How to Get Him to Admit He Likes You

Just thinking about that guy immediately makes your heart race and your palms sweat. When you're attracted to someone, whether you've known them for a long time or have only just started talking, your first instinct is to wonder if they feel the same way about you. Once you understand your own feelings, it's only natural to want to know how he feels too. There are various ways to encourage him to open up, so you don't have to sit around anxiously guessing. Once you understand your guy better, you can figure out the right approach.

Check to make sure he's not involved with anyone. You surely don't want to interfere in someone else's relationship by trying to get a guy who already has a girlfriend to admit his feelings for you. You probably also don’t want to get your hopes up for a guy who is in unrequited love and might be pursuing someone else. It doesn't take much effort to find this out. You can easily gather information from friends, social media, or simply ask him directly. Here are a few questions you can ask to help find out:

• If you're feeling brave, ask him during a conversation if he's seeing anyone. Just casually ask, 'Are you dating anyone?' or 'Are you interested in someone right now?' Simple questions like these won't reveal your feelings.
• If you can't ask him directly, either because you're shy or because you don't see him often, try asking a friend who might know about his situation. Mention him in passing and ask, 'Do you know if he's seeing anyone?'
• If you can't ask anyone, check if he has his relationship status listed on Facebook or other social media platforms.

Understand his thoughts on dating and relationships. Once you realize that he's 'free,' the next step is to figure out his views on love. This will help you determine whether or not you both share the same outlook on dating. It's important to be subtle and find an appropriate time to talk to him privately. Here are a few questions you can ask about dating:

• "When was your last relationship?"
• "Do you enjoy dating?"
• "Do you go out on dates often?"

Keep the conversation light and fun. When you're together, try to create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere to see if he likes to joke around with you. You can even playfully nudge his shoulder to see how he reacts. If he laughs and teases you back, it's a good sign. Humor is a great way to open the door to a heart that's fluttering for you—it shows you're having fun, and this will make him feel more at ease.

• When he tells a joke, make sure to laugh! That will boost his confidence and give him the green light to share his feelings with you.
• A gentle touch on the shoulder or arm is a friendly way to show that you like him.

Observe the chemistry between the two of you. If you notice that both of you laugh together and understand each other well, there might be mutual attraction. Smiles and laughter are clear signs that there's a connection between you. When he's into you, he'll likely mention your name whenever possible. Here are a few other signs that reveal a guy's true feelings:

• If he's constantly fidgeting with his hands or playing with an object, it means he's excited to be around you and is definitely attracted to you.
• He might admire your appearance and pay attention to small details. This is called an impression, and it occurs because of a rise in dopamine levels.

Build a trustworthy relationship. Make him feel special by showing genuine interest in him. Ask about his passions and future dreams. Be positive and open to whatever he shares, so he feels comfortable. Share your own vulnerable moments so that he knows you trust him.

• Talk about your greatest fears or share your most embarrassing moments.
• If you show trust, he'll feel more comfortable and open up to you.

Listen to him and avoid judgment. Allow him to express his true self. Let him know that you don't judge and that you respect every unique trait about him. The goal here is to build trust between both of you and to help him understand that he can comfortably talk about anything. Guys often hesitate to share their private emotions, and the fear of being rejected makes him cautious. Let him know that you won't criticize or dismiss his feelings on personal matters.

• Guys often open up only when they feel they won’t be judged.

Don't suffocate him. Men generally dislike the feeling of being trapped with someone. If you constantly cling to him, you might end up pushing him away. Even if he likes you, he may hesitate to express his feelings if he’s uncomfortable with your persistence.

• Be patient. He might be hesitant if you come on too strong. This could make him even less open when he's with you.
• Don’t overwhelm him with messages. You shouldn’t text him from morning till night. Make sure the messages between you two are balanced, not one-sided.
• He should be the one to initiate at least half of the times you two go out. If you ask him to hang out and he declines for any reason, next time let him take the lead.

Don’t chase after him. If you pursue a guy in hopes that he’ll confess his feelings for you, he might avoid you. By letting him take the lead in the chase, he’ll feel more excited than if he were the one confessing. This will make him actually enjoy the feeling of you chasing him, rather than being the one doing the chasing! Ease up a bit so he feels regretful about losing you. This will encourage him to share his feelings.

• Don’t show up at his work or home without an invitation.
• If you run into him at a party, don’t stick to him the whole time. Integrate with your other friends and show him that you can handle yourself.
• Some couples only have one person doing the chasing; you probably don’t want to be that person, do you?

Be sincere and humble. When you try to appear overly confident or boastful to hide your true feelings, you’ll make the guy uncomfortable because he’ll sense that you're pretending. If he feels uneasy, he won’t be able to be honest with you about his emotions. Be confident in your true self; don’t brag or act arrogantly, as this will only push him away.

• Don’t put others down or elevate yourself. Instead, offer compliments, listen attentively, and remember that if you make a small mistake, it’s okay.
• If he hears you judging others, he will fear that you might judge him the same way.

Flirt a little with his friends. If you show interest in one of his friends, he might start worrying that someone else will win your heart, prompting him to confess his feelings. You don’t have to go too far with the flirting—just strike up a friendly conversation with one of his friends to make him jealous, and that’s enough. Here are some questions you could ask his friends:

• "What do you like to do in your free time?"
• "What job are you doing?" or "What would you like to do in the future?"
• "What kind of movies do you like to watch?"

Don’t reveal your feelings for him too soon. He may not open up about his emotions, thinking you’re already his, making it unnecessary to express them. If you want him to confess his feelings, try being a little coy by occasionally turning down invites or not answering his calls. This will encourage him to share his emotions with you.

• Create opportunities for him to miss you or wonder what you're doing. Let him have the chance to text or call you first.
• If he asks about your weekend plans, answer honestly but firmly. For example, “I’ll hang out with some friends and watch a movie” or “I’m spending some time with family, but I’m not sure what I’ll do after.”
• Regardless of how you answer, don’t make it sound like you’ll be bored at home, as that might imply you need him too much.

Playfully and charmingly ask him if he likes you. You have nothing to lose by asking him directly. If he’s too shy to admit it, you can simply tell him that you like him. This might prompt him to confess his feelings. If you’ve already built a strong friendship and notice that he often returns your smiles and flirts with you, feel free to ask him. Here are a few suggestions:

• Try sitting or standing close to him and say, “I like you, but I’m not sure if you like me?” or “I really enjoy being with you, and I hope you like being around me too. Do you like me?”
• If he hesitates at first, smile and say, “You like me, don’t you?” He’ll likely give in to your charm.
• If he nods, you’ve got your answer. If he denies it, at least you know where you stand and won’t waste any more time. If he’s thinking it over, don’t worry; he might be organizing his thoughts to respond clearly.
• If you subtly let him know that you like him and would accept his feelings, he may open up and admit that he likes you too.

• Let him show his true self when he’s around you.
• If he teases you, it’s a sign that he likes you.
• Don’t flirt too much with other guys. Yes, this might make him jealous, but it could also make him lose hope and stay silent forever.
• A good sign that someone likes you is that they talk to you frequently, even if they don’t talk to anyone else.
• Enjoy life both with him and without him. Engage in activities that don’t involve him. This will make him see that you’re strong and worth valuing.
• Don’t change yourself for anyone, nor expect him to change.
• If his friends tease him when you appear, it’s likely that he likes you.
• Make sure his friends aren’t around when you ask him if he likes you.
• Don’t stammer or mumble when you’re near him.
• Don’t forget to spend time socializing with your other friends too. Hanging out with him is great, but if you only stay by his side and don’t hang out with your friends, he might think you’re being clingy (and your friends might be disappointed).
• Ask him when you’re alone together and explain why you think he likes you. If you like him too, admit it and then ask him.
• Communicate through eye contact. If he gazes into your eyes when the two of you stop talking, he’s likely trying to read your expression or wants to continue the conversation.
• If you’re busy, just let him know that you can’t meet him right now, but tell him when you’ll be free.

• Don’t pull him away from his friends; this will only make him uncomfortable. Allow him the space to maintain other relationships in his life.
• Don’t stalk him online or constantly check his phone. What will happen, will happen. Constantly hovering over him will only suffocate him.
• Be prepared for rejection, and accept it calmly. If he turns you down, it’s because you two aren’t a match, not because you’re not worthy.
• Never invade his personal space. Give him the space to be himself, and let him know that you won’t always intrude into his private life. This also shows that you understand he needs his own space, just like you do.