may take him time to work up the courage.
- If you’re sure he likes you but is too shy to ask, why not take the lead and ask for his number yourself?
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Exude confidence, but make sure not to appear desperate, as that will turn him off.
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Don’t make it awkward. If he does ask for your number, just smile and nod. There's no need to freak out.
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Stay true to yourself. You don’t need to change who you are to approach him. Just be yourself and easygoing.
This advice is based on the shared experiences of Mytour readers like you. If you have any useful tips, feel free to submit them in the space below on Mytour.
- If your crush seems hesitant to ask for your number, don’t take it personally. It could be because he’s shy. If you really like him, consider taking the first step and asking for his number.
- If he hasn’t asked for your digits, don’t stress too much. He might just be on the shy side. But if you’re really into him, think about being bold and asking for his number yourself. Be confident and go after what you want!
- If you got his number from a friend, avoid messaging him immediately. Wait at least a week to reach out so you don’t seem overly eager. Also, don’t let him know you already had his number.
- Be patient when texting a new crush. Don’t text him too frequently, or he might think you’re desperate. Let him initiate some of the conversations as well. Show interest, but not desperation.
- When flirting with your crush, try to do it without the presence of your friends. They could distract him or make you feel self-conscious. Focus on building a one-on-one connection.
Warnings
- Be cautious about who you consider getting involved with. Some guys may only be interested in your looks or a casual fling. If you're seeking his number, it's likely because you're looking for something deeper and more meaningful in a relationship.
