How to Get Him to Kiss You

You've started a romantic journey with that special guy, but you're still unsure how to get your first kiss from him? Follow these steps to give him some subtle hints.

Ensure fresh breath before meeting him. After all, maintaining oral hygiene doesn’t hurt. There's nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath or food stuck between their teeth.

Being alone with your boyfriend. It's possible that your boyfriend may want to kiss you, but he's too shy to do it in front of others. The right situation might encourage him to kiss you when you're alone together. If you are with a group or at a party, try to find an excuse to be alone. Approach him, touch his arm, and suggest you need to talk privately. Alternatively, you can take his hand and lead him away—after all, he's yours, right?

• Stay close to him during a private moment. If you don't get close or place something between you two, he might assume you don't want to be kissed.

Do something romantic. You don’t have to arrange a candlelight dinner to create a romantic moment. Any gesture that involves physical contact is enough. If you can add a touch of flirtation, that’s even better.

• Invite him over to watch a movie or a show. Let him sit on the couch first—you can make an excuse to go get popcorn so that he sits down first. When you return, sit closely next to him, leaving him no escape. He might drape his arm around you—a big step closer to a kiss.
• Go on a quiet picnic. While you’re sitting next to him, hold a strawberry or grape and suggest feeding it to him. Move your gaze from his eyes down to his lips and pull back. When you feed him, let your fingers lightly touch his lips.

Encourage him to come closer. If your boyfriend is shy, he might be looking for a subtle way to approach your face. Give him a reason to bring you two closer together. Think of a clever excuse for you both to get closer. Once the distance is reduced, signal that you're 'ready for a kiss.' This move might create a moment he's been waiting for.

• Tell him that you want to see his eye color more clearly, or claim that something is in your eye and ask him to check. Alternatively, pretend that something is on his face—lean in to 'wipe' it off, then look into his eyes.

Break physical boundaries if you’ve been keeping your distance before. Touch his elbow, hold his hand, brush his hair out of his face, or gently place your hand on his knee. Crossing these boundaries will help both of you feel more comfortable with physical contact.

• Once you’ve crossed the awkward boundary, keep progressing. When you laugh, place your hand on his arm. When walking, hold his hand. He might catch on and start holding your hand on his own.

Lean into him. This action will signal to him that you enjoy physical contact and that you feel comfortable being close to him. It's the clearest sign you can give—and leaning into each other often leads to a kiss.

• As you lean against him, rest your head on his shoulder. Interlace your fingers with his and lean back comfortably. All these clues will say, 'I like being close to you, kiss me now!'

Suggest with your lips. Drawing your boyfriend's attention to your lips will surely make him want to kiss you. Do everything you can to make him focus on your lips. A classic move is to gently bite your lip while looking at him.

• Apply lip balm (and make sure he notices). Keep in mind that lip gloss can be sticky and might make the kiss feel uncomfortable. Use lip balm or chapstick if you want to avoid that sticky feeling.
• Apply ice cubes to your lips if it's hot. This not only looks inviting but also keeps your lips as fresh as when you use balm.
• Lick your lips as if savoring something juicy. If you're eating watermelon, ice cream, or anything with a lot of moisture, leave a bit of liquid on your lips and slowly lick it off. Be careful not to look clumsy—you're aiming for a seductive image, not someone in need of a napkin.

Flirt with your eyes. Eye contact is a crucial part of suggesting a kiss with your boyfriend. Look into his eyes and give him a soft smile. Smile with your eyes. Gently glance from his eyes down to his lips a few times, maybe even flutter your lashes a little.

• Additionally, when you're looking into each other's eyes, especially when you're facing each other at a close distance, look into his eyes for a moment then shyly glance down. Look down a little, then lift your gaze again.

Give him a few serious hints when saying goodbye. If you're hoping for a goodnight kiss, this is a key moment. When you're parting, give him a tight hug and place a kiss on his cheek. Afterward, look into his eyes. Even if he doesn't kiss you right away, you've already shown that you're comfortable with kisses and physical affection.

• When hugging, you can rest your head on his chest so he can hold you even tighter. If you do this, wear a touch of alluring perfume—he won't be able to ignore the pleasant scent of you.

Flirt with words. Just because your boyfriend isn't ready doesn't mean you should stop flirting. Flirting helps keep the relationship lighthearted and healthy, and it shows how deeply you care for him. Be mischievous and tease him (but not too much). You can even tease him about not kissing you yet (which is a pretty direct way of saying 'I want you to kiss me!').

• Send him playful texts when you're apart. Cute, humorous messages are a great way to stay charming even when you're not with him. Just don't overwhelm him with too many texts—it can be a turn-off.

Boost his confidence. Guys love to feel like they're the solid rock for their girlfriends—give him that feeling. Even if you don’t need him to open a jar for you, you can still make him feel strong by saying 'Wow, look at those muscles!' This is just another form of flirting, but it will also build his confidence—and hopefully, he’ll feel confident enough to lean in for a kiss.

Be straightforward about wanting him to kiss you. Being upfront has its pros and cons. The benefit is that you'll get a clear response right away, and it shows how confident you are—an attractive trait. The downside is that you might not get the reaction you were hoping for. Maybe he still needs time to overcome his shyness, or perhaps he's not into kissing as much as you thought. Either way, you'll get an answer, and it’ll also ease his pressure to figure out what you want.

• You can make your request both direct and seductive. When you're hugging goodbye, move close enough that your lips brush against his ear, and whisper, 'Kiss me' or 'I want to kiss you.' The combination of what you say and the sensation of your lips near his ear might give him the courage to kiss you.